Am i stupid??

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this is my story.. i waited so long for my 1st time to have sex. i always thought i would lose it to a person i care about and love, but this was not the case. i lost it to this very hot guy, that i met once.. i feel so stupid. at the time it felt right, and i felt i was ready, but now looking back on it i was so stupid.. i don regret losing it to him becuase i know who he is and he's really sweet about everything.. but if i'm okay with it why do i feel like shit? like after that day he hasn't called.. we talk on msn but he says he's really busy and the only time he has is saturday from 8pm to 3am.. we had sex a few days ago, and i'm 17 i dont know what i'm doing. i don't know how to have sex as stupid as it sound.. i don know what i'm doing.. the 1st time hurt a lil.. but i guess what was wrost was that he couldn't cum.... he said i was to dry.. is that even true??? does that even happen.. or is he trying to tell me in a good way i really didn please him?? it was my 1st time right? and your 1st time are usually not good right? or is that me?? i feel stupid becuase it seems like i'm not gonna see him again.. and i really like him.. i'v been thinking about him alot to.. and what makes matter worst is he's older.. like why would he want to be with me?? right?? i feel used and played.. and i should have known better.. but i also think that losing it to him was good becuase he walked me through everything..but i wanna know.. do you guys think we will chilll or meet up again.. from whats he's done so far.. he says it only not busy saturday and that he works 14 hours a day.. and the only time he wnats to see me is after 1130; becuase he says thats when he gets off.. and when i call he says he eating and that he will text or call me back, but he always ends up texting.. and after sex i asked if i was gonna see him again he says yes.. am i worrying to mcuh?? am i ever gonna see him again?? and im pretty sure my 1st time was shit.. is this how its gonna be the rest of the time.. a guy can't cum..!! i feel so stupid.. but i don know anything and i would like for anyone to tell me anything about sex.. or even this guy is ever gonna see me again, or was a jsut his one night stand???? ... and im starting to think i was his one night stand.....becuase i don think he wnats anything to do with me..gosh.. i lost it to some guy who deosn't wnat anything to do with me AND im his one night stand.. I feel soo stupidd

In reply to: and the only time he wnats to see me is after 1130; becuase he says thats when he gets off.. I think that about sums it up. He's using you. If he cared about you, I think he would actively be making an effort to keep you from feeling used. BUT - If I am right and he is a jerk-wad who just used you for sex, you have to know that is his stuff and not yours. It has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you. Too many girls take such things as a reflection of themselves (I.e. their worth, value, attractiveness, etc.). You must not do that becaust that is false thinking. You picked a jerk to give it up to. If that's the worst thing you've ever done...certainly you can live with that, no? Don't let it turn into a pattern becasue you think what this putz is doing is your fault. Start treating yourself as something valuable. Reflect that to the men around you. You'll be surprised at the results and the higher caliber of men you might attract.

i guess your right.. cause who really works till 11 30 at night right?? i guess i was fooled.. i always thought that i would have given it up to someone special.. and then i gave it up to some guy that was not worth my time.. i feel like i did this on myslef when i could have said no i didn't.. im so navie.. to think that i would see him again.. but its been like 2 days since we had sex.. and he says he will come over when hes not busy..untill then he's stilla jerk right? what about if he does come over? i'm so confused and i don know wat to do.. im scared if i see him again.. i will want to be with him...i wish i could go back on my decisions... but thanks.. i really think he's a jerk to.. and maybe i just need to open my eyes and see it more.

flots of people work till 1130 at nightI used to work from 12 to 12 on a roatating shift, cops, video store clerks, various cashiers in stores that are open late or 24 hours. power company employeesf, gas company employees (someone has to be around to keep shit running an someones got to be around to fix it when it goes bad.)There are thousands of jobs that work that late and many of them that are open o matter what day of the eyar let alone the week is.fA more important fquestion might be who is he and what does he do and how old is he?

I lost mine to my mom's bf when I was 2. It's not the end of the world. In this country we put too much value into the "first". Try looking at it this way, for a girl the first time is always going to suck. I mean it hurts. At least from now on the first time you have sex with a guy, it'll be enjoyable. And I'm sure in this day and age very few guys would consider that grounds for breaking up with you. And if they do they are shallow, and insecure.

well hes 21 and he works for rogers ( a phone company; or cable; or internet;) that what he does..

don't feel stupid we all make mistakes but we always learn from it....hes a complete jerk he just wants sex, and you can do way better than that...just be strong enough to tell him F off if he keeps texting cos you dont need that sort of stuff to get you down,make you feel something you shouldn't...some men can be jerks like that just out for one thing but not all men are like that and you will know cos when you find that 1 person that changes everything.... you will know that hes the one....

thanks... everyone.. i know i could do better.. but in the back of my head im still like omg.. him.. why him.. we all should have known better.. and he is a jerk.. i should have saw it comming but i didn... i was feeling like shit for awhile.. but then i started thinking about it.... andd it was a mistake.. and i'll learn from it.. and i will not just have sex with any guy now..its funny becuase my whole life i as building a wall for myself, a wall that i can count on to hold me up... but it took one night, and the decison of the moment to break it all down.. i know i going to be okay.. and guys like him need to fuck off.. thanks youu so mcuh for all your input guys.. (:

I think, because you lost your virginity to this guy, you expected something else, afterwards, to see him again, etc............and you didn't get it. It was a big deal to you, and not such a big deal to him. You can't blame him for not making the effort, he probably never thought about after the event.You say in your post, that you were ready, and that it was good to lose it to him cos he guided you etc, but then you say your stupid. I don't think your stupid, i think the situation, now looking at it afterwards, wasn't what you wanted. As i said you want more from this guy, and thats the only reason you're beating yourself up about it. Let it go, it was your first time, not great, but not bad, and whether the guy sees you again or not, you have to deal with it and get on with life. >>>>>>he said i was to dry.. is that even true??? does that even happen.. or is he trying to tell me in a good way i really didn please him?? thats true, that can happen, and probably did. If you are tense, nervous, or not very turned on, you don't produce enough lubrication, just cos it happened this time, doesn't mean that you will be too dry for anyone else, i just want to add that.