Tell Me How Wrong and Immoral This Is

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So yeaaaaaa lol Anyways, there this girl...and this girl IMed on AIM 3 years back. We talked for a couple of months on and off, even though she was young. How young you ask? 15. How old was I? 20 She was suppppperrrr hot, but there was no way in f*** that I was even going to think about that one for the many of reasons. However, I end up giving her my number and Im like yea maybe when you grow up give me a call sometime jokely When then out of nowhere I dont see here anymore. 3 months pass on and I see her online once, said a quick Hi, but that was basically it and I havent seen her online since. However, ever 6 months or so shed call me out of the blue. And Im like hey you? Ummmm who are you again? And she be like its me Natalie from online. And Id be look oh hows it going and such, then we wouldnt talk for another 6 months until she called me out of the blue. Well it was around that 6 month point now and she gives me a call and told me Hey Im at the job you told me that you work at, are you working today. And I was like no Im at my other Cafe job down the street, why dont you swing by an Ill hook you up with a drink.So she finally makes and as soon as she walked in I looked for signals in her face to see if she was like "Oh this isnt how he looked online or how I expected him to look", but no such expression prevailed. While it was a little ackward, we got a conversation going and talked about a couple of random things. The whole time I was like damn this girl looks like Ashley Simpson she is so hot. Then before I know it shes like well I gotta go, so I give her a hug and shes liek yea if you ever want some free food at the restaurant that she works at swing on by and I said likewise about my Cafe.Then about a half hour later or so, with her still in my mind Im like god damn the girls so freaking hot! But shes 18!!!!!! Ehhhh. Still just the same I texted her and said the following:"You know who you look like...Ashley Simpson lol I was sitting there and thinking about it as we talked. So with the fact known that I think A.S. look super sexy, I was wondering when I could take you out sometime? Ok so what if that was a cheesy line "Then she replied back:LOL oh my god. Everyone says that at Champs. Either that or they say I have the face of britney with black hair. We can go out wheneverThen I worte back: Sweet I get to be seen with Ashley Simpson, how cool is that Ive never been to Champs, but champs is a bar, so is that to say you already have a fake?If so you are such a dork, but yea hows about I give you a call next week when Im free and we set something up?At to which point I didnt get a reply. However it did take me almost a half hour to right the last text cause Im still getting used to my new phone that I got yesterday.But yea shes 18....Im 23. Bad news right? Even if she does hang out with a bunch of 21 and 22 year old guys and is a lot more mature that other girls her age. Also from the text and what I told you, if I did make a move, could you see it going anywhere from the little I told you.....if I should even try to make it go anywhere lol

That isnt wrong at aaaall! Its only 5 years (my parents are like 10 years apart and have been married for... 30 i think, might be longer) If you like her so much i would totally go for it

Where does "wrong and immoral" enter the picture? It's certainly not illegal.You don't have to be 21 to work in a place that serves alcohol, do you?

Yea but both of you parents are and were probably done maturing and going through all the stuff that happens to a person that 18 years old. Its like Ive reacher my plateau (for the msot part ) of maturing and stuff....shes like still a kid in some ways only on the verge or at the begining the the maturing and "welcome to life, this is how its going to be for the rest of your existence, not so candy coated as it seem to be when you were a kid now is it?" process. I dont know I mean doe anyone feel me on that one. I still feel as though it ackward and I shouldnt even be thinking about this.

Its like Ive reacher my plateauI sure as hell hope not. That's what everyone thinks at every age.Is your issues that you realize that you're just interested in her for sex?

Reply to Steve:>>>Where does "wrong and immoral" enter the picture? It's certainly not illegal.Just because something isnt illegal though doesnt exactlly make it right if you have a weird feeling on matters. I dont know I feel like Id be robbing the cradel, no matter how hot she is. >>>You don't have to be 21 to work in a place that serves alcohol, do you? Yea i guess your right

Nope, My parents married when my mom was 18, but it was...They are practically orthodox jews. Anyway, if you think that She is too immature (certainly i wouldnt go out with someone based on their 'hotness') Then, I would stear clear

Reply to Steve:>>>Is your issues that you realize that you're just interested in her for sex? No Ive never been interested in a girl just for sex. I mean sure yea there might be a really hot girl that a total bitch where I might be like damn Id totally like to hop in the sack with her, but in the end I never would cause shes a bitch. Does that answer your question?

