There is no one correct post to respond to so lucky you I clicked your to enter my two cents.
When someone close to you dies its a real bitch and fit doesn't just go away. Its been nearly 3 years since my grandpa died and I sat at the bed for months before it happened watching and waiting and hoping. suffering is a bullshit policy for someone who never did anything disgustingly wrong to the world. Watching them an knowing its coming doesn't make it easier when they go. You should feel bad and you should grieve and while it is a normal part of life it doesn't mean you cant feel shitty for a while while you try to get over the fact that you can never see them again and all the things that could of been with them are now lost. I watched all of my grandparents die from the time I was ten, cancer was first then years later it was my other grandma with all her organs shutting down and her blood becoming septic and poisoning her then my grandpa falling and breaking two femurs and getting a staff infection that killed him slowly while he lay in a bed because of a germ he picked up in surgery.
Every time I felt shitty and was depressed and still to this day when I look at my kids and think what they are missing with my grandparents and that makes me fell bad still. Its OK to grieve an its OK to feel shitty years later over the loss.
I understand what Walken meant when he said what he did, he should of used a few more words to clarify and better expressed his ideas on death. But he didn't, Katie understood what he meant and shes fine with it.
Should he of started this thread to have the argument?
probably not. Angel, Wicca is your beliefs and if I attacked them wouldn't you strike back? when you guys jumped him over it you were attacking him, it was a misunderstanding and you all felt that you were defending Katie. Walken should of probably defended himself to you guys in PM's instead of dragging it into the open forum. He didn't, he screwed up but I can understand why and how.
Now that you guys have all had a go at each other in public and Katie has made the statement that she understand what he meant and isn't offended, how about all of you shutting up and if you feel a need to continue this doing it in PM ?
Keep in mind I'm not attacking you guys, just defending Walken to a point and reverberating Katie's wishes to stop arguing over her thread and what was said.
Aside from this post Ill be keeping my ass out of it.
I understand Walkens side and I understand why you all think he was so heartless but isn't all of that beside the point at this current minute in time? You all think of Katie as your Friend, shouldn't you be focusing your efforts and energy toward her instead of to iron out a shitty communication error?
Thats how I see it at any rate, you can all feel however ya like over my opinion.