For all guys (straight, bi, gay), thoughts please

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This was previously posted in the 'Sexuality' section forum, but seems like most the action is going on in here, and I would get more response from here. Ok...I have been thinking about something lately and it is really starting to get to me. As of right now, I feel that I am bi, penis's turn me on so much and there is nothing I fantasize more about than gay sex etc etc I don't think yall need the details. I have all of these extremely erotic fantacies and feelings towards male masculiinity and sexuality, but I could never...EVER in my lifetime have something like a boyfriend. The idea just appals and disgust me. I have messed around with a guy a few times, and don't get me wrong, IT WAS AWESOME, but (lol, this is gonna sound weird, maybe even stupid), but every time, whether it is with a guy or not, right after orgasm, I feel like, "Damn, this isn't what I really want, or want my life to be". I have had girlfriends and only girlfriends, and I don't think anybody knows or can tell that I am attracted to these kind of things.....hmm. I guess that main thing I am trying to figure out is if any other guys have had this feeling. Please give me yalls thoughts.

Dude, that was 20 minutes ago. Have some patience. Posting the same thing to multiple forums is frowned upon.

hey. i'm straight. i've had a gf for 2 years and never kissed/fooled around with a guy. tho i've been drinkin 2 different times and well, i'll be honest. i found myself fancy them. i didn't do anythin, but i think it was (a) the drink (b) their personality. it wasn't there looks nor did i actually want to kiss them.. it was just.. fancying their personalities.. i dunno if thats the same thing as you're sayin. i used to be like what you're like about a fetish (which i'd prefer to leave unnamed) (its nothin bad but i just wanna keep it confidential and to myself because...well i'm allowed to:)) anyway, i had this fetish which i was addicted to yet hated. so in that sense i can relate to ya. i personally think that if it feels right, don't freak out or fight against it. let whatever seems natural to be natural. and. if it should happen, gangbangs might be the way for you to go get girls, guys, who're up for it and fuck away my friend. hope this has been helpful

"fancying their personalities"?

That doesn't sound like anything gay or sexual at all. Sounds like you just met a couple of guys who you thought were cool. I do that all the time.

but it was a little different to just gettin on with them. if they'd been girls i'd have been interested in kissin them, or more. does this still make me not gay?

No because the fact they were not girls is the reason why you did not kiss them.

Being gay is more than the physical realm of things. Being gay has a lot of emotional ties than anything.

So... does that make me gay or not? i don't feel gay. i dunno. all i know is i don't feel it and that i've a girlfriend of 2 years and willies don't turn me on. pussy ass tits and legs do on girls. well my girlfriend

Than no you're not gay if men do not turn you on and females do.. pretty cut and dry.

good. all i'm statin is, its a v odd experience. i felt emotionally attracted to their personalities but that was it. but no, guys don't turn me on. thanks for your help

Nope, I don't think you're gay either. Being emotionally attracted to someone is perfectly natural. Problem is, most guys are afraid of it and deny themselves wonderful male friendships. There are times when my love for my best friend is so intense I could just eat him up. And then other times I wish I had!

If I didn't know you already I'd say that sounded a little kinky *wink wink* Jk

Actually you are exactly right =-D

hehe. thanks for your input. must go. glad to know what u've told me

In reply to: but every time, whether it is with a guy or not, right after orgasm, I feel like, "Damn, this isn't what I really want, or want my life to be". the first time with my current bf i felt like that, and to be honest, the next few times i felt like that. it went away after a while. i dont know what caused it, my guess is that i was worried about what people would think about me knowing i was doing things with a guy. now i just dont let it get to me what others think about me and my sexuality.

i am having the same problem you are having like i but ive never done anything with a guys unless it was over the internet we would talk online and explain what we are doing and stuff and when im done jerking off and stuff i would be like im done thanks bye, because i get disgusts and i regret what i did but sometimes its what u need. like its hard but im justb here to tell u i understand what ur going through!

your having trouble coming out.

just get a women with a dick....i was watchin real sex on hbo and there was one hot girl but she had a dick but id till be with her cuz she wwas hott

I've never messed around with guys but if your anywhere from the age of thirteen to about nineteen the feeling that you are sexually aroused by other guys is nomral not gay its just your hormones are raging and they get turned on by anything its not just because your gay which im not saying your not or that you are just saying that it does seem to be normal by getting sexually aroused by other guys now the gay sex im not really sure about but i hope this helped you

Well I think you are having problems with is it the girls that you like or is it the life style they bring with them?Just to me it sounds like you are attracted to guys - btu are more attached to the stereotypical idea of whats right.

First off, it doesn't matter if you are gay, bi or straight. Those are merely labels people seem to like to try to categorize themselves and others for some reason.
My philosophy is if you like fooling around with, having sex with, dating or whatever with someone, then enjoy it and don't let their gender or yours get in the way of the two of you having (safe of course) fun.
Oh, and if you are a teen, it's perfectly normal to fantacise and/or experiment on both sides of the gender line. It's all in the hormnones and partof being a human with natural curiousities.
As for the negative response you experience after orgasm is more a feeling everyone gets regardles show they got to that point or who they are with (if anyone). It's a sort of withdrawal into oneself reaction to the total release. It is a point where one feels embarassed or dirty or whatever and just wants to curl into a ball and hide for a while. Then a little while later, you are good to go again.

So, relax, let yourself enjoy being intimate/sexual with whomever you want to be with, don;t let guilt or embarassment put you off and always play safe.

I have felt the same way and used to like looking at penis's and gay porn even though THEN i knew I was straight...its a fact that some people through thier puberty will be attracted to the same sex...its just the hormones man...nothing to be worried bout...I loved watching 2 guys slam it up the ass and liked seeing another guy with a rod in his mouth..but now its all past...I dont like watching gay porn...dont quite check em out...its all slowed down...so dont worry man...its all normal!