im not positive if this is the right forum to post this in, but it looked right to me. So im posting here with insaine modesty, and purely because i need advice.I have been daiting this girl for a few years, and i love her more than anything. i would honestly die for her. I plan on asking her to merry me next month, this dosent have anything to do with what im asking for, but this should give you some idea about how much this topic means to me.well a couple weeks ago we started having sex. im tall at 6 foot 3 inches, and shes a mear 5 foot 2 inches. so i have over a foot on her. It turns out that my...parts are too large for her and are hearting her. like there has been bruising, causing us to stop. We have asked a doctor for ways to make this less stressfull on her, but none of them work well enough for her to comfterbly have sex with me. Im hurting her and its killing me on the inside. i cant stand this. Im planning on asking her to merry me and i cant even have sex with her withought hurting her. we want kids and everything, and yeah i know sex isnt everything belive me i know we have been daiting for a few years and started having sex very recently. But i honestly dont know how she can live the rest of her life with me like this. please give me some advice. thank you~Jolt
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Dont know what to do...i need advice
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Welcome to A2A, Jolt. I can imagine that you are both pretty frustrated by the situation you are in, but I believe there is a solution. Given that a baby can come out where you go in, you should, at the proper time, be able to penetrate her. I suspect that she is not relaxed enough and/or lubricated enough. And at this point, there is quite a bit of anxiety on both of your parts. Try to pick a time when you have all the time in the world and spend lots and lots of time in foreplay. Have some artifical lube, like Ky jelly or Astroglide. Under no circumstances shuld you attempt to penetrate her until she is thoroughly aroused. Wait even until she begs for you to enter her. She must be totally relaxed. If she is tense, her muscles in the pelvic area will naturally clench and it becomes your brute force against her and you will cause injury and bruising. Use lubricant liberally and you should slide right in when the time is right.
Also you don't mention if either or both of you are virgins. Has she been able to take anyone else's penis? -
Another suggestion is to work with different positions. Try letting her be on top - she controls the penetration and you support her weight, not the other way around.
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Being a girl I know that if she's a virgin she probably isn't relaxed enough. Get some lube and let her be on top, that should make her more comfortable.
But I would like to ask you a question? I can't really understand something from your post. Is it that she can't take you at all (girth is what I mean here) or is it the length?
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Welcome to A2A, Jolt. I can imagine that you are both pretty frustrated by the situation you are in, but I believe there is a solution. Given that a baby can come out where you go in, you should, at the proper time, be able to penetrate her. I suspect that she is not relaxed enough and/or lubricated enough. And at this point, there is quite a bit of anxiety on both of your parts. Try to pick a time when you have all the time in the world and spend lots and lots of time in foreplay. Have some artifical lube, like Ky jelly or Astroglide. Under no circumstances shuld you attempt to penetrate her until she is thoroughly aroused. Wait even until she begs for you to enter her. She must be totally relaxed. If she is tense, her muscles in the pelvic area will naturally clench and it becomes your brute force against her and you will cause injury and bruising. Use lubricant liberally and you should slide right in when the time is right.
Also you don't mention if either or both of you are virgins. Has she been able to take anyone else's penis?
The only problem with that is that it only gets that large durring birth, if they can get that open and NOT in labor then something is wrong with them.
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You are right that it opens more at birth than for sex, and for good sex you want the vagina to be somewhat tight. The point of my post was that it is **physically** possible so there must be something else going on and that is **relaxation** is required.