Lookin for some help here. My wife is having vaginal discomfort/pressure when we have sex, though we use a condom and ky lube. She didn't use tampons growing up, so it took a while for her to stretch enough to take me. While the girth/stretch issue is working itself out - I'm beginning to wonder if I'm longer than her vagina is. I'm not even 6" long. Is it common for women's vagina to be shorter than that?
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Am I too long for my wife?
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At 6", I doubt length is an issue, although in some positions the cervix can be hit. What is your girth? Can that be the problem? Has she seen a gynocologist? Sometimes there are internal problems that can cause sex to be uncomfortable/painful.
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She did see a gyn, who gave her some stretching things that she put in her vagina. I'm 2" diameter, but she can take just over half of me.
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2 inches is a very poor number to understand. Girth is circumference which is a better representation. For a 2" diameter = 6+ inches but the penis is not a perfect circle. Anyways, you're large but not extraordinarily huge. IDK, mabe others have some ideas.
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If you are too long, you will be poking her cervix. She will definitely know it. Shifting positions and being less agressive on the bottom of each "downstroke" can help with that. Sometimes she will say it feels like I am poking her kidneys, and I just have to alter my angle of penetration slightly. I have had this problem on occassion and just have to shift when asked. Of course, when you only have sex every other month, and it only happens sometimes during sex, it is pretty much a non-issue now
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Not sure how long you have been having sex with your wife. But I know it took several months for my daughter to relax enough to enjoy sex with her husband after they were married. She had a tendancy to tense up and apparently he is pretty stiff when hard and not very flexible. So maybe she is just being tense because she is anticipating you.Next, another situation that might be the problem is if her vagina is tilted downward. If you curve upward quite a bit, this can cause some conflict and possibly pain. Her doctor would have probably said something about her vagina being tilted if that were the problem (my wife and both my daughters have this situation). If this is the case, you may want to try various positions to see if one is better for comfort than another.Also, when pain is involved, several of the manuals that I have read recommend woman on top. That way she has more control on the depth and speed of insertion. Again, try forward and rearward facing based on your curvature to see what is most comfortable.