Ok last sunday my g/f broke up with me. After 11 months she did. Now I have had g/fs in the past but nothin I care about. Im in 9th grade and from the end of 6th grade to the end of 8th grade I did not have a g/f cuz I told myslef im waitin till I really find someone I know I can last a long time with. So I found my g/f. She is perfect in everyway. Like I dont like girls who party all the time or who dont care about family and drink and dont try in school and all that stuff you should know the type. Well my girl was prefect cuz she wasnt like all that stuff. She had never had a serius b/f and never kissed and same with me except with another girl. It took me 5 months but thats when I relized that I loved her. We had so much fun together all the time. Like small things and big things. I went to her house all the time and joked with her family and they liked me and stuff too. It was cool. By the way Im not the type of guy who cares about sex right now tahts the last thing on my mind in a relationship cuz its just pointless right now same thing with drinkin and all that it will just get you screwed up most of the time. But everything was great and then this is why she told me we broke up. Now basically I screwed it all up (opinion from me). She said I lied about little things that were pointless which I did but I never meant anyhting by it or really knew. Then like she said I always talked about other girls but the thing is they are my friends they dont mean anything to me cuz they are all the type or party and stuff. The things I dont find attractive. And there were little things like the stuff probabaly every girl says like I miss my friends (which is perfectly normal so did I but that doesnt mean we need to break up) and she said other stuff. But I know she loved me and I loved her and even if I did hurt her from doing that you would think she would be able to forgive me and stuff. When she got mad about a motnh ago when all these feelings happened to her she did the one thing I never wanted her to do. She went to her friends and got advice and she thought about it for a month. She never came to me and we never ahd a chance to talk about it. Never. But its like we had so much fun and we laughed and everything! And she jsut breaks up. I mean she does alot of sports and go to thes big tournements around teh country and all this. Thats why she was so perfect. We were perfect and every person I know and most of her friends think the same. I just cared so much about her taht I would of done anything for her. Like she turns 16 this August and she told me her parents arent going to buy her a car or help her so I started savin up all this money like 2 motnhs ago to give to her. I loved ehr so much and cared and would of never of done anything to hurt her. Thats the last thing I ever I wanted to do. I always just wanted her to be happy and feel loved. It just doesnt make enough sense that she wouldnt try to help this. I know she is hurt but still ive done everything possible for her to forgive. To let her know im sorry. Its not really about the relationship I jsut want her not to be hurt or sad. I want her to be happy and im afraid now taht she may go out with someguy that doesnt truly care and she may be the one who feels like really hurt and stuff when someone you loves says the dont anymore and breaks up. THe other thing that hurts is that she like avoids me at school now. She doesnt talk to me at all. Its like seh doesnt even care or know how I feel. I just feel so bad but then its like im mad cuz we could of worked through this. So I jsut dont know. She was everything to me and stuff. I read another post here and love and how you people describe it and I felt that way aobut her. I jsut pictured us stayin together for so long and still do. It jsut hurts cuz I wont be able to do stuff anymore on weekends or talk with ehr family or hold her and make her feel safe and say I love you or anything. Now she jsut like hates me. I gave her alot of stuff and would of never of cheated on her or anything cuz im not like taht. The last thing I want to see is her or any girl like taht get hurt. Im statin to feel better now but whenever I see her I just think we should be together right now but she didnt try. It just sucks. She was the only girl I ever cared about. The one I really knew I could be comfortable with and all that good stuff. Im just going to miss seeing her and knowing waht shes doing and how tryuots for stuff is going. I jsut want to be friends at least! I just dont know if we can even be taht. I mean I dont like anyone else in my school basically. After feeling this love I have felt with her and stuff I jsut want to be with that again. Have someone who loves me and lover them and cuddle with and stuff. Specificly with someone like her cuz we went really slow with everything. Like 1st kiss and everything. Its like all these other girls jsut go wam bam done. Its like good lord I dont want to do taht. She was perfect man. Now its like she hates me and I cant do anything. Ive tried but nothing. Whenever I see her I jsut think of everything we will not be able to do. Or taht I cant talk to her cuz it makes her uncomfortable and I dont want taht. I think she made the wrong choice but maybe she was right. I jsut want her tp be happy and live up to what she can be. She is so fantastic. Man did I love her. I just cant believe this happened and that she jsut gave up. It hurts knowing taht she isnt tryin cuz you know if I broke up with her for the same reason when she loved me she would be doing this or her friends would be tryin and stuff. But no nothin. I jsut miss everything and tahts the hardest part. Missing this and knowing we wont be able to do it again. Man it sucks I jsut know taht I could of treated her the best and never of hurt her on purpose but I screwed up. I jsut thought we could of worked thruogh it. So I dont know. Just some help on this or somethin cuz im startin to get over it but it still hurts when I see her and knowing I cant talk to her.
Ok well heres something
I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. You're young though. Things change and people change. It's ok to feel bad and hurt, but eventually you'll get over it.
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I got bored reading that post half way but what i will say is that firstly, Amanda is right, you are still young.
Secondly, chances are she still loves you just as much and that she probably feels like shes doing the right thing. Give her some space for a couple of weeks then depending on how things are going talk to her about your feelings, it may turn out that she wants to get togeather again, its quite a common thing for this to happen.
If not theres plenty of fish in the sea :S
I'm so sorry, The Dude.
Sorry to hear that bro... Was she older than you? Just curious.
No she was younger by 3 months. Its funny I always made jokes about being older than she was. That was one of the funny things we did togther. But now like I said she hates me basically and I sent her like 3 emails tryin to tell her stuff over the course of last week and she said she got feelings like I was stalking her and its like what the heck! If you really did read those and thought about it it should meen somethin to you. Thats why ive got mixed emotions right now mad and sad and just diff. so who knows
I'm so sorry The Dude. If you need anyone to talk to, PM me. I know how you feel.
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