Why are they being so immature?

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I'm very angry right now so I appologise if I'm not making any sense. I just need to rant for a little bit.Excuse my language, but the shit has finally hit the fan, and my family is about to be ripped apart because the fighting is about to start. You all know that my grandmother just died and everyone seemed to be playing nice, I actually thought that nothing was going to happen, everyone would be civilized and that they would be able to handle my Nanny's will and split thier inheritance without reducing themselves to acting like begrudging children. I guess I was wrong to put that much faith in them. My Nanny lived with my Aunt and her husband (they moved into her home maybe a year or two ago when her health started to decline) and thats really when things started get screwy. Things came up missing, legal documnets were never put into effect, my Nanny was no longer being allowed be alone in a room with out my mother's sister or her husband being present (something noone really thought about/noticed until reasently)... things just weren't being done the way they were supposed to. After my Nanny died things started getting strange. Her will is missing for one thing, also my Auntie dearist and her husband had drawn up some sort of document stating that they would be aloud to pay out/give all of thier siblings thier rightful inheritance within the next ten years. One of my Uncles took it to a court officer and found out that there is something very screwy with the document and that was also when they found out that her will was missing. Things aren't adding up and now my mum along with her other four siblings (there are six of them total - three uncles and two aunts and then my mum) are taking legal action aginst my aunt and her husband because they are trying to keep everything for thier rightful inheritance. I know I'm not making alot of sense, and thats because I'm angry about this because my family is making a mess out of something that should be simple and because there are so many questions that noone can answer. Why does it have to be like this? I knew it was comming...

yeah this is what money can do to people. I mean they had made good intentions to take care of her, but when faced with the possibility of having money or possesions they want, sometimes people will go to extremes. I am sorry it is happening. There is usually some sort of battle that occurs after a death, more of the unsightely side of the human race.Since they are already taking legal action, the only thing you can do is just sit back and watch the war. You are right this could tear your family apart and it may be a good idea to express your comcern to you family so that they know how you feel about it.

Oh sweety! I am SO sorry. For some reason, money and greed seem to come out of people at times like this.Unfortunately, you have to see the ugly side of people I am sure you love. It is almost worse than the death itself...alot of families go through this sort of thing. It is almost unbearable I know! I just went through all the greedies with my friend, and he left a will. I was the one he left it all to. I didn't want it. I just wanted my friend back, but it was like the gates of hell were opened and all the vultures were let out...It's horrible, but there again, in time you will find the way to deal.I know it hurts right now, RANT all you WANT!!!! We're here for you.hugs

I just want to knock the shit out of them and then let them know how foolish they're being. There is no sense in acting like this, there is no need for it.

I've seen it happen to some neighbors of ours. An older brother who has a lot of money already, took control of everything and stiffed the needier siblings. Good thing I'm an only child.

Well my Auntie Dearist and her bastard of a husband have always acted as though they were better than the rest of the family... so it was expected that they would pull a stunt like this. I'm just very, very angry right now because of thier stupidity.

It's not so much stupidity.... It's just plain greed.

I know. All I want to know is why? What will this gain them? Do they not realize that because of their greed they will loose their family's respect, their dignity (if they ever had any), that they will tear this family apart because all they are thinking about is me, me, me? I guess I'm too nieve to understand this...

You need to look into the will part.I dont know about texas but in Utah for the will to be valid it has to be filed with an attorney. Did she retain a regular attorney?If so he would have a copy of it, it has to be signed and noterized. When my granpa died a couple of years agof we had the will and a livig will and his attorney hada copy of them and it was his copy of it that was gone off of not the one that was in the fire box at the house.like people have told you, its greed not stupidity just greed and ethics or a lack of them, maybe they see themselves as being entitled to do this since they were there taking care of her and gave up so much to do so rolls eyesThe human mind can justifie alot of shit right and wrong so that people can live with themselves.Something else to consider, if there is no will then normally the goverment steps in and decides what is to be done with stuff, if none turns up you may not be able to restore your nannys intensions but you may be able to be a pain in the ass to your evil auntie if its a bit of revenge your looking for.

Well I'll admit I can only be nice and care free for so long... I take a lot of shit off of people and I just turn the other cheek so to speak, but once you've crossed a line and made a complete ass of yourself and pushed me too far, I can be a bitch and I will make you life hell. They keep going the way they are right now and that's exactly what I'm going to do. Sounds childish, but that's how I'm feeling right now.
They've pulled the "we gave up so much for her" bullshit... how much can you really be giving up when you're living off someone else's money, spending their fucking money on yourself, living in their fucking house... the list can go on for miles... how much could they have really given up...
I don't know all the details yet about the will, but I'm going to start asking questions, and I'm going to get answers.
Grrr :angry: this crap is pointless!!!

Well, my family has experienced a simular situation with my aunt's will, which someone apparently destroyed it. My aunt was quite wealthy and she had made a good fortune in her life ,since she was a truly hard worker. but after her death, some of the family tried to get the whole inheritance into their greedy hands. It was a huge mess for everyone...I've experienced how greed can change a person into a monster and most of them believe that someone's will is just easy money. But I agree with your mother. I'm sure she and her siblings aren't doing this for the money. They want justice and the last will of their dearest person to become true. I don't believe your whole family is being ripped apart since they get united for a good purpose and against only two persons (your aunt and her husband). I'd suggest you to support your mother in this, because it'll be real hard emotionally of her to deal with this and your aunt.Greed is not stupidity, but a serious weakness.

I am sorry. It's funny though. Well it's not but in a way it is. See, when my grand uncle died everyone first fought over who's fault it was. The cousins my age including my little brother blamed ourselves but the adults didn't know that. Then they argued over his will. Which child gets what? It's like wow you people are sick. Our very close relative just died and you're fighting over money. My grand uncle left me some of his personal things that he's had since a child including this busted up stuffed dog. I sleep with it though lol. And then after fighting over his death, then his will, now they fight over his bills. The hospital bill, the insurance, etc. It was so annoying. And everytime I was at my grandmama's house and I went to go check her mail there would always be his bills in there and seeing his name once again even though he died 3 years ago breaks me down once again. Adults can be immature jerks too. Like pepsi said, greed is very common. Hope things get better. Right now my grand aunt is trying to sell his house back in South Carolina... I don't like her right now. Good luck hun.

I just wish there was some way for us to REALLY help!Kick em all in the *****!!!Sorry hon!

You're right - wills seem to bring out the worst in many people.

It's just the younger you are the less people care or the less you matter lol. Learned that the hard way.

I do not want to think of the battle I am going to have over my dads will once he passes...He has umm well millions up in the air (I will give you a hint, 100s).

awww sis, just what you needed then eh! sighAll I can suggest hon is try and take a step back away from it all, getting so stressed and angry will not make a bit of difference to them things won't change, but it won't do you any good.

I was worried this was going to happen sweetie. I remember you telling me how odd your Aunt and her husband were acting.I agre with Chance, I will have your parents check more into her will as more wills are submitted to an attorny. Looks like the rest of the family has the legal actions going so thats a play.Just keep your chin up and as Angel said don't get too stressed out because it's not going to help the situation.Sounds similar to the story I told you about when my mothers mom died and my aunt took control of everything and now most of the family doesn't look at her the same.So sorry your family has to go through all this darlin. I'll keep the positive thoughts your way!

Aww, that really stinks Katie. I hope everything works out.