Someone help me, I tried to get this girl, all cute and everything, but everytime i get to her, i can't really say what I want to say. I just can't get her. She's my freind on MSN and I can say what i want there, but in real life where it really counts, i just chicken off trying to show off to her. Someone HELP me.
Someone help me
This is the problem with real-life. :frowning: We plan everything out, but when it comes to the actual time, the plans all collapse. You're not alone!
Try to get something out. It won't be smooth, it won't be suave, but real life hardly ever is. The important thing is to force some words out.
Well, we meet almost everyday but I just can't get the right words out. I can maybe say hi anf bye but when it comes to a conversation..... i say err and uhh. Makes me look stupid You know?Give me some pointers. PLZ
tell her how you feel on the computer to some point and see how that goes, then when you see were she stands, maybe it will give you some confidence in real life.
To be a good conversationalist you don't have to talk a lot. The secret is to get the other person to talk, and to listen well so you can mesh what you say with what the other person likes talking about.
You can start by asking her questions about herself, what she likes and dislikes. You could ask her what she thinks about something at school. Ask "open" questions - questions that can't be answered by "yes" or "no". Listen to what she says, nod your head, say how much you agree at appropriate points, and use what she says to ask follow-up questions. Where it is relevant, add your own experiences or thoughts, but don't dominate the conversation.
Above all, don't be afraid to look stupid. It's part of being human.
I dont know what else to tell u other than just grow some balls and tell her. I dont want to sound mean or nething but thats all the advice i can give. And whatever you do dont tell her u like her online......LAME
I think ineligible hit the nail on the head.
Ask a lot of questions. Focus the conversation on her. What does she do for fun? What are her hobbies? etc. Throw in a thought here and there and most likely she will ask you questions if you asking as well. It's a lot easier to talk when you have an objective.
When it comes to telling her how you feel about her, it won't be easy. It isn't for most men. This is when it's necessary to psych yourself up, grit your teeth, and just do it. Throw yourself out there. The vulnerability is uncomfortable, but look at it on the upside... many women find that very attractive. One thing I alwasy do when throwing myself out there is to keep telling myself to act confident. Make her think I'm not uncomfortable at all. Works like a charm.
Thanks for the help guys, but your advice isn't me. I figured thats because you're missing something very important... my age. I'm noly 11 years old at Middle school. 6th grade with the girl in my class. You have to understand my shyness Cause if i tell her, she'll no doubt tell her freinds and everything is out, the rumor spreads and boom, I'm laughed at, teased, and heartbroken for I am in a battle for her, with another student. I have the advantage of making freinds with her, unlike the other guy. So I'm ahead. But he's more POPULAR cause' It's my first year with that school. Everyone knows everybody, but I don't even know the names of everyone in my class!!
You're 11 ?
for gods sake what the hell are you bothered about getting a girlfriend like this for.........you have LOADS of time, get used to school, grow up a bit, and then think about girls......... </font color>
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Your situation is easy. You have the advantage.
Noone knows you there and so you can be who ever you want to be. You can be the smooth kid that comes in and has all the girls and can talk in front of the class easy, or you can be the stupid kid that cant speak to girls and is bound to be picked on because hes a weenie, or the kid that everyone likes because hes easy going and fun to be around.
You have the chance to change everyone perception of you.
My son came to live with me a year and a half ago, moved 60 miles and started in a new school in a small town. No friends and was constantly picked on in his old school. Me and him had this same talk and he started school out here. Now hes on the basketball team, just finished a season of a bantum league before the regular season started an constantly has friends calling the house and wanting him to sleep over at thier house, always out riding his bike with friends and his grades are better then they have ever been. Its because he chose to be what he was and not what people told him he was.
He wilbe 13 in a few days and was 11 when I got him from his mother. He was never popular before and now is one of hte ost popular kids in his school. He was in 6th grade when he came here.
A new school in a new town is a new chance to be who you were meant to be instead of what you have been pushed into being by the people who used to know you.
You have to be confident in who you are and not feel like your always faking it. ind any talents you have and push them out ront. For my son it was basketball, of course he had some natural ability and has always been the bigget kid in his school. Even in Jr High hes taller then most of the 8th grades and bigger then most of them. Find yournatural talents and use them and if you were a dork in the old school dont be one now. You can be who you want to be andwho you are, here is your chance to do just that, a fresh start in life where noone knows what happened inthe past and all the embarrassing things that happened at the old school are wiped clean. Sieze the oppertunity you have before you and dont worry about this particular girl. WHat would you do with a girl anyways? you cant really take her any place and dont have money to go places.
Be her friend and work towards what could be in high school with her when you have more options. Id lay 20 bucks right now that by high school youll be interested in other girls and have forgot all about how great that particular one is.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
Well, I'm not sure what advice you're looking for if you don't want to go beyond being timid.
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dude, ur 11, this is the time to start focusing on school
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Only 11?!?!?! omg when i was eleven i was worrying about whose yard we wwere gonna play ghost in the graveyard at. Act your age, dont worry about girls. Worry abotu school and having fun before u have to work ur whole life
I don't agree with those people who think you shouldn't be thinking of girlfriends at all, and should be concentrating on schoolwork. At your age schoolwork takes less time than it will later, and I think now is an excellent time to start getting comfortable talking to girls. Just try to keep it light - you are going to change quite a lot in the next few years, and so will the girls, so I wouldn't advise committing to more than close friendship. But I think it's an excellent time to get the ability to talk to a girl before the issue of sex becomes a major force.
However, if you're to talk to the girl you want, you'll need to be prepared to stand up to a bit of teasing. Don't worry about it. You're ahead, and if you succeed you'll get respect. You'll have shown you have elbows. :smile: