Hi everyone, Im new here obviously. One of my friends told me about this site and Ive been kinda ify about posting because Im not very open about my sexuality really...but anyway... My question is why do I have such a hard time getting off when Im getting head? My girlfriend hasnt been able to get me off YET and weve been doing sexual stuff for like 4 months now. I dont think there is anything wrong with me because when I masturbate I have no problem.. What could it be and what could I do to get my "sensitivity" (I guess thast what it is?) back? thanks in advance for any help! bye
Hard time getting off?
how many times hav u dun it with ur girlfriend maybe u shud get her to give u a hand job b4 she gives u head so it can get u started a bit
Welcome to A2A, helbert. You might try using the search function in both this and the sexuality, fetishes and sexual addition forums. You will find your question appears several times and that your problem is not an uncommon one.
In short, the answer is that you have trained yourself to expect the pressure, speed, and feeling of your hand to get off and all are different than those provided by your gf lips and/or hand. Also, where are you two when you are becoming intimate? You have to be comfortable, and a parked car or couch in the living room with others upstairs can leave you with your awareness split between her and unknown others. Another answer may be your age. How old are the two of you?
Welcome from me to both hellbert and Rhys.
It's quite common for guys not to get to orgasm with a blow job. However you can make it more likely to happen by refraining from masturbating for a couple of days beforehand.
Hey hon. Can i ask if your GF uses her hand/s, hair, breasts etc while giving you a blowjob? A lot of men can't get off from sucking or licking alone, a girl using her hands up and down while sucking is better, rubbing your penis on her breasts, varying what she does etc will, in my experience, will get you off. Just a thought </font color>
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Thanks for the quick replies! the questions asked... We are both 19. When we are together we are always alone, with no chance of getting caught. Either at mine or her house or her dorm everynow and then when everyone else is out of town. She does use her hands/breasts/other parts of her body while doing it though not as much as her mouth. She isnt the first girl its happened with. No girl has ever been able to have much luck with it. She always looks so dissapointed afterward so I figured Id see what yall had to say about it.
Also I did run a quick search last night but I didnt have much time because it was already late and I had to get up at 5:00 this morning for work. Thanks again everyone