hey guys so i liked this girl for a long time, and i went out with her for about a month a few month ago, then she broke up with me sayin she didn't feel that way about me. so i still talk to her on the phone once in a while and i never told her but i still really like her, we've been talking a lot the last few weeks, and whenever we talk she would always pat me on the shoulders or hit me, which she didn't used to do. I got a feelin she might like me again, and i called her and talked to her last few days, i kinda jokingly asked her if she wanted to go to a place where the last time i took her there she hated it and told me to never take her there again, but this time she said sure and i said we need to go to a game and hang out more, she said sure and just call her if i want to take her somewhere. now i don't want to ask her out again and tell her i like her unless i know for sure she likes me cuz i dont' wanna lose her as a friend, but i dont' know if she likes me even though i feel like that she does. what do y'all think?
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So confused
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my advice would be to do the same back to her what she is doing to you, touch her on the shoulders, play with her hair, etc. maybe when you're at this 'game' hold her hand. see what her reaction is. she might not let you hold her hand and you will know where you stand, but just play it off and watch the game. or maybe she'll just smile at you and you know something is there
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How about asking her "How do you feel about me now?"
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I definetly wouldn't recommond the more physical aspect you suggested. If I realized that I had feelings for my ex again I would want to take it slow.. work off being friends.. take her out places as friends.. don't rush things because that is one of the things a guy can do to make a girl feel nervous or uncomfortable.. I'm not saying not to show that you like her.. just take it slow.
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i like the saying let nature take its course if it goes like that hehe coz you shouldnt force things to happen let it happen on its own coz if you rush it and try pushing it it never seems to work out,go with the flow and time will soon tell....
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Yes Well Put!! It makes me really uncomfortable when guys rush things.. So do alot of other girls. You're thinking along the right track!
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yeah well i know i can't rush things with her, but i just don't want to ask her directly, and if she doesn't like me she would be mad and think i'm still only friends with her so i could go out with her again, she would probably start to avoid me. Is there any indirect questions or signs i could pick up that would really tell me if she still have feelings for me?
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Just go with your gut instinct.. don't make any rash decisions though!