ALright so there is this fine ass girl in my music class. I saw her for the first time a month after the class started when we both when up to the professor to ask a question. She was having a hard time understanding the material and my Professor was like "If you need help come to my office, see the tutor, or ask one of the students to help you out, like Tim (me) for instance." I smiled still being shocked on how good she look and my professor totally caught me off guard. I kinda just smiled like a dumb shit without really giving an answer. Stupid me, yes I know. So I never made anythign of that. Plus on top of that I was still heart broken from a girl that I dated and who had also known for a year and a half (we totally cut each other off.) SO needless to say my confidence was low and I was really wasnt looking for anyone, no matter how beautiful the girl looked. On a side note even if I wanted to talk to her, I had a class before hand so I couldnt really get there 5 or 10 minutes early like her to maybe start a convo before class. I could really talk during class cause the professor got ticked off when people talked during his lecture. And after class would have just been out of nowhere.With that said we went to a percussion concert tonight and I was going to make a move afterwards, but knew that anyway Id go about it, Id totally come off as this creepy, stalker person, who waited to the last minute to make a move. As it turned out my professor wanted to talk to me and I never got a chance to her, but just same, I didnt really know how Id approach her without coming off as a weirdo.Well tomorrow is my final day to make a move, cause it is the last day of class. There just one problem, tomorrow we have our final. So with all the tention due to testing, I know its not a good time to talk with her before class and I know if I wait after class outside the room that will come off as me being creepy. My only option I can think of is to write here a note, no matter how childish that maybe.This is where I need to advice...do I take the note route? If so what should I say? Its like I want to make it short, but at the same time I want her to know where Im coming from and why I never talked to her up until now. I also want it to be made clear that Im not this creepy stalker thats had my eye out for her throughout the course of our class. Please somebody, anybody, help me! Thanks guys.
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Asking a girl out of nowhere tomorrow, NEED ADVICE
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You are so hung up on the stalker issue that you will never talk to her, and you will fail by default. Stop worrying about the stalker shit and just talk to her as soon as you can (before the final would probably be a good time to break the ice and say hi and wish her luck, if you haven't spoken to her before that).
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But you know what Im saying...just saying that will never lead to anything...Ill stay what you told me to say...she'll reply with similar response...we'll take the final...and its bye bye after that. Its like Im at the point where I have to make a rash move, but theres really no time for that. So all I can think of is to drop a note at the edge of her desk as Im walking out cause I know Ill get doe with the test before her.
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It might be best for him to just talk to her to arrange some way of talking to her after the final. She sounds like she's having trouble with the material so she may be stressed. It may be easier (on her and him) to ask her out after the final.
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Yea that what I was thinking...with all the tension and nervousness before the test...it doesnt seem like it would be an optimal time...so if I am goign to approach or and say anything it would have to be after class. But how do I do it without sounding like a dork. Say something to the entend of I remember you were having some troubles with some of the stuff, how do you think you ended up doing? I mean then she will give an answer....and then what make a cold move out of nowhere. lol I just dont know hwo to go about it yah know?
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Tim, you're over thinking this.
Steve is right, try to get away from the "stalker" idea. You are a guy, interested in a gal... that's some normal shit buddy.
I can't give you any crazy-majic advice. What you do need to do is talk to her. Don't pass her a note. Ask her if she wants to grab a drink after the exam.
There are 2 important things you should think of in the crazy world of dating...
1- don't mess with someone who is involved.
2- no one, I mean no one, is "unatainable" -
What Im thinking about doing is walking out with her at the same time and asking her how she did while bringing up how I remember colliding paths with her in front of the professor...and then voice how Ive been kicking myself in the butt for not helping her out that one time. What do you think of that? How does that sound?
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Alright Im going to bed right now but if anyone has some last minute advice for me to wake up to in the morning, please dont hesisate to leave it. I guarantee I will definitely end up reading it and most likely make use of it. Thanks.
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it's not bad but you're putting all your eggs in one basket. That "basket" being a moment.Don't leave it to the last opportunity
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You might want to ask her beforehand incase you miss walking out with her. I relied on the same thing with a girl I liked and it failed nearly every time because and over think things and leave talking to her to the last minute. Maybe just talk to her before the exam about meeting up afterwards, something simple and straight-forward.
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[Hopefully she will remember you from the professor encounter.] "Hey Mildred, this has been a tough class blah blah blah. I hope I do OK blah blah blah. Good luck on the test! Wanna [grab a cup of coffee / a couple of games of billiards / walk across the quad / whatever\ after the test?"Don't forget to look at her! Try to make it a point to find out her eye color.
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First things first..."Mildred"?! Who on earth is still called Mildred!Anyhow, main point of my post is directed at PurpleWishBone...my question is this...how many crushes on random girls are you having recently?!I count 3 or 4. Something tells me that:a) you really, really are over your ex...b) you really, really need some rebound sex!c) I rhymed those two lines without noticing at first!
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Well here goes nothing, Im on my way to school and shall know what happens in the next 3 or so hours. Say a prayer for me that I come off with confidence and dont end up studdering my way through my sentences. Ill tell you how it all goes when I find out =0) Soooo nervous.....but I guess I gotta just keep telling myself shes just another human being, maybe a hot one, but still just another girl and even if she thinks Im weird or has a boyfriend at least I can know for myself about what she thinks instead of always wondering. As whoever above me said...anyone is attainable...I agree...just gotta know what to say and when to say and not coming off as a nervous bitch always helps too =) Talk to you guys later. Thanks again for the help.
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Good luck sweetie, I'm keeping my finger crossed! ^_^ I hope all goes well for you hugs
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Thanks for the hug Katie, I coud sure use it right now =PAlright so i basically made the decision to take the route of making it a point to talk to her after class. Before class started I gave her a smile and a slight nod as I went to go sit down in my seat as to say "Hey I remember you from the percussion concert from yesterday." As I waited for the professor to come to class for what was like two minutes, I listened on to what the black guy and her were talking about. And basically there wasnt much going on in the convo other than how they both really werent prepared for the final and how she really knew absolutely none of the vocabulary words from the list of 92 that we had to study among other things. So basically at that point I thought to myself, while that sucks for her, thats good for me, because shell take her normal time of taking a test and Ill get done before her.WRRRRRRRRONNNNNNNGGGGG!!!!! She was like the second one done! What the fuck gives! That wasnt suppose to happen! My guess is that she didnt really know a lot of the stuff so she just gave a bunch of random answers on things making here test time quicker than usual. So there I was on question 70 of 100 thinking to myself...alright as of right now I know I have gotten at least 68 out of the 70 questions right thus far...and being that I am doing extremely well in the class and only need like a 78-79% on the final to get an A in the class maybe I should just fill in these last 30 really quick and hopefully I get 9 out of 30 right. Being that there were 4 choices odds would have it that Id get 7.5 of the remaining questions right and if luck may have it then Ill get and 1.5 right. However, I knew that even though I wanted to talk to this girl badly it wasnt worth jeopordizing my grade. I mean sure if something were to become of it, I guess I might of looked back and said it was worth it, but if nothing happened and or she ended up having a boyfriend and I ended up getting a B in a class to which an A was easily at my grasp I know for sure that Id probably regret risking my A. Its like you got to put your foot down sometime, there is only so much I can do for a girl that I dont know before it ends up in that "getting carried away" catergory. So do I regret it now looking back on two hours ago, no, cause I know I made the right decision no matter how badly I wanted to get to know her. On top of that, I know in my heart that I was going to make a move on her after class even if I looked like a cheeseball and nothing became of it. I knew I wasnt going to let myself back down. So on that note I am kinda happy with myself. In the mean time, as much as I hate to say it, I guess Im going to have to move on and accept the fact that I had a chance earlier in the semester to get to know her but I didnt take advantage of it. In the future Ill learn from that mistake and speak up when meeting a girl I take interest in rather than waiting til the last minute like I did with this one. However, who knows, maybe Ill see her around campus next semester or maybe even be lucky enough to have another class with her, you can never count that one out =) Ill admitt it though Im still a little bummed, I would have rather of been rejected than not get a chance at all to know if there was anything there )=
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Alright so i basically made the decision to take the route of making it a point to talk to her after class.I don't need to read the next 2000 words. I know what's coming. You procrastinated yourself into failure.You way, way, way overthought this thing. Meeting a woman is not the same thing as plannng a war.
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But I didnt over think it Steve...I had an idea of how I was going to go about breaking the ice with her, but things just didnt happen to work out. I mean what could I say or do on the last day of class when she finished the test before me.
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You needed to not wait until the day of the final in the first place. You needed to talk to her after you guys spoke to the professor. You needed to ask the professor for her name so you could look her up and call her, if all else failed. You needed to talk to her before or after one of the many classes you had together. You needed to talk to her at the concert. You needed to talk to her before the test.It was also a mistake to have let the "younger" girl go. You could have used the practice.
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Thanks for telling me what I already admitted to Steve that really makes me feel a lot better )= I know I wimped out eariler in the semester and it shuldnt have gotten to this point, but it did and there really wasnt much I could do on such short notice )=
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The point is: don't do it again.