i personally find it difficult to feel pleasure during oral sex. i dont seem to feel any euphoria at all. is oral sex supposed to be as pleasurable as it is for a male? or is it merely done to get the female more aroused? or maybe my boyfriend is just not doing a good enough job?
Females Receiving Oral Sex
some women aren't turned on by oral sex no matter what the guy does
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Some women like it more than others. But if you're feeling "nothing" then he's probably not doing it right.
I trust that he knows where your clitoris is, right? Lol, that's always a good starting point...
my clitoris is exactly where he's been trying to stimulate. i guess i'm not feeling any pleasure from it. i find that in general i am pretty hard to please. like when i finger my clitoris myself, it cant be too dry (starts to hurt) nor can it be too wet. when it's too wet with my vaginal fluid i dont feel anything or much at all. i think that could be the problem...he's making my clitoris too wet with his saliva so therefore i dont feel the stimulation. what do you think?
Hmmm... as Amanda said, not everyone likes oral sex, but you might be onto something with the over-wetness.
You and your bf might consider getting a sex book and experimenting with different methods. It's fun, and you might learn more about your needs and whether or not oral sex appeals to you. There are plenty of good sex books out there.
omg..im having THE SAME problem as you...i dont feel anything no matter what my boyfriend does...sometimes i feel like we're not compatible and it frustrates me cuz i love him so much..its wierd tho cuz when i have my period and i know we cant do much of anything, i get more horny..but when i know that we're gonna have sex im just not into it at all and nothing phases me..i dont know whats wrong..
I had the same problem with my girlfriend. Oral stimulation would sometimes work, but rarely! I didn't know what I was doing wrong, by the textbook it seemed I was doing everything right. However we're all different, and it took me a while to find exactly what she liked, and I'm sure I'll be learning forever.
I find that a tease is always great. Build up tension and don't just go straight down. Stroke from the inside of the thighs down towards the area, or the chest, and just skim over it lightly. Build it up for a while. Also, I don't bother trying to heavily stimulate the clitoris straight after going down, I toy with the area a little, and suck gently on the clitoris. This seems to build up tension and a longing in my g/f. After that it's pretty easy to give her one or more orgasms orally.
It's not just about the clitoris anyway, where would you like your partner's hands to be? Laying on her back, my g/f loves to hold my hands beside her waist, and she pulls me towards her giving me signs to go harder or to soften up. If I pull her down she knows I'm excited (I absolutely LOVE giving oral) and this excites her more. A good atmos. and comfortable environment is a must too. As she's in a vulnerable position she can feel exposed and vulnerable, and this seems to affect the experience too.
Like I said however, it took me many months before I found out exactly what she liked. Even she didn't know. If something worked one day, I'd try it the next and it wouldn't work, and I discovered that what it was must have been a once off. Books and advice don't seem to help much either, but I thought I'd share this with you anyway. Just for the record my g/f is Asian.
I don't really enjoy oral much either. I know a lot of it is because of my insecurities about it. Do I smell ok? How much hair is too much? Does he REALLY like it or is he just being nice? These might have something to do with why a lot of girls don't enjoy oral.
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"...I don't really enjoy oral much either. I know a lot of it is because of my insecurities about it. Do I smell ok? How much hair is too much? Does he REALLY like it or is he just being nice? These might have something to do with why a lot of girls don't enjoy oral..."
I think you're really onto something there suckikitten. My g/f asked me all of those questions and still does. When she thinks about all of these things it naturally ruins the experience. Part of why it took so long was that I had to keep on reassuring her that I indeed loved to do it.
Just build up some trust and I think after a while you'll probably be just fine.
Just to make sure my g/f believed me that I actually enjoy it, I'll often kiss down there after we've finished a session of love making, and are winding down. Even though I know she's satisfied and probably will not come, I'll just kiss affectionately down there with no intentions of it going further. She's quite comfortable now, but I know the things you mentioned play a bit part.
I think you'll find most men are ravenous, sex hungry beasts that enjoy it quite a bit! So sit back and enjoy.
When visiting hotels etc. with my loved one I used to expect a hot night of love making, yet the new environment makes her a tad uncomfortable, and it doesn't usually turn out how I expect. I've come to understand it all though.