Alright so my boyfriend and I were going at it yesterday and, his hand brushed a scar (on purpose, it was an accidentle thing) I have on my abdomen, Im rather self conscious about that scar so he felt me tense up and asked what was up. And i said nothing, but he didnt it again so i tensed up again. By now the mood is totally killed, he says he thinks the scar is really sexxy and makes me unique- i think it's something I'd really rather not remember. Was I over reacting a little by being self conscious about it - especially when it's something he finds attractive? (And no. For those of you that follow my posts in the deppression forum this was a cutting scar so don't go off on that whole 'dont start cutting again')
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Scar on Abdomen and sex..
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Was I over reacting a little by being self conscious about itYes. I've had abdominal surgery, and so far no one said they care about my scars (even when asked). Their expressions seemed genuine.Is there something particularly traumatic behind your scars?
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I think there might not be a simple answer. Should you be self-conscious about your scar? Probably not. It probably looks way worse to you than it does to anyone else. But it's your scar and your story, so who are we to say you shouldn't have feelings around it? Especially if there is a bad story associated with you. Not that Steve's answer is wrong. It's just complicated.Would you be more comfortable if your boyfriend acted as if it weren't even there? That is also a valid. You should maybe talk to him about it, if you're comfortable.
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Yep...good points.
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Very true. I had a BF with scars all over from a heart problem he had as a child, and I thought they were sexy as hell! But then again, I think I am on the verge of a scar fetish, but still, they're a part of you and that makes them awesome. Scars tell a story we never could. Or a story people will ask about long after we've forgotten.
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I have a scar on my thigh that I'm self conscious about. Which is why I shall never ever ever ever ever ever...ever ever in the history of my life wear a bathing suit in front of any living human being/organism except for my close straight up saw me being born family members. Last time I wore a bathing suit as an older girl was 12 and I had on these capris so that doesn't count. But I know how you feel but don't let that get in the way of you doing your business lol. And if he says it's sexy ACCEPT THE COMPLEMENT!
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I thought you were in Alaska or something?
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Yep, We're In Wasilla ak right now, probably for the next couple weeks
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I thought he was staying behind.
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nope, he came with me to antarctica as well. my old boyfriend wasnt going to go.
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what do you do that you travel to the places?
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I thought antarctica was unlivable
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O.o we didnt live there we spent a week or so there with my boss and co-workers.
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I can't imagine why a scar would make you feel bad about yourself, especially one that wasn't done by you. Its part of who you are, your history, no big deal at all........after 3 ceasareans i have a pretty impressive scar just on the pubic bone, a bit like a welcoming smile LOL If it doesn't bother him, it shouldn't bother you, you're making it an issue when there isn't one.
