Im booooring & confused, help me

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There's of course a lot I don't know, but the way I read it your mood efectively is your situation - it's your mood that is the main problem. Perhaps the dose needs increasing?

well nobody really liked me even before i was depressed since i started highschool are there any success stories of people like me..?i need hope

Middle School and High School are nothing like the real world. A lot of people went through a lot of crap in High School, and things got much better afterwards. In college it's a lot easier to find people who are not cliquish and obsessed with moronic things. Just hang in there until you graduate...you may be pleasantly surprised.

I agree with SteveA. School is actualy quite stupid with alot the things they tell you..."succeed here or your buggered"....whats bollax, I did great in my exams and then opted for sometheing they let full-time-truents with no exams do (hairdressing) and am having a great time. And the social side of shcool is stupid to, its all tribalised bollax. I alwyas had to get my girlfriends from other school cos they thought I was cool, in my own school I was geek, or so i had been deemed. When schools over you can do what ya want though, and be with who you wnat and to bugger with other peopels opinions.

Oh something I've noticed about all those who profess to be losers...well your all losers cos you accept that you are. You are deffinately boreing. You said it so it must be true.Its time to deny that you are a loser, deny you are boring.I'm good-looking, witty, talented and loved. Its true cos I believe it and everone elses opinion on it is completely irrelvant to me...and over time as I become ever more self-assured and big-headed (deluded you could say) people come more and more to agree with me and I pull and make friends and am the centre of attention, and dammit I love being the centre of attention.I only go through bad periods in my life when I allow self-doubt to take route.So, for starters start to gloss over your faults, concentrate on your good qualities and if you really dont do anything with life then take up an art.

"are there any success stories of people like me..?"Yeah, I was bullied and was quiet and shy. Now I'm confident, and well liked by people I meet (not so much on forums )...usually more than I like other people.

Bottom line...I wouldn't want to date you either. I would probably want to want to date you...if that makes sense. If I knew you I would probably see something in you that you don't see yourself...a spark of something really intriguing or cool or sweet or adventurous...and I would hope against all hope that somehow you could see it yourself and fan it into a big firey flame. You said it yourself. You could have done something drastic, but you didn't. You're still here. That means something has gone right. You've done something right. You have a strength that a lot of other kids don't have. You think you're boring? Maybe you are. So start being interesting. What do you like to do? What juices you? What do the people around you not know about you that, if they did, they would at least stand back in mild amusement, or possibly gasp in amazement. It's there. You had it before. The question you have to ask yourself is "How badly do I want connection and to be liked by others? Do I want it badly enough to step outside of my self-pitying self and do the hard work necessary to be the interesting person I once was?"Do you see how this "stuff" you're dealing with is an opportunity for you? You could be on the verge of something big!

other people dont have to work to be interesting... theyre just themselves and people like them.

I understand what you're saying, but I think I might have to disagree with you. Anyone you think is interesting is doing something to make themselves interesting. It doesn't just happen by default. Okay, maybe that's a bit overstated. Sometimes a person can have an interesting personality or whatnot. But even then, they are putting themselves out there to be noticed.But your statement concerns me. Maybe you do have to work a little harder to be interesting. Certainly that's no reason to do nothing. If you had a brother who passed math with no effort, but you had to work a little harder to pass it, would you say "some people don't have to work to pass math, so therefore I shouldn't be expected to put out any effort." I'm saying this because I am totally convinced that there is something in you that you are either oblivious to or are denying. Something interesting. If it takes a little effort to bring that out so others can see it, I believe (and I think you would find) it is well worth the effort.

i just dont know where to begin

That's a fair question.
But I think a better question is are you willing to step outside of yourself and do something different from what you've been doing (or not doing)?

yeah i am.

That's excellent - that's really positive. If you're prepared to try new things, to learn and grow and change, you won't be boring.

but... thats really vague... where am i supposed to start?

It's kinda hard to tell someone that you only know by a few posts on the internet were to begin. So, I am going to attempt to be as vaguely specific as possible, if you get my meaning.The first thing I would say is don't worry about girls, sex and love just yet. Those will, I'm sure, come in due course. Right now just be concerned about finding other ways of enjoying life. As cliche as it sounds, get a hobby. Look for different things that might interest you. If you start something and you end up not liking it, drop it and move on to something else. Things to possibly try may be:Take an art class - outside of school.Find a local rock/ mountain climbing chapter & join up.Learn another language - again, outside of school.Join a Baseball league.Learn Latin dancing - that's fun and hot.Find a local sky diving club.Take shop or auto maintenance at a vo-tec.The common thread here is, what ever you do, look for a place to do it that is away from the high-school environment. A place where people don't have preconceived notions about you. The purpose of this is two fold. Chiefly, it will get you out of your rut and put a little interest back in your life, in the here and now, and things won't seem so bleak. Secondly, and probably more important in the long run, is it will give you an interest in life and something interesting to talk about with people that you interact with, be they friend, hot chick or the love of your life. Any of these things will give you a wealth of things to talk about with new friends and something to discuss with your lady. They more you interact with people, the easier it will become, and they will find you more intriguing and want to get to know you better. The best part, you will have something to talk about with them, and from there the conversation will grow and in-turn you will find out something fascinating about them. Next thing you know, neither one of you can shut-up around each other.The first step is to get out of your rut. A rut can depress the hell out of anybody.Right now this may sound like a lot of effort. And, it may be, but no one said it was easy and you did say you were willing to put in the effort. I guarantee, if you start working on it now in a few months, if not sooner, you will most likely have a whole different outlook and people will start finding you fascinating and least of all boring.

Scotty and Helms made excellant points.I'm sure there's something you dig doing. Do it more and better. Find other people who dig doing it and do it together! Find ways to meet different people - even older people. This will help you develop other interests. Helms is right, you got opportunities galore!

thanks guys...

**I totaly agree hon, there is something of interest in everyone i have ever met. **

im sure there are lots of interesting things about ya hon............