My girlfriend sucks at sex...

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ok well me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost three years now. anyway we just started having sex maybe five months ago, and to my suprise she really sucks at it. (dont get me wrong im not gonna dump her or anything) it just turns out that she doesnt really like any foreplay unless its on her. i mean getting her to even touch me is a struggle. not to mention im seventeen and i have no problem out lasting her, she just finishes way to quick. so anyway asking all the girls out there or maybe some guys that might have had girls like this. is there anything i can do? ive tried to talk with her about it but she just doesnt seem to care if shes good or not. i mean as long as it feels good for her thats all that matters. and i mean i love her more than anything and im not gonna let the sex get in the way but ive found myself seriously looking at other girls and i mean like the ones i know i could get with behing my girls back and i dont like those thoughts. so i figure maybe someone here would have an idea on what might make her be a little less selfish during sex.

first off... lol forgive me for saying this, ur girlfriends a bitch! lol... not inna complete bad way tho...ok well what i would suggest, is warming her up to it... when you guys are going to have sex... dont juss jump straight into it... kiss her, lick her earlobes, bite/kiss her neck, play with her breasts...and when your completely hard, and shes damn near dripping wet, tell her that you want her to feel how hard u are, either press urself against her, or grab her hand and move it to your cock, or slide her hand across ur muscles (if you have a nice body like that...) basically, u have to get her to become comfortable with your body, and comfortable with giving you what you need...and in all honesty if shes still a bit bitchy like my girlfriend was ALONG time ago, just bust a pornstar... do her hard and fast and when ur getting ready to cum pull out and spray it all over her...what im getting at with that, is that if she wants to be mean, be mean back, u deserve to get as much pleasure as she does...oh and with her finishing quick... TOO FUCKING BAD!!! keep pounding her, wtf... shit, make her bust again, and again, and again, till u feel like cumming... and if ur talking about her on top do this...while in cowgirl, when she cums and she begins slowing down, tell her to come down and kiss you, get her on her elbows, then wrap one arm around her waist, and the other holding down her back, and start thrusting upwards, really fast, not only will u be controlling her but it'll be feeling GREAT for her...basically show her that ur man enough to get what u want, and do that till she's ready to talk to you about pleasing u... or until she starts doing that too....

Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYears

and in all honesty if shes still a bit bitchy like my girlfriend was ALONG time ago, just bust a pornstar... do her hard and fast and when ur getting ready to cum pull out and spray it all over her...

what im getting at with that, is that if she wants to be mean, be mean back, u deserve to get as much pleasure as she does...

oh and with her finishing quick... TOO FUCKING BAD!!! keep pounding her, wtf... shit, make her bust again, and again, and again, till u feel like cumming... and if ur talking about her on top do this...
Real nice...

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star

Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYears

and in all honesty if shes still a bit bitchy like my girlfriend was ALONG time ago, just bust a pornstar... do her hard and fast and when ur getting ready to cum pull out and spray it all over her...

what im getting at with that, is that if she wants to be mean, be mean back, u deserve to get as much pleasure as she does...

oh and with her finishing quick... TOO FUCKING BAD!!! keep pounding her, wtf... shit, make her bust again, and again, and again, till u feel like cumming... and if ur talking about her on top do this...
Real nice...

lol sarcasm much? thats juss what i did, but then again he's not me... and im not telling him to do everything that i said, juss offering as many suggestions as i can...

i know it worked for me, i got slapped for spraying my load on her and her hair (by accident, she moved) but after she felt that, it was like, her touching my cock didnt make her feel slutty...

idk im still trying to figure out EXACTLY how women work, but for now i just know whats worked for me and for some friends that i've given advice to...

Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYearsi know it worked for me, i got slapped for spraying my load on her and her hair (by accident, she moved) but after she felt that, it was like, her touching my cock didnt make her feel slutty...If you got slapped, meaning she didn't like it, then why bother suggesting that to anyone!? Originally Posted By: GrownPastMyYears[idk im still trying to figure out EXACTLY how women work, but for now i just know whats worked for me and for some friends that i've given advice to... With what I've read from you, you never will...

no offense taken on the bitch thing she kinda is when it comes to sex. but thanks yea idk there was one time when i was actually getting some titty fucking out of her (she got the PERFECT tits for it, so ivefound my begging once in a while lol) anyway we were at a hotel and well i aimed up a little bit and she suprisingly didnt get that pissed, still wont touch my dick with anything but her pussy. ill try the idea of her being on top, its hard to get here there but she ends up loving it,yea idk i think im just gonna have to be mean about it and play hard to get ya know,if she wants to have sex then she can make the first move and actually touch me...that to much to ask?im getting sick of always having to be the one to start everything, the one to always give the head ya know?

i feel u i feel u... yea with my girlfriend now, ill kiss her, and get her drippin, then ill tell her, what do you want. and then if she says, "i want you to fuck me" or something similar, sometimes ill say, u cant have that yet, or u gotta work for that, then i get her to do other things instead, jack me off, head, etc etc...

u ever think maybe she juss has this strong phobia of dicks? my girlfriends friend is like that, she cant STAND to see a dick, touch it, or anything... but she loves getting done by one...

play hard to get, make it so that she WANTS you to be in her... and if she doesnt come around, then u needa do something thats going to get her to come around, research sex positions, techniques, etc. and make her come harder, faster and stronger (lol... *kanye reference*) than ever before... that way she begins fiending for it...

oh and to virtual star... you ever heard the expression "with pain comes pleasure" sacrifices are made in this world to better it later, why cant that be applied to the bedroom, and relationships,

and i already know quite a bit about women, you however obviously know nothing about men, idk why you keep argueing with me, this is happening on like 2 other posts, what are you trying to prove?

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oh and to virtual star... you ever heard the expression "with pain comes pleasure" sacrifices are made in this world to better it later, why cant that be applied to the bedroom, and relationships,
This is actually to both you and the OP. Whatever happened to simply talking to each other? That way, there's no second guessing or playing games. You know, try to find some common ground and see where each person is at. I can't stress enough how communication is key in a relationship, especially a sexual one. Is it scary, yes. But absolutely necessary.

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and i already know quite a bit about women, you however obviously know nothing about men, idk why you keep argueing with me, this is happening on like 2 other posts, what are you trying to prove?
I'm not trying to prove anything. Trust me, you've already done enough.

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and i already know quite a bit about women, you however obviously know nothing about men, idk why you keep argueing with me, this is happening on like 2 other posts, what are you trying to prove?
Well, I'd like to point out that she's a woman. She probably has a bit more insight into the female mind than most of us here, primarily because she has one.

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And well.. if I remember correctly, OP already said he tried talking it over with her, heart to heart, and she made it clear she doesn't really care as long as she gets off. That's a pretty bad attitude to have. Why does it have to end when she finishes? Girls can ride the same orgasm for way longer than a guy can, so I'd say just keep going until you finish.. I dont say that to be mean, but if she's going to have that attitude, she needs to know that it takes two to have sex, and both partners need to be satisfied. Give and take.

Originally Posted By: clixx52And well.. if I remember correctly, OP already said he tried talking it over with her, heart to heart, and she made it clear she doesn't really care as long as she gets off. That's a pretty bad attitude to have. Why does it have to end when she finishes? Girls can ride the same orgasm for way longer than a guy can, so I'd say just keep going until you finish.. I dont say that to be mean, but if she's going to have that attitude, she needs to know that it takes two to have sex, and both partners need to be satisfied. Give and take. One thing I like about you is that you correct me and put me in my place, lol. I must've forgotten that very important part of him already having a conversation with her. You're right, it is unfair. I guess he should keep going until he finishes. But he shouldn't get too rough, because if she says "stop" and he keeps going, next thing she'll say is "rape". So, just be careful. Perhaps he can do what we women do, and that is hold out on sex until she complies, lol.And thanks, by the way.

