Turning point.

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Wrong thread Steve, soulmates is the other one. This is realisation of development.

Anything, Whats your interperatation of soul mates

D'oh! I almost accidentally hijacked this thread.

Is someone having a connection between a turning point and a soul mate?

Wooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!

In reply to:Is someone having a connection between a turning point and a soul mate? I have a man who i cant stand to be away from for two minutes, He challenges me and makes me want to be better at everything, who is funny and intelegant and mature.At school im doing wonderfully, taking a semester off won't hurt me at all, Im doing amazing things with my life already. Traveling, ect. Ive finally had some peace with my religious (or there lack of) beliefs. Its like, Im in a whole new section of my life. I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Now, All im worried about is if its the calm before the storm. I even talked to my dad the other day and had a fun conversation.

hey, a mention about coffee in the midst of a reply to a question DOES NOT a hijack make Bob............it was you and dutch that hijacked this thread, don't bring me into it.............java, hon, it wasn't me, i did answer...........

Shhhh.... we're not allowed talk in this thread!!! I'll meet you in the back.

in reply to:Dutchlady, are you autistic?Heck yes, but only on Sundays! ROFLMAO!!

Java,It sounds like a lot of good things are going on for you. Enjoy them, without worrying too much about it being the calm before the storm. The storm will come at some point, if it is going to come. The guy you are with sounds nice, and if school is going well, then ENJOY. Have a conversation with your dad is pretty neat. I never got to that point with my dad as he died while I was 12.As for getting what you need, vs getting what you want... I'm inclined to believe that getting what you NEED is better...

LOL!! Quite!!! Bob, quit trying to pretend to be forced into hijacking! And I too answered before I joined the hijack! LOL!

"Have anyone gotten a feeling, where you're at a turning point? Where, Your one person for ever but your changing and evolving. Then, one day, You get the sudden realization your not that person you used to be, But someone different? Like your not really a child anymore but you've just started on adulthood? You don't really feel like to doing the same stupid stuff you did as a kid anymore, and you have this sort of...calm. Knowing that your over the hill of being a kid, that your a true individual now."I an attempt to get your thread back on track and in answer to your question. Yes I have been through this many times and for different reasons. Sometimes those reasons are positive sometimes they're negative, but the result is always the same, becoming a more complete person. It seems to me, from my short 31 years of experience, that at first these epiphanies of self awareness are positive and life affirming but as you age, the changes & challenges life presents are different and you evolve & mature for different reasons. You start out living childhood and suddenly realize child hood has remained behind. The fleeting moment of being a teenager flashes by. Then, the sudden realization your an adult then marriage, parenthood, all great, tap root type, reasons for change. However, change and growth have another root as well, as I'm sure you well know. Many of those are rather frightening. The realization that you don't mean as much as you thought you did, to that friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, parent, child or spouse. The death of a parent and probably even harder, at least for me, changing roles with a parent, becoming the care-giver, the child you've wanted that may never come, the constant shifting of goals, the realization that you will not realize that dream, the further realization that you will not realize even a part of that dream. All these are roots of growth, and all must be embraced even when that embrace hurts.Always remember that even those changes, that hurt, are full of the stuff of growth. Be glad that you knew and listened to dad before he died. Take pride in the fact that you have sacrificed to care for an ailing parent. Realize that those dreams and goals really weren't all that important. Realize that the difficulties you have transversed and what you have achieved is far more rewarding than anything you could have ever imagined. Be proud in the things that society puts little value in, they are often more difficult and generally more rewarding and they are the things that have produce the person you are. The high school grade card is soon forgotten, but the experiences from that age, that society did even know existed, make you who you are and stay with you for ever. And, it remains such throughout life. Growth comes not just from experience but from the realization that those experience's have changed you. In the end all you are is the sum of your experiences and the slow genocide, in the path that is life, is worth every step and finally, the journey is the reward.How's that Java, obviously I'm in a rather down mood today. As down as this post may sound, I don't mean it as such. I guess, more simply, I'm just trying to get across that all experiences, positive or negative, have value and that the exuberant pride of achievement is fleeting, but the content pride of the effort put forth, is what will bring contented resolve to the soul.

Wow... that post was just... wow... that was a good post OldFolks ^_^ All the positive & negative experiences that have happened in my life so far have made me a better person, they helped me grow into the woman I am today (and I know that I have a lot more growing up to do before it's all said and done). I remember when it finally hit that I wasn't a little child anymore but an adult, it scared the crap out of me, and it still does at times because I don't know what the future holds for me. A lot of the "bad" things I lived through helped me realize that I shouldn't take everything for granted, that I am a very lucky person to have all that I've got. I've learned that you should live every day to it's fullest and quit trying to live my life by someone elses standards, because it will only make you misserable in the long run.

my thought on life is ' Everything happens for a reason ' that includes good and bad as we learn from both.........and it might only be in hindsight that we 'get it' and it might not be us that learns from it, what happens to us affects people who interact with us too.