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hello. i need help preferably from a women. infact, if a guy knew this, i'd be quite surprised and maybe a little freaked out. my question is: how do u tighten a girls pussy? you see, me and my gf have been goin out for 2 years and never had sex. (no real plans on it) she has a.. dysfunction (i think thats the right word in this context). when i finger her, at times, he pussy gets v tight, even around my finger and it hurts her so bad i have to stop. now, i don't particularly mind having to stop. i'm more concerned for her wellbeing. but what causes this? is there a cure? recently she thought if she bought a vibrator/dildo, it'd help loosen her pussy up. she was too embarrassed so, of course, i had to buy it for her. (i don't get embarrassed so easily) anyway. she hasn't tried it yet but i was wondering would a vibrator loosen up her pussy or what is that? she says it might be to do with bein nervous or something. altho, i don't understand why. we've been masturbating each other for nearly 2 years now. if any1 could give me a good answer as to whats wrong or could help, please please help. thank you. corm

Women tend to tighten up when they are nervous. It sounds like your gf may have problems with anxiety, if she is still nervous after two years.

you may be right. i dunno if she's worried bout gettin pregnant. i think so. possibly from me touchin myself to touchin her. i dunno. could u get pregnant that way? i just don't wanna hurt her. i'm a nice guy. i don't like hurtin people, let alone my own girlfriend

Wheres Alfred Kinsey when you need him... Please please please please do not have sex if you do not know how a girl can get pregnant. (public school systems do a shitty job explaining) Alright. A girl can ONLY get pregnant if semen enter her vagina, semen live for up to 3 days inside the vagina, so during that timeif they come into contact with an egg, One only one will fetalize it and there you go, she's pregnant. USE A CONDOM or have her get on some sort of pill/patch/shot/nuva ring. If you have any more questions please please please ask

It's theoretically possible to get a woman pregnant from fingering her with hands still wet with semen. You should always wash and dry your hands if they may have got semen on them.

thank you for clarifying. schools do suck. i wasn't utterly clear on that issue. but the problem is, is there a way to loosen her up or stop her from feelin pain (its not always there)? maybe a psychological problem

Odds are, she's really really nervous. when women are nervous (for lack of better word) she will tighten up. Maybe her mind is telling her she's not ready, maybe she's afraid of what could happen (especially if she's unlear on ways to get pregnant), maybe she's afraid of someone finding out she's having sexual experiances (parents for example) There are a number of reasons. If you have any other questions let me know :wink: Im here to help.

:smile: i do have 1 more question. whats the best way to help make her calm? i dunno what to say or do to calm her down. a problem is that often turns her off, which turns me off and we both get sorta annoyed or upset. if there's somethin to help, please tell me. thank you

talk to her before, like the next time you see her ask her if she gets nervous and/or uncomfortable during sexual contact. try to relax her before hand, and while your having sexual contact try a lot of making out/breast stimulation (if she likes that) before to try to do anything like fingering or stuff like that, pay close attention to how she moves and acts you might be able to tell if she's nervous or not.

thank you oh wise java addict i will try all you've said. lifesaver thanks

Occaisonally i give good advice, I hope it all works out for ya

asian girls are tighter generally - is she asian?