Has this happend to anyone else?

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OK how many people read anything beyond the first post?

I have already said that he did call me those things once when we were fighting.

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OK i better straighten this out, He only called my a whore and slut one time and they were both in the same arguement. One night he was drinking a little and I got mad at him for not wanting to have sex with me so I started yelling at him and telling him that hes no man if he doesnt want sex. So understandibly he was upset for me attacking him like that. And he did appologize to me for it the second he said it.

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And He does always tell me that he shouldnt be with such a nice girl and hes such a loser and making himself seem like a piece of crap which hes not.

i did read past the first post. Look I don't know how many people you have been with but I will say that he more than likely will have a grudge against you or already has one (whore slut????) I will tell you it will go from amount of people to dick size to positions etc.

He told me that some of my previous bf's told him about the 4 ways I had with 3 other guys and it bothers him. Good thing he doesnt know about my abortion

Look, sounds as if you're into or were into some pretty heavy sexual activity and he's a virgin.(you're WAY to experienced for him) and yes I wouldn't tell him about your abortion that just gives something more for the arsenal. Just being an honest guy

He told me that some of my previous bf's told him about the 4 ways I had with 3 other guys and it bothers him. Good thing he doesnt know about my abortion oh ha ha ha im laughing too.........rolls eyes nice........or not!

I think the sarcasm whizzed right over your head.

I read beyond the first post, I read all of it before I responded.
I stand by what I said. You dont treat people like shit that you profess to care about.
Iv been with my woman for over 2 years and never once have I said anything shitty to her like that nor would I. Its all an early indication of whats to come. If hes like this now then imagine how it will become in the future as he gets more used to you being there with him.
I stand by what I said, nothings changed, lose his ass.
Or dont, its your choice, all I can do is offer my opinion.

totally agree chance, if my other half called me a whore, he would have to beg me to get back in the house LOLand i didn't get the sarcasm either steve, shrugs**bored now

"I started yelling at him and telling him that hes no man if he doesnt want sex."quizzically You love him, huh? That's a pretty fuck'in cruel thing to say to someone you love and who's feelings you supposedly care about. Bullshit, that's a damn fucking cruel thing to say. How do you look him in the eye after saying something so blatantly hurtful and belittling that you aimed directly at his core being.I'm not trying to excuse anything that he said, but it sounds like both of you need a serious lesson in maturity. Do you think it possible, that if neither of you are mature enough (remember maturity has nothing to do with age) to discuss the problem than your not mature enough to be engaging in the act. Rather than just casting about insults and shame, have the two of you tried talking about the problem, when not drinking and in a non-confrontational mature way. Whatever his reason, it sounds like your guy is acting from an place of shame. It could simply be shame of being a virgin. It could be shame of his moral beliefs. It could be shame of being molested. It could be shame of being gay. It could be shame of thinking he might be gay because everyone but him has had sex, ect. It could be shame that he is scared of having sex the first time. It could be that he is misinterpreting his bodies physiological reactions to the psychologist stress he is putting himself under. Maybe momma used to rape him everyday after school, then again maybe he's just an jackass who loves drama and manipulation. The only thing I know for sure is that I don't know and that these are all just wild ass guesses.Whatever his reasons, they are his reasons, and if it is a place of shame that he is acting from its not very likely that he's going to shares the reason of that shame with you. The more a human being cares about someone the less likely they are to admit to that person things that they find shameful in themselves. That's why people seek advise on line and why they seek advice from shrinks they never have to see outside of an office visit.In the likelihood that the problem is something he finds shameful and that he most likely is not going to discuss it with you, you really have only two options. You either stay with him in a supportive manner, hoping that he works through his problems or cut your losses and move on. If he is unwilling to address or at least explain his problems then it is probably best to move on but that decision is yours alone. Whatever your choice, make it with both eyes open and understand what your dealing with and what impact your actions are going to have. One last word of human compassion. If you do choose to stay with him, remember that you know what your getting into. If he doesn't change, there is no point in getting angry with him, you knew what you were getting into, just end it and move on.Anyway, I wish you both the best and hope everything works out for the both of you.

When I read her post, I thought that face meant it was sarcastic, if it wasnt for that, I would of figured she was serious as well.as to the rest I jsut dont think that if you care for someone you treat them like that. Iv been pissed iwth my woman, Im not going to lie and say we have never had a fight, but we have never called each other names or attempted to hurt each other jsut because we disagree over something.Maybe in this case it jsut slipped out, if couldnt of slipped out if he wasnt thinking it already. and Floyd has a point, it is always going to be something, now its that shes a 'slut' and after that its goign to me well Iv only had you and you have had x-amount of guys, am I as good as they all were, ect,ect, its always going ot be something, when its like this from the start it doesnt get better,it only gets worse.I come here for some answeresabout stu i wondered and I got my answers and I direct some people I know here as well for the same reason. People older then yourself have more experience to make judgment calls, you should listen to them when so many say the same thing. I have 2 kids closer to 19 then I am but Iv been thru that shit, I speak from experience when I offer my advice.

Sarah….We can’t tell you what to do. We can only give our opinion on your situation. You can’t pick who you fall in love with, but the signs are pointing towards the “Loser” side of the spectrum. Guys like this usually get worst. A lot of us have experienced someone like this or know someone who has fallen victim to someone like this. You are so much more mature than this guy. You certainly deserve someone who is more of an equal and less of a dictator…Pack up your stuff and move on sister! Let him realize what he’s lost. It’s tough to build a strong loving relationship under his terms and conditions….You deserve something better!