Any time, Star. You've done more than your fair share of helping me out on here, so I figure the least I can do is return the favour every now and then. HugsAnd yes, that "rape" thing is very, very true. Very few words other than "rape" can change a man's life so drastically when spoken (or screamed) by a woman. One of my father's friends was put in jail as a teenager because his girlfriend called 'rape' to get him back for some stupid thing that he did. She knew it was wrong afterward, but emotions blind people.

of course i didnt mean for it to go past that... i mean she cant scream RAPE if u bust ur load on her... but w.e.clixx is right, sex is a two person act...

seriously, if youve talked to her and she just doesnt care, dump her, kick her selfish ass to the curb and never look back ,find someone who will treat you the way you deserve, she seems to be treating you like youre just a toy, a tool for her orgasm and if you end it now she'll be the bad guy instead of it ending after you cheat on her, so you really need to think about just walking away if shes being THAT selfish and has no good reason for it

i dont agree with you, but it depends on this, if you love her and are willing, stay, if its not a lobsided relationship all the time, if its juss sex u can fix that...

walk away if u dont really love her, dont leave juss cause she aint fuckin u good yet...

well the thing of it is, he said she just doesnt care if its not good for him, so it makes you wonder if she really cares about him at all or if shes just using him

its not about whether shes good or not, its about if shes even trying, if she even cares enough to pleasure him for once

well thank you guys very much, (yea im cobra1713 i just remembered my pass and stuff for my old account lol) anyway well im not gonna dump her over sex.yea if nothing else i think im gonna try and talk her into being a litle more open on finishing me if nothing else. idk it just seems like if nothing else if she would act like finishing me wasn (damn my bu77on jus7 broke 7ha7 should be were 7he sevens are lol)gonna kill her i wouldn7 care as much.im jus7 so sick of her ac7ing like my dick is gonna kill hetr otr some7hing

im curious, did she actually *say* she doesnt care about your pleasure or has she said she has an honest problem with penises or something of the like?

Quote:Ain't that just like 'em? Girls just using guys for sex! The pigs! Well what can i say , girls play just as hard as guys.OP : If your girl isn't pleasing you during sex step one is to talk to her ... ask her if something is bothering her or if there is a reason behind her not wanting to touch you ?If you don't want to confront her about the problem why not tell her once you have pleased her that you would love to feel how it feels when her hands or mouth ( i would say hands to start off with) touches you.A way for her to familiarize with your penis is either to take her to the shower and wash each other all over and then once you get out (if you get out) go for the fun stuff.One more idea is that if you put your hand over the top of hers (or underneath)and slide your hand down over your body and then over your penis , as if you were jacking off and see her reaction, if she pulls away from you , don't force it on her. If she doesn't your just one step closer to a happier you, just continue with this for a while and then start removing your hand once she is happily pleasuring you.

Originally Posted By: RadecklAin't that just like 'em? Girls just using guys for sex! The pigs! hey! i was used for a whole like 2 years as a sex toy! although most girls will say im crazy, and some guys say that they wish they were me, but being a sex toy isnt as fun as you would think, u dont develop promising relationships with the girls, most of the time they have boyfriends, and after u feel bad, and then when u hurt one of them (going too hard, or too fast, or you rip them) u feel even more bad...it wasnt that fun... i mean 2-3 orgasms a day was nice and all but no...

If your girlfriend was a virgin that could be the thing. I was a virgin before I met my boyfriend and he's the only person i've ever been with. When we first started being intimate everything was extremely intimidating. I didn't want to touch his genitalia or anything. I was kind of scared of it for lack of a better description. When he asked me to give him oral for the first time I wouldn't do it. I was just uncomfortable with it. Maybe your girlfriend isn't being selfish. Maybe she's just intimidated by your genitalia the way I was. Just give her time. I was bad at it even if my boyfriend didn't tell me so. I just new I was because i would just lay there being kind of scared while he did his thing. After I got comfortable with him the sex got ALOT better. We even started experimenting with different things. Just give her time. It will get better.