My gf is great to me , she loves sex and is great at it. But what i love is oral sex giving and reseving.....Here's the problem, my gf loves to give me head she can acually sometimes orgasm from me convulsing when i cum in her mouth. She doesn't like me going down on her even though when i do i have given her orgasms sometimes multiples. She also will not do a 69 even on the side. She would rather pleasure me then have sex. How can i get her to relax and and let her enjoy it on a consistant basis? Sometimes she lets go but i have to encourage her a great deal.
Need help with my GF's self esteem
I don't know the answer to this... I await the responses from others. But, good for you for asking. All too often all we hear about is how the guy is only interested in getting himself off.
So she does like it when you do it? Alot of girls are insecure about that, they think they taste or smell funny. The best thing you can do is A-get her fresh out of the shower so she won't worry, and B-while you're down on her, tell her how good she tastes. That's always a turn on wheather you're insecure or not. Just a simple,mmm I love the way you taste should do the trick.
When my wife and I were first married we had a similar problem. My wife enjoyed me going down on her when I did it, but felt embarrased to have me do it and tried to stop me.
It was one of those slow change things. First, let her know you enjoy it and are not doing it just because you think you have too. Tell her why you enjoy it, taste, smell, the way it makes her react to you, how it turns you on, what ever it is that you get from it.
Then take advantage of the opportunities that she lets you do it. Her "guilt" or "anxiety" of enjoying it will slowly fade and the opportunities will come more frequent. Also, she may even get to the point of asking you to do it.
Alot of times, it is just letting the other party know you enjoy what your doing for them and them getting comfortable with their sexuality and having someone else pleasure them