Sadie Hawkins. Oh Crap.

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I have a friend (she's a girl) and my friend told me that she likes me (I don't really see how that's possible). Anyway, my friend, her and I were at school the other day and he asks her if she's asked me something yet. Like the title says, there's a Sadie Hawkins dance coming up. If she asks me, how do I gently (some of you need to note the gently part of this sentence) tell her that I don't want to go with her without being mean or telling her that I'm different.

do you have someone else to go with? ask someone quickly and tell her that you're taken

^^ Agreed ^^

If you're going with someone else say so. If you're not going say you have plans. Whatever you reason, make not about her. She'll likely be hurt no matter what, but it'll take the sting out of it if it's not about her.

I'd probably say go with her.. but in the end.. how would it feel if you really liked a girl and went with them to the dance then got rejected? Ouch!

I was in a similar predicament last year. A friend of mine (pretty sure she liked me) asked me to go, and I avoided her for a while, pondering excuses. It wasn't as much that I didn't wanna go with her, I just didn't wanna go at all. That's exactly what I ended up telling her (Then I complained to my friends about how no girls ever ask me to go - guess I'm just strange like that). While that may not be a viable excuse for you, all I know is do what the other people have said. Make sure it's not about her.I know what rejection feels like. It hurts, even if it's something as simple as asking a friend to go to a dance. When I was younger, it actually hurt up to the point where I wouldn't ask any girl to do anything with me. Whatever you do, make sure to do your best not to hurt her feelings.

One of the best times I've ever had at a dance was my senior prom. I took my best friend's girlfriend. My girlfriend just didn't want to go...I think she was gonna be out of town or something. My buddy and his girlfriend were both younger so they couldn't go as a couple. So I took her. It was completely platonic and we had a blast. No pressure. No wondering what comes next. No fear of should we or shouldn't we around sex. Complete freedom to dance with someone else without your date getting all pissy. It's really a good gig if you can get it.

Agreed, that's probably your best bet.

First, punisher your a fucking idiot, this site would do better with out you.second, bobbo,you just don't want to go or you don't want to go with her?you could go and then just not accept any more invites from her, tell her ya had a good time but your not attracted to her after its all over, the worst that happens is that you have a friend to hang out with after all the dance part is over.You could always tell her you don't want to attend the dance period not with anyone that it just isn't your thing.If you did go though you may end up having a good time and would you rather be out having a good time or at home on the computer typing to us?

I am assuming that you want to go to the dance... I would just go ahead and go with her- it's not like you have to marry her or anything. Probably what would happen is: You go there, you dance (not just with her), you go home. Not much different than if you went with the guys (except you wouldn't dance with them, but you would dance with girls... okay, maybe I'm confusing you now). But it's not going to be a big deal, and it would probably make her really happy.

and you still area a toad humping bowel slurper devoid of any rational thought and unable to offer even a smidgen of help to anyone who is here seeking it.Dork does not begin to sum up your behavior, a dork at least serves a purpose while the only service you offer is to suck up bandwidth.Its entertaining to be an asshole here and there and when someone is trolling I suggest everyone jump on and kick them till they are down and continue kicking until the gutters run red with blood. You on the other hand kick and offer stupidity for trolls or actual questions with feverish ferocity. You serve no purpose and offer no help to anyone. so Tell us -- were you born such a retarded shit head, or were you originally a slug who managed to rise to such prominence?Each time I see your posts the same thing springs to my mind, a scene in "Billy Madison" where Sandler just bestowed utter bullshit upon the crowd trying to pass off an answer and the Moderator tells him "What you just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I've ever heard. At no point were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it."If you had been the owner of a single viable braincell, you might have aspired to become something other than the fellow who felches the creatures at the bottom of the food chain

90% of the internet is shit or porn a very small percentage of it is of any actual use to the average person so I do take seriously a site that is of use and has the capability to help so many people. If the only thing you care to contribute is absolute shit then go elsewhere to do so.I don't bother sitting at a desk, I have a laptop, yay me!, and happen to be sitting in my bed watching some TV while I wait for my gf to get home from work, I have a rather lovely one for the record and run my own business so I can do what I like when I like and not have to put up with jerk off bastards telling me when I can smoke or get a drink or take lunch or how long I have to take a shit. as for the Listerine, is that honestly the best attempt at a humorous come back you could muster? I can get better material from my 2 year old son.None of this was a long post, not a bit of it took more then a minute to type up, certainly not nearly as long as the first piece of trash you contributed to a what for the original poster was a serious discussion and concern.

Those types of posts are unnecessary

Eat a dick, sir.

The reason I don't want to go with her at all is that she likes me and she has very sensitive feelings. Taking her would give her unrealistic ideas of us being together, which would end in serious pain for her. I've made it clear to my circle of friends (which she's in) that I don't want to go, so they're already making plans for it without me. Then again, 10 minutes before Homecoming last semester, they called me and told me that they're picking me up and I ended up having to go to that.

I really respect you for this whole thing. To get out of the dance: Go to a movie that starts about an hour before the dance. You won't be home, you cell phone will be off. And you won't be done until they're already at the dance. If you go see Pride and Prejudice you may be there for the whole dance too. It's a crappy movie though.

Well, things are clearing up since the thing's in 2 days. I'm going to go to dinner with my friends before the dance, but then I'm just going to go home. I just hope they don't try to force me to go to the dance. The last one was really boring and long.

Make plans for something after dinner. Make them with someone which creates a commitment that you can't get out of. That way, they won't be able to talk you into going. (Although at that point you could go and have fun and not have to go with the girl, no?)