Im a Virgin

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Although this may not have any relivance to anyone else i hope you dont mind me expresing myself. Having somwhere to say it where im "unknown" and not there facing the presures of society and its modern day views is just sort of a little weight off my shoulders. As its something i generally lie about out of "embarasment"?.Im a male 18 (Practically 19) years of age. And im still a Virgin. This isnt through lack of offers, religious beleifs or anything of the sort. Its a choice i sort of subconciously made. I know it sounds all "idealistic" and sorta corny but i like the thought of having the woman i intend to spend the rest of my life with to be the one im complety open with and to share the experiance with. It my view it makes it alot more special and to a certain degree a hell of lot more exciting when it finally comes to the time.I'd like to point out that im not trying to throw this in people face or say im better or worse than any1. I beleive that theres 2 peer presures relating to sex and thats to have sex asap and likewise the religions and other beliefs of people that almost bullying you into not having sex. And im equally against both.Why ive brought this up i wouldnt mind knowing some of your views on this subject. Thnks for reading. Gimix.PS: Like i said before i posted this for myself to help me, not to force my views on anyone else. Thnks

There is no reason to be embarrassed about being a virgin, or about wanting to save yourself for the woman you intend to spend the rest of your life with, however, i do think that part of it is very idealic personally, but thats just my opinion.....but i admire you for it.Welcome to the boards

I dunno wether embarassed would be the right word. I suppose its more of a case of its easier 2 say im not than yes i am. Im inclined to agree, it is very idealic. Especially in this kinda day where every1 looses it at very early age. I often wonder wether i make this choice as a cop out because im just not really ready.

At the moment tho i havent met the right girl and it seems a shame to do it for the sake of doing it. I suppose the good thing is a dont feel in any rush. My mind seems set in the People who have done it 2 soon regret it. But people who wait rarly do.

I'm almost 20 and also a virgin. Nothing to worry about.

For my own reasons, that I won't go into here because they're buried in one of my response's somewhere in the depression forum, I didn't have sex till I was twenty-one. I dated half the state, stripped for cash on a regular basis, dated married women (plural), and in general did a few things that may even make this board blush and had a good time doing 'em, but for my own reasons avoided any relationship sexual or otherwise, I just didn't want the problems and responsibilities that went with it. Long and short there is nothing wrong with waiting.To further what, I think, Angel was saying, saving yourself for "the one" is rather Idyllic and things seldom turn out ideally. Please don't misconstrue, I'm not in anyway saying waiting for your ideal is wrong headed, but I will tell you this, to this day, twelve and thirteen years later I still regret and want to kick my own ass for a couple of hot, fine pieces of tail, on which I passed. I, no way in hell, would've wanted to spend my life with 'em but I sure wish I would've spent the night.Where possible, live your life in a manner that you will avoid regret. It's up to you, though, to decide what that means.

I dated half the state, stripped for cash on a regular basis, dated married women (plural), and in general did a few things that may even make this board blush you delightfully dirty man you

Look I know how ya feel. I am going to be 21 in 4.5 months and I have never been with a woman before. I have yet to be on a date to be honest. Now I mean not having sex is no biggy. You have to do it when you feel it is right and so does your partner. I mean if you are doing just to do it, then you may regret you may not. But the best idea is to do it when you feel ready too. Just gotta