My girlfriend and I had sex about a little over a month ago. She got on the pill right afterwards I believe. I wore a condom as well. I live long distance at college, btw. I see her like once every other month or so.I got sick after I saw her recently (like 6 days ago), and we didn’t have sex this time, and shortly after she got sick too. She’s sick right now and she’s been throwing up a lot lately and has a fever/headache, and some cramps, and I think her breasts are kind of tender. She says she never throws up when she’s sick though, and I didn’t throw up when I was sick. She told me when she was little she has surgery on her kidney or something, and she had these same symptoms from before the surgery so she’s starting to think its that. I’m just worried that she might be pregnant. But I don’t know what to think. I mean I’ve been reading up on this stuff and birth control also has side effects of nausea, headaches, breast tenderness, etc so I’m confused to which It could be, they have the same beginning effects. Help…Also how late could you be to have a safe abortion?
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Really confused.
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It sounds like you had the flu, and you gave it to her. Fever is not a symptom of pregnancy.If you've been reading this site for any length of time, you know the drill for pregnancy testing. Has she missed her period? Most pregnancy tests will work within a few days after a missed period.But I wouldn't worry about any of that until she recovers from here illness.
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well, if she IS pregnant, when can she get an abortion? Im not saying im going to make her have one (if she is) im just saying that i want to know our options...
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I think its any time in the first or second trimester, or before it gets legs and arms or something like that
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ok so she went to the doctors today to find out if what she has now is what she had when she was little. They doctor said she has "reflux", wich is what she had when she was little so theres that answer! Fwew! you have no idea how much ive been stressing over this! I mean im 19, shes only 16 and im not ready to be a father yet, i need to finnish college and be in my career and be financially stable before that.anyhoo..yea thanks guys for ur input!
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I'd be real careful if I were you. I believe that the age of consent in California, if that's where you live, is 18. That would make her jailbait. You could get in some serious trouble if it were found out that you were having sex with a 16 year old girl. They call it statutory RAPE.
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im aware of the laws. Her mother adores me and "can't wait for us to get married" or whatever. This whole situation makes me sound ir-responsible, i know, but im not.
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Just don't get cross-ways with her mother, if she knows what you're doing.
