Well i dont know if anyone remember my girl situation before i went on my leave of absence here. But anyways, i dated a girl i work with. She was dating a guy for a couple years, we fell for eachother and dated. obviously she broke up with the other guy. Well we knew eachother for over a year and work together, and we dated 4 months. I ended up breaking up with her because of various reasons. Basically i think she was bi-polar, because she would switch moods literally every 10 minutes, i kid you not. Plus she was a hypocrite, she could do anything or say anything she wants to me, but i couldnt do it back to her. And this was with everything. she never saw herself wrong, and i always found myself apologizing even when it wasnt my fault. Well long story short i got sick of it and we were done. However we still talk because we work together. Im currently single and i think i have feelings for her. Problem is i dont know if i have actual feelings or im just desperate because im alone. Now i find out shes back with her old bf, and i had already told her i still have feelings for her. The more i think about it, i think that maybe i just want the sex again. Its tough cuz i see her at work all the time, and she texts me and stuff. Do you guys think that im just lonely and thats why i think i have feelings, and what do you think i should do? thanks
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Maybe im just desperate.
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You really want to know?go out and bone down the first girl that will let you.The decency of the girl is relavant to your soberness.The more fuckered-up you are, the less decent the girl has to be and thats a big help when its a desperate situation and a quiky one nighter is all thats needed.Al the times I felt like that I got over them real easy by gettig ontop of someone new. In one case that didnt do it for me.
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So basically you're saying that i just want her physically because im alone. There is no real emotional attachment?
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I think you just want to get some. Your relationship didn't work the first time. I highly doubt it would work the next time.
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Im suggesting a test.Go get some strange and see if you still feel the same way about the old one
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"Making the same mistake twice is not wise"
Inside you exist two voices. The first voice is you heart. You still have some feelings for her, you miss her and everything good that has to do with her. But, your mind is sick and tired of this situation. She acted pretty bad with you and it was perfectly normal that you decided to break up with her.
So, nothing will change if you try being together with her. She won't change and everything will be repeated like a circle and you will end unfortunately in the same situation. Maybe you feel calm now and you're reconsidering your feelings for her, but after 2-3 months you will be pissed off with her again. So, I would advise you to be strong and solid with your first decision, time will change your feelings and emotions and you'll find another girl.
It's also pretty hard that you're working together. Try being more typical with her and concentrate on your work.
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Thank you very much, what you said hit it right on the nail. Its what everyone has said, and what ive always been thinking, only it was never as clear as u put it. I know im bein stupid and i know itll be a giant circle. i guess im just lonely and i have a hope she will change, but she wont. thank you so much, i just need to stand strong