Relationship top-trumps

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Had this idea last night whilst laying in bed clutching my bloody nose as a way that you guys might be able to help analyse where I'm going wrong. So I present to you my relationship top-trumps from the past 6 years. All numbers are out of 100.

Ky
Psycho-factor: 30
Attractiveness: 20
Timescale: 1 week; 2002
Still in contact? No
Noteworthy features: Massive slut, emotionless, stalker, two-faced, ghetto lifestyle
Method of breakup: Cheated on me after 3 days, told me after a week
Lingering feelings? No

L
Psycho-factor: 100+++
Attractiveness: 85
Timescale: 5 years, from 2002-2007 (note, no official relationship, on-and-off)
Still in contact? Sort-of
Noteworthy features: Rape victim, mistreated, phenomenally stupid, kind-hearted, manipulative, clingy, mother of 1 child
Method of breakup: 1. Telling me to commit suicide, 2. Telling me she had been sleeping with another guy for 6 weeks, 3. Saying she lied about wanting to be with me
Lingering feelings? Yes, but very limited

R
Psycho-factor: 60
Attractiveness: 20
Timescale: 2 weeks, 2004
Still in contact? Yes
Noteworthy features: Rape victim, messed up past, vulnerable, very common interests
Method of breakup: Still in love with ex, used me to feel better about self
Lingering feelings? We are now actually pretty good friends – no further romantic feelings

E
Psycho-factor: 65
Attractiveness: 50
Timescale: 6 months, 2004 (with short break in the middle)
Still in contact? Yes
Noteworthy features: Not too clever, very immature, outstandingly bitchy, manipulative, lazy, liar, possible nymphomaniac
Method of breakup: 1. “only went out with me because of pity”, 2. “Couldn’t be bothered”
Lingering feelings? Yes – was first “love”

Ki
Psycho-factor: 70
Attractiveness: 80
Timescale: 1 week, 2006
Still in contact? No
Noteworthy features: Rape victim, previously aborted child, massive slut, common interests, “love at first sight”
Method of breakup: She wanted to be with more than 1 person, neither of which was me.
Lingering feelings? Not really

S
Psycho-factor: 25
Attractiveness: 95
Timescale: Present (have known her for nearly 18 years)
Still in contact? Yes
Noteworthy features: Rape victim, mother of 3, still in relationship with father of children, potential soul-mate, extremely kind-hearted, gorgeous, genuine, misguided
Method of breakup: None as yet. Relationship has not started
Lingering feelings? I think I love her.

It weirds me out that so many of them have had abusive pasts. It's almost like I magnetise them towards me.

Most of the women I had anything more than a fling with were victims of childhood sexual abuse or rape. I don't get it but I came to think that it wasn't that what I was looking for I found in them but what they were looking for they found in me.

I also, came to that conclusion because I was never the one to pursue women. I may ask 'em out but not pursue. I just usually let 'em come to me.

Is there anything in yourself that you think all of them might have been attracted to?

I'm extremely caring. I know that's what has caused these girls to be attracted to me.

I guess they see in me what they have never had before. Unfortunately it seems the novelty wears off and they get bored, apart from the girl who I'm "dealing with" at the moment - but then there's different issues at work that are preventing that, and that is what is depressing me at the moment.

I finally find someone who actually likes me for me, and I like her for her, and if the situation was normal I wouldn't even be having these issues right now. But because she's so right for me, and she admits it, but nothing can come of it - it just makes me feel like I'm destined to be alone forever.

I hate the way this works because only a week ago I was perfectly happy being single, but now that she has shown me what I could potentially be feeling, all of a sudden I'm low again.

Interesting post, don't mind if I contribute?


MJ
Psycho-factor: 70
Attractiveness: 80
Timescale: 7 weeks
Still in contact? No
Noteworthy features: Tons of emotional baggage, bad past, aborted child, very easy, un-appreciative.
Method of breakup: Told me she was giving up on relationships, then a week later she started dating somebody else.
Lingering feelings? Somewhat

GG
Psycho-factor: 0
Attractiveness: 10
Timescale: 1 night
Still in contact? No
Noteworthy features: pot head, pill popper, party animal, really stupid.
Method of breakup: It was a one night stand really.
Lingering feelings? Only disgust.

MM
Psycho-factor: 80
Attractiveness: 90
Timescale: 2 weeks
Still in contact? No
Noteworthy features: Beautiful, sexy, high class, groupie, bitchy, soft spoken.
Method of breakup: Started dating a friend behind my back.
Lingering feelings? Yes, mostly anger.

it's funny you say that because I used to be the hard-core girl who hated boys who thought they understood what was going on and tried to "comfort" me.

but back then I wasn't fond of guys like that anyway. They used to call it "taming the wild beast" lol. thank God those days are over.

iv started writing replies like 6 times and cannot word it right. good luck to you man. dont date the sluts, rape victims, drama queens, or crazy ones. they may be fun but they are not worth it. ill leave it at that i cant word the rest.

While I’m glade to see some one stand up for victims (I been holding my tongue or should I say fingers) but I’d like to stress that men can be victims too and women can be rapists.


my girlfriend absolutely adores her rape victim. I know she tells me (that she adores me) all the time. without her..... i dk. feelings are overwhelming and expressing is too hard to say. She’s my light in a world of darkness!

I don't have a problem with it myself. If anything it makes the person a little more in touch with their emotions.

What I am trying to understand, however, is why I only seem to find them. Surely some regular girls are in touch with their emotions as well?

I'm really very, very caring, and am sympathetic to any issues a girl may have had in her past - and in fact I will do my best to try and make them feel comfortable in whatever they are doing. I just wish that sometimes the girl would extend the same courtesies to me once in a while.
This latest girl on my list is doing that, and everything feels so right and perfect and like it's destiny that we end up together, but with her family issues I feel like a horrible person and that I am being selfish...and on top of that there is only the slimmest of possibilities that anything would ever work.

It's almost like I really am not allowed to be happy in a relationship.