Hello, I'm a 19 year old gay male who is worried. I am seriously too consumed with wanting sex. I am still a virgin & quite frankly very tired of it. Masturbating is just not enough for me anymore. I want to actually have the real thing. I don't really care if it's with someone special or not.Mostly everyday, I look at porn & masterbate. I've recently started camming with guys on a cam site where you cam with other gay men.I like taking off my clothes & showing my body, I actually get a thrill of seeing other men looking at me pervertly & enjoy watching them jack off to me. It's weird I know but I get a thrill out of it & it disturbs me. I usually like older men at that.. men that are in their 30's or 40's. I really just want to calm down, now I am actually thinking about meeting a guy off the net just for sex. That's how bad I want it.My hormones are just raging & out of control.One time a couple of years ago I spent the night at my cousins house & we slept in the same bed. Of course I was horny so while he was knocked out sleeping, I started touching & feeling on him, he was actually moaning in his sleep. After I do stuff like that I feel really dirty & sleazy but I am really worried about what next that I might do.I'm horny as of right now but I really wish there was a way that I wasn't horny so much..
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Too obsessed with sex & wanting it....
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There's nothing wrong with it. Lost of people really want sex. Even gay people (an example: me)
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True, timtim, but Mysterious is worried, with reason, that he is out of control, doing things that are risky or wrong.
The SSRI anti-depressants reduce horniness in the sense of being able to get hard and cum; I'm not so sure about the mental aspects, though they do reduce obsessive/compulsive thinking, so they may be worth a try.
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Oh, I didn't look at it like that... Yea, I guess this is how a lot of people get STDs... Well, then this is a tough problem. Maybe he should get a sex toy.
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There's nothing wrong with wanting sex or with masturbating. The problem arises when the craving overcomes you to the extent you obsess about it and close yourself off from important things or impose your cravings on what may be an unwilling participant. You reach that point and it becomes time to take matters in hand and find a remedy.While doing stuff on cam offers a thrill of sorts and may provide relief, it is temporary. You are craving the real thing and doing yourself on cam is just a bit more thrilling than going at it alone. So, like masturbating in private, masturbating on cam is going to lose it's lustre sooner or later.But running out and having sex with someone you don't know is definitely a risky way to try to satisfy your urges. Aside from the risk of acquiring an STD, you also put yourself into a situation where things might not turn out as you plan. Now I'm not suggesting everyone you meet is some sort of devil who will abuse or hurt you, but you do need to be really really careful. In fact, until you are really sure what you are getting into and with whom, the best route to go is home, put on some porn and enjoy yourself in the privacy and safety of your room.But I know that isn't going to work for long. So the alternate is to try to meet nice guys who, like yourself, are gay. Date a little, find a bf and then see where things lead. If you take that route, you'll find the sexual activity not only satisfies your physical urges but also leaves you feeling terrific about the entire experience. And that is way better than feeling guilty or dirty or whatever like you do after cam encounters.Just my opinion but hopefully somewhere in there you will find a route to take that suits you.Chuck
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im not a guy but i can feel your pain i feel the same way masterbating isnt doing justice for me!