No. I still don't understand what your interest is in this girl, other than that she looks like Ashley Simpson.

Reply to Java:>>>"They are practically orthodox jews"Their situation all makes sense now lol

Yup, saw it in Fiddler on the Roof.

Maybe cause I havent been in a relationship for a while and it seems like shes might be interested in me. Plus I like that fact that she had the guts to call me every 6 months and still sound coinfident while talking to me on the phone. I mean not only did I feel special, but I though she was pretty daring to do that beign that we really never met or hung out before today.

Would that be a bad reason?

I didnt mean it in a fiddler on the roof way, i meant it like her parents wanted her to get off to a good husband and walla there was my dad, they dated for two years and got hitched lmao

I say, Go on a few dates with the girl and see what happens!

Then don't be prejudiced, and go out with her. No one is telling you to marry her. If you like her, keep going out with her. If it turns out that you don't really like her "that way", then stop going out with her.I guess I don't see what the downside is. What do you see as the downside? I still don't understand the "wrong and immoral" thing. What are you afraid of?

True I guess I will jsut have to give it a try and see what happens.Reply to Steve>>>What do you see as the downside? I still don't understand the "wrong and immoral" thing. What are you afraid of? I feel as though Im more mature that her, I mean shes not super immature, but she is 18 and I mean come on that says somethign right there. As far as it being wrong and immoral to me, I think its because I think maybe shed be better suited with someone younger than me and that I have no business to be entering the arena of a relationship with her. As far as being afraid...I have a feeling I definitely wont mix in with her friends that well that are her age and I dont know if Im going to like all these 23 years that she hangs with. She told me she hung out with them even when she was 15. To me I could just see them being shady people, cause come on at the age of 21, 22, or 23 no one should not be hanging out with a 15 year old on a daily basis. Finally Im afraid that she wont connect with my friends. Better yet, while I dont think my friends will make fun of me, I think in the back of their head they will be like why is my friend dating such a young shit. Oh and then there is always the fact that both her parents are cops, so I dont know how it would go over with them seeing her daughter with a 23 year old. Things kinda becoming a little bit more clear now? I knowwwwww Im thinking way ahead, but I just like to look at the angels before I get involved.

No. It sounds like your afraid of what her friends will think, what your friends will think, what her parents will think, what the old lady down the road will think. It's all speculation. If the situation sucks, then you can get out of it. It sounds like you're working overtime manufacturing excuses not to go for it.

And please don't get carried away with how mature you think you are. Seriously, dude.

If you're not planning to jump into bed with her, and you're not going to ask her to marry you, what does it all mean anyway? There's nothing immoral about going bowling together. I wouldn't worry about depriving her from some other relationship. She's 18 and has plenty of time to date lots of people.

And please don't get carried away with how mature you think you are. Seriously, dude.LMAO ok pops =PAs far as excuses go. Yea maybe Im just trying to make them up in my head, because I just dont want to get stiff armed with another heart breaking blow after having just gotten over one from the summer. Plus Im a very shy nervous guy, so for the first couple of times we go out shes going to have to be able to deal with that otherwise its goign to be a no go....which ends up being the case Id say with 60 percent of the girls I go out with. I know your probably say, well from a guy who thinks hes so mature and from the stand point of him thinking that the girl isnt as mature, how can he be nervous and lacking coinfidence...its just the way it is man.

It'll be the same thing with any woman. The only courses to take are to either stop dating altogether, or push yourself and do it.Part of maturity is not worrying so much about useless stuff.

mean sure yea there might be a really hot girl that a total bitch where I might be like damn Id totally like to hop in the sack with her, but in the end I never would cause shes a bitch.I feel the same way.