The Unofficial Guide to Getting Over Shyness - By MooseThis post is for those of you of a shy nature and who don't know how to talk to the opposite sex. It's a common problem I keep seeing up and all over the place both here and in real life. So this is my sort of "guide" to talking to the opposite sex or getting your point accross to the person you like.Example: "When I try to talk to the opposite sex (or the person I like) I'm unable to get a good coversation going or not say anything at all."Ok, this is a common problem and I've seem it alot both in real life and here. There really is no easy cure for this, only that you must be comfortable around him/her. There are a few pointers however that I've collected that might help people in this position.The Basics:Be yourself (the classic) don't try to be cool or loud because otherwise the person you ike isn't getting to know you but someone else.Try to stay calm, you don't have to talk masses and once you get talking it should become easier.Talk about simple things, simple questions give simple answers then simple questions again back - a good way to get goingOnce you've been talking for a while hopefully you'll forget all this and just interact as you do with your friends - which is goodYou don't have to be funny, having a serious conversation is just as goodThe opposite sex:Once you get to know a few talking to the rest should become second nature.For the special someone you like:Don't use chat up lines, they're cheeseyCompliments are ALWAYS good - sneak them in here and thereDon't go in too fast, there is not huge rush :PDon't go in too slow, someone else might steal themBe nice!A little teasing can be good but not everyone likes it and not in excessPlease note, i take no responsibilty for anything that goes wrong and I do not admit to this being "The ultimate guide" after all it's only my own collections of things I've picked up.If you have anything you think should be included or rephrased/changed PM / E-mail me and I will consider it. Comments would be greatly appreciated!
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The Unofficial Guide to Getting Over Shyness
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no offense, but i dont think its that helpful at all. a lot of its easier said then done, and is kind of obvious, but thats just my opinion.i think the only way you can really get over shyness is to throw yourself into the deep end in social occasions, after you get over that you see its not that bad, it takes practise