Hi, my girlfriend is quite religious (she is a baptist), and her religion is stopping us from being intimate. I know that allot of religions prohibit premarital sex but this isn't the issue. I've never tried to go that far with her because i respect her beliefs on this even though i don't necessarily agree. In fact, even though i'm vaguely religious myself i've been of the opinion for many years now that allot of the bible is 2000 year old propaganda and i don't let any its teaching effect my daily life that much. Recently we have been getting closer and we fooled around a bit one night, but the next day she told me that she had sinned in doing so and regretted it. I really like her and i love spending time with her and she said similarly to me, but we're both 21 and i find i really physically attractive and i want to be intimate with her even if i can't make love to her but now i don't know how to act, i can hold her hand and kiss her but if i go any further i'm worried that i'm gonna put her in a position that she doesn't want to be in again. I already feel wretched for doing so but i don't know what to do.
Religion getting in the way of intimacy
You have three choices:
o respect her beliefs (masturbate more, if it helps)
o break up with her and find someone who shares your beliefs, at least w.r.t. "fooling around"
o convince her that her beliefs are wrong
The third option is a loser's game.
<i>Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.</i> -- MLK
Religion is usually the basic problem in some relationships with people who are involved in it. When I had my first "makeout" or whatever I felt so bad at night I prayed for almost an hour. Crazy I know. If you really like this girl then I think you should respect her beliefs and feelings and go along with that. She might look at you a bit differently after that. The same thing happens with my bf he respects my belief to the point where he actually came to church with me but I told him to stop because it honestly isn't necessary to do something like "that" just to make me like him. Nonsense. So just see how she'll feel about it if you take things slow. If you can wait.
"Isso é como nós latinas/meninas pretas fazemos. Vá ou flua.. ya digg?"
if you really want to get er' in the sac tell her u want to be together forever and eventualy get maried . this is pretty awful and mean soo i dont think u should do that. but if u want it REALLLL BADDDDD ...go for it. but i think thats really mean
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If any guy reads this dont lie to a girl about that. think about her feelings too not just the fucking sex drive. I cant believe you even posted that. Would you seriously attempt to comprimise a girls wishes to stay a virgin because you want some? And the most shallow self cented post of the week goes to...
Pinatas promote violence against flamboyant animals.
I know someone in the same situation. It all comes down to how much your respect her VR how bad you want some. It sounds to me like religion is a big part of her life if you ask her to give up that piece she wont be the same person that you knew. If you really want some that bad ask her to merry you. If she says no then either find someone else or respect her wishes but dont force her to do something that she will regret.
well i meant that if he really does mean it, but at 21 hes most likely not even thinking of that at all.
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james, unless you have the same beliefs / goals in life, then problems like these will arise in your relationship with this girl.
my advice is to find someone who respects YOUR beliefs and agrees with them! that way you can both do what you want and feel 100% happy and be in a joyful relationship
i've been in a screwed up relationship where our beliefs were quite different. it was very messy in the end and i wish i could have not gone through the ordeal. our differences just brought us apart and made way for arguements / debate