Why am i still.... pathetic?

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Damn I just can't win! I can't get any girl to like me. The last hope of a girlfriend stood me up! and i just can't get a girl that thinks of me over a friend. I give up...

Do stop trying. It's when you stop trying, when you are fine on your own and you don't need a girlfriend, that you'll start looking attractive to girls.

I try to act unnintrested but it doesn't work.

That's not quite what I mean. I don't mean acting uninterested: I mean the effect that comes from being self-sufficient. I think it may be too subtle to be easily simulated - I think you need to go for the real thing.

but i just can't and don't know whats wrong with me.

Why do you feel you need a girlfriend?

Because i just feel lonely right now. And I know you might say people shouldn't feel required to have one, maybe I do because all my friends have one (I even hooked one of my friends up, never heard a thank you) and it just sucks because it looks like so much fun!

It didnt start out that way, but it ended up being the greatest pick up line I ever devised.I told girls they couldnt have me, that sex was fine but ony with no strings that I didnt wanta girlfriend and that they would never be one.ffThey saw it as a challenge or something and I got alot of sex and alot of hurt feelings when I didnt become the bfffff down the road.Thats what hes telling you,f its attitude and something you cant fake. If you honestly didnt give a shit that you had one or notff you would be giving off the right vibe that they seem to pick up on for whatever reason and how ever they do it.when you reek of desperation, they do not want you. Noone wants to be with someon e whos desperate that makes them feel like they settled for anyone instead of who they wanted. How special would you feel if some girl settled for you but knows she might of done better.Im now with a great girl who I fnever settled for, she was who and what I wanted, what I still want and plan to keep. She knows I didnt settle for her cos I couldnt do any better and I know the same about her not settleing for me. Be hapy with yourself and who you are. If your satisfied with who you are and stop thinking and worring about how your aloneff then you can beff attractive someone because you already figured out who you are and that other peope dont make you happy, you make yourself happy and other people can be part of it instead of them being the reason.Make sense? fEDIT:For the record, with the right person it is fun, its fucking great, and when its jsut anyone that you date instead who you care about, its a miserable bitch of a relationship and not worth being in.

im sorry but no I don't see why a girl wouldn't want someone who wants to be with them.

Whether you see it or not, you'll have to accept the fact that few women want to be with a guy who desperately wants them, unless they've already had a long relationship.Can you see why "I love you and I can't live without you" is not a good pick-up line?

It depends why the guy wants to be with the girl. If he wants to be with the girl because she has bowled him over by her beauty, personality, intelligence, etc, etc, the girl finds that quite acceptable. If he wants to be with the girl because all his mates have girlfriends and he doesn't, she considers he hasn't chosen her specifically, it could be anyone with a vagina, and she feels insulted.Of course you wouldn't tell the girl you want her for generic rather than specific reasons; but she can tell nevertheless.

yeah i guess i can see why that wouldn't work. but still i can't control it.

Controling it happens when you find the answer to the question:
What is it that makes me happy ?
and the answer isnt someone else.
Figure out who you are and and then figure out who you want to be and start taking the steps to be that person. As you acomplish the goals to be who you want to be you start feeling who you are and feel better about yourself and ralize that noone is responsible for your happiness besides you.
I rememebr being in the same boat in jr high. By the time I was 25 or so I figured out who I was and what I wanted from life and it wasnt until then that I started being happy and satisfied with myself. It wasnt until then that I got to be really popular with girls instead of jsut doing ok with them. From then it took me until I was 31 to find one that I really wanted to be with instead of jsut a physical relationship and one night stands. The end of this month makes 3 years Iv been with her and for the first time I happy in a relationship instead of jsut content and it makes all the difference.

yeah but I don't want just a physical relationship. I wanna truely love some one.

The problem is that you are looking for "a girlfriend". You don't look for anyone, you have to find someone who would be suited to you and fit in with your lifestyle. I think you are actively looking for anyone who will be with you, and that is a bad thing. This happened to me once. A guy I quite liked asked me out, and I said yes at first. Then I thought about it and realised that he had been asking a few people, so I called him back and said "I'm sorry, I can't be with you because you just want anyone, not me in particular. I don't want to be second best." That is the way you may make someone else feel if you do this. So stop, and think about it... you don't need a girlfriend, you just want one. Wait until you find someone that will be right for you.

Actually being single is great! You don't need a "mate" to feel unlonely. That's what friends and family are for. Stop looking for people it's not going to work that way. It's best to start a friendship and see if it graduates into something more. I've never been desperate for a guy simply because they used to creep me out (personal reasons), most in my school (I thought) were jerks and pervs, and because I was forbidden by family and churchers. But you really must stop looking because it's just going to make you more and more depressed and desperate. The right girl will come to you eventually. Just chill a moment.

Yeah some of us are just destined to die alone in solitude with no one by our sides. It's a sad existence but there's things you can do to distract yourself from your sorry fate. There's some people god just doesn't give a fuck about and tortures only for his own amusement.

well no im fine other then that