Hi everyone, i guess i have a problem and its about time i sorted it out. I'm 18 years old, and have never really masturbated because ive never really felt i needed to. Although i dont seem to have any problems picking up girls, im still a virgin, and need to start getting on with things! Problem is that whenever i try to mastubate i never really succeed. I have tried different ways of doing it, but nothing seems to work. Im not really finding it all that pleasurable which i know is wrong!
I have not tried doing it with my foreskin pulled back, as the head is hyper-sensitive and will almost certainly mean ill lose my erection (as well as it kinda hurts when i touch it).
I think that the fact i have not had sex before now, where as most my friends have, is making me more nervous about the whole sex thing, which is making me avoid it more (if that makes sense).
Any help on my situation would be welcome! Please help me out guys, i know i should have sorted it out before, but im hoping you can help me now!
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In reply to:I have not tried doing it with my foreskin pulled back, as the head is hyper-sensitive and will almost certainly mean ill lose my erection (as well as it kinda hurts when i touch it). I think that is part of your problem right there. The foreskin should be able to be retracted easily, as it will need to during sex, and you will get the most pleasure out of your penis with a moveable foreskin. The head hurting when you touch is due to hyper sensitivity is perfectly normal in guys who have not exposed the head much. You should pull back your foreskin more often, while peeing, masturbating, showering, etc., and it will gradually become less sensitive and easier to handle and touch as you get used to it. You don't have to touch the head directly with your hand or fingers when it is exposed - simply sliding the foreskin back and forth over the head will help, and should feel good to you. The 'trigger' area for most guys to reach orgasm is the frenulum, or that strip of skin on the underside of your penis below the pee hole that connects your foreskin to the rest of your penis. Gently rubbing that should help bring on an orgasm faster. You may want to try using a little lube too if moving your foreskin over your head back and forth is still uncomfortable. In reply to:I think that the fact i have not had sex before now, where as most my friends have, is making me more nervous about the whole sex thing, which is making me avoid it more (if that makes sense). Don't worry about it! 18 is not 'old' to be a virgin. It only matters to you anyway - it doesn't matter to anyone else, and only you know that you are a virgin (unless you told everyone you are). It's also possible that most of your friends are still virgins, even though they told you they've had sex already. Guys tend to lie a lot to their buddies about sex at that age. It's easy for them to lie and brag, because nobody is going to prove them wrong. Remember, in the end, you're only racing against yourself. So relax, and don't put pressure on yourself to get laid ASAP. Wait for the right woman, the right time, and when YOU are ready. Then you'll enjoy it.