well me and my girlfriend have been dating for like 2 weeks now. she was my friend sorta before for about a month. well the first date we kissed. the second date we made out for a couple of minutes and now the third date she jumped straight to third base and trying to steal home. I was like whoa but since im a guy and i have testosterone i didnt really stop her. I found out from her friend that she has already has had sex and it was in a car... i am still a virgin and i havent been really interested in the dating department since about now. she has been my first everything. my first kiss and such. I dunno what to do... she has admitted she has had sex already and was just sorta indifferent to the matter. I dunno but with all these different attributes, she seems like a whore to me. I just dont think i could go further with her. she didnt tell me any of this prior going to third base with me. it wasnt me that jumped to third base btw im too much of a gentleman to move that fast in 2 weeks. I dunno what to do i dunno if i wanna break up with her or not. i dont really see if a reason can be justified to break up with her. hearing she has already had sex with some asshole in a car was like a knife to the heart so can someone just come up with some suggestions or just give me some info that will reassure me or what you guys think i should do.
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Help with gf...
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I think you should stay with her BUT don't, I mean do not have sex unless you are ready. Doesn't matter what she says. If you aren't ready for sex then don't do it. You guys can still be a couple and not have sex. Make sure you're prepared. Ok she had sex already but that's in the past. You still like her don't you? Exactly. Try and let it go and just hang for a while. Don't let her force you ino something you don't want to do because then she might just be liking for some more.
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yea but it still hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that shes already had sex. btw i am 16 so i guess its kinda common but ugh it just feels so weird i asked my best friend for advice and he said he doesnt kno what i should do because she is so nice and beautiful and it was just such a shock that she would do something like that. and the way she does things (to me) seems like shes had so much expirence like she wasnt nervous or jittery at all so it just makes me wonder like WTF?
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how old was she when she did it and how old is she now?
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uhh same age i think i just kinda didnt push the matter enough because i was too shocked but it was sometime last year i think.
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wow, if she's trying to get you to do the same thing then she might just be after more. I'm not sure I don't know her. But you shoud make a decision that's best for you. If she keeps trying to "go there" I suggest you let her go because she's not worth you losing your virginity. Just, go with what you think is right.
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i mean fuck she went so fast i thought most girls like to take it slow. but fuck she like ran diagonally across first base to third i was just like uhhh what the fuck while she was doing it. so i dunno im a little freaked out but if you knew her she seems so innocent and nice that you would never expected something like that out of her. i dunno whats right like i dont even know her that fucking well enough to go to third base ugh what the fuck. I want her but i dont... i mean cmon im a guy and shes thinking like a guy so its like whoa didnt see that one coming. but i wanna girl that i can have a relationship with. i just dont think i could have sex with her at all. i think if i just keep limiting us to second base on all our dates for a few months ill see if she really wants me for me or just to have sex with me
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Tell her you don't think you're kind of guy she's looking for. She is ready to have sex with her bfs and you're not ready for that. Tell her, it's nothing against her you just aren't ready and that you have no bad feelings and you hope you can still be friends. (If you can handle being freinds.)
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yea thats kinda what im thinking too but i dont have the heart to break up with her so i think if i just limit her and go no where with the relationship she will eventually break up with me and i will save her the heart ache. lol but damn it i didnt want to be one of the cliche couples that break up after a couple of weeks thats why i waited so long to find someone. fuck! oh well shit happens thank you guys for your advice it really helped me alot.
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i dont have the heart to break up with her
You aren't doing her any favors by staying with her. You are actually doing her a diservice. If you are staying for selfish reasons fine say so.
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go no where with the relationship she will eventually break up with me
Girls can hold on to a dream for a very long time. And the longer it goes the longer it's likely to go. You wanna still be with her your Sr. year, do it your way.
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i will save her the heart ache
You're only making it worse. Think of how she'll feel weeks/months/years later when she realizes she wasted all that time with you.
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oh god your so right. this whole month has been lousy fucking valentines day and shit such a dumbshit holiday. i just havent been able to think correctly at all. i totally went with her for looks and i know it too. i cant even hold a conversation with her on the phone for more than like 10 minutes before we just say we have to go cause there this huge awkward silence. i think your right and ill most likely break up with her next friday.(just watched office space and its better to fire people on a friday...lol) ilikekisses i really like your comments on what to tell her and i think those would be really good to say to sorta lead to the break up so thanks a bunch
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It's like masturbation, but HOPEFULLY with love (THIS IS ACTUALLY WHAT MAKES SEX GOOOD) - anyways - sex feel strange at first. LIke - vaginas and assholes are like all soft and you feel like you dissapear inside them - you can't necesarily feel as much as you think you are going too. Sex does not feel like your closed fist, but better. It's different, and you have to do it a lot do begin to get used to the different, more subtle yet in the end stronger sensation from it. BUT THE SPIRITUAL (not religous necesarily) and LOVE part is most important. ORR if you are into degrading behavior towards girls (i am sometimes too - every guy has that part - you waana jizz on her face, fuck her so she hurts) - sex is good that way too. LIke - to see you are hurting her, dominating her - that can be a turn on . Im ramvbling and contradicting - but thing is contradiction are often true. Thats a contradiction though. FUCK HER - DO IT.
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you dipshits are retarded im just gonna dump her ill have with sex with someone i care about. your like the kind of people who would fuck a hooker before you graduate high school so you can say your not a virgin when you get to college. fuck get a life.sex isnt all about the feeling. its a way to bring your relationship to a new level. i cant really do that with someone i barely know soo uhh yeah.
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Glad I could help.
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In reply to: you dipshits are retarded im just gonna dump her ill have with sex with someone i care about. your like the kind of people who would fuck a hooker before you graduate high school so you can say your not a virgin when you get to college. fuck get a life. That's some diggable passion!Keep up the good work.
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I think the people he was referring to probably deserved it.
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ok yea unforgetto your real helpful...not
let me just fuck her and then dump her yea good one bro...your the retard im talking aboutbut anyway im deciding not to dumb her. we talked about it and she says it was a big mistake and she would do anything to take it back but she just wants to be with me and wants to forget about her past. i told her i want to take it slow and she was all for it so i think things might work out.
she also said she only went so fast because she thought thats what i wanted and she didnt want me to get bored of her and leave her. so i dunno if whatever she is saying is legit but itll work for now.
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i came here and everyone else gave great advice your the dickweed that said just fuck her a few more times to get expirence and then dump her. what kind of fucking asshole does that...well obviously you
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lol be a man thats good i like that. if you think girls like having sex then being ditched the next day then good luck bro i aint got nothing for ya
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WOW! What jerk you're being. Are you some kind of woman hater?