I hate posting about my own problems unless its something serious that I can't handle with this undeveloped mind.I was just wondering, how can you tell someone to back off and not be too touchy? I mean like if you have someone that you really really love but you feel like they're too... um,... how do I say it? I can't think of the word... too...affectionate. There we go. Just to make sure the person doesn't take things too fast but doesn't get the wrong idea that you want them out the way. Without being rude and just saying "stop touching me" or "get off me". Basically I'm asking how do you deal with situations like that. Sort of easing your way out. I'm getting nowhere with this, am I not? Exactly. Lack of sleep. I'll shut up now. But... try your best. Can you decipher that? Amen to you. I think the Rosetta Stone was deciphered much easier than that.
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Too touchy?
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A perfectly understandable post Tell the person that you really love them, that your relationship is so special and you would hate for it to be rushed and ruined, and that you'd really appreciate if they take things slower, that you would feel a lot more comfortable if they gave you some time and some space as you take things at your own pace....Now i just realized that that would work in a relationship involving a bf etc...is it a lover who's giving too much affection or someone else?
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I think it depends what the relationship is with the person who is being too touchy-feely, and the personality of that person. I'm assuming this isn't a boyfriend going too far, but perhaps a relative or friend - am I right? Often "I'm sorry but I don't like to be touched" might be the right tone.
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Thanks for the advice. It's a friend of mine's boyfriend who seems to roam around alot...
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you can gently tell him that he's crowding you in, and you need your personal space. If that doesn't work, you can tell him that his girlfriend wouldn't appreciate his hitting on you. If that doesn't work, you can tell his girlfriend, and he'll then hopefully leave you in peace.
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My friend's paranoid and very offensive. And he's emotional and defensive. She'll automatically think that I'm "taking her man" and blame me. And he'll just think I hate him. I think he took it the wrong way though I don't know how he could have but he might have thought of something else when I said "oh you know I love you, you're like a brother to me." Guess I should have emphasized the last part. But it's not just me. He does it to her sister, two other friends of mine, and his cousin.
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And he'll just think I hate him. You sure do live in a drama-filled world. You have to make the choice of whether you'll let him be all over you, or whether you're more worried that he'll hate you. I'm not sure what kind friend your friend is if she'll give you crap because her boyfriend can't keep his hands off of you.The problem is that if you give him an inch, he may then take a foot, then a yard, then...
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Yeah I get it. This is the price I pay for going to the type of school I do. But he's done it so many times when he'll play around with someone and they'll tell him to stop or yell at him and he'll get all "I'm so sorry, I didn't mean to, why do you hate me" it's annoying but it happens all the time. That's why I don't like dealing with people like that but yet I can' avoid it. The girl is justlike that I don't know why. Just one of those type of people who thinks everything is everyone elses fault but their own.
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This guy is a manipulator. I wouldn't be too concerned about his feelings. You have a right not to be touched any way you don't want to be, even if he thinks you're being unreasonable. If he thinks you hate him, so be it. It's better than being messed with.
Different cutures and different people have different ideas of personal space. I was in a bar last week, and some guy was getting right in my face. I think he'd had a bit to drink. I put my hands on his chest and gently pushed back. He keep leaning into me, so I kept my hands in place. We didn't have a fight, and he didn't wind up hating me. It all worked out.
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Wow, I just realized I had alot of mistakes in my post. What's happening to me?You're right. I think that's just one of his weapons to get to people. But then I just won't be able to get along with him in order to avoid that sort of situation.
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It depends on what way he is being too touchy.I was kissing a guy , and his hand started going into my pants. I felt things were going a bit fast to start that, so without any words, I gently grabbed his hand and just held it then put it around me. He got the message, and there wasn't any awkwardness.
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Funny. Why do they always go for the pants first? Is it because they think they're going to get somewhere with that? It's never the hands or just a hug or something. Unless girls allow it all the time. That could be it.
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Don't you just hate it when people are too touchy and you just want to say "lay off!"