Divorced... but still together?

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How... does that work? How does a couple decide to
1)Get Married
2)Have a happy marriage
3)Divorce...
4)Remain together, but just not be married????

That is a good question. If there are kids in the mix and you can remain civil and provide a positive environment. Without kids it becomes more difficult and I would say in most cases would be best to just stay apart.

There's a couple who did this across the road from me.Apparently they got arrested for benefit fraud not long after...

Now there is a way to work together. I do not see Java going that far though.I just hope this is not happening to her and she is asking about a friend. I always hate seeing a friend go through such events.I take back what I said before. I am sure there is a way but it would require a great deal of restraint. If the divorce is bad I suggest getting out and away from the ex.

It's not me. And its not like... the couple is even unhappy. They just... don't want to be married, but remain like, dating... or engaged... or something. Ari is in Israel for buisness, took Joeseph with him to get him registered in school there, so It's me and his neice all alone in alaska, and this neighbor of ours... it's her situation, and its... trippy.

Divorce is selfish... to the children. Hopefully they don't have children.

Eh, I don't think so. Would you rather have married parents who can't stand each other and fight all the time in front of you and/or your siblings?Imho, to stay together would be more harmful than helpful because to me you would be saying to your children, no matter how miserable you are, you need to stay married, even if you do or do not have children.It would be better to have the divorce and help them understand that the divorce is not because of them. It's better to have your parents separate and happy than together and miserable because children feel the repercussions of that as well.To Java, you know, I don't really quite understand the point. If you're not unhappy, why? I couldn't tell you. Maybe it's a progressive thing and they decided they don't have to be married to be happy. It's really something only they could explain. I'm sorry but I'm really not of much help. But it's also 5:30 in the morning and my niece stayed with me last night and she decided it would be a good idea to wake Aunt Misty at 4:00 in the morning to let her know she was hungry. Yay....so I'm a little draggy. She's precious though. :-) (P.S. Its good to see you back!)

My forum has been going through a whole round of the divorce threads very recently. Rather than paste entire threads, I'll just post the links if anyone wants to do some more browsing or raise more questions here on the subject.http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview....eyword1=divorcehttp://forums.anandtech.com/messageview....eyword1=divorcehttp://forums.anandtech.com/messageview....eyword1=divorce

Quote:It would be better to have the divorce and help them understand that the divorce is not because of them. It's better to have your parents separate and happy than together and miserable because children feel the repercussions of that as well.unfortunately not every situation is like that. instead of happily single you result in an abused older sister, two daughters who don't know their father and and only hear from him regarding money or bad news or to see his girlfriends and hear him insult your mother, a lifetime of lies and not even having a "father" at all resulting in the mistrust of men.

You just described my aunt and uncle lol She got prego and they were married for about two weeks before they divorced and they've been together off and on for nearly 25 or 26 years. Marriage just didn't work for them, but for some reason just being 'partners' did. I don't understand why, nor would it be the thing for me, but it just works for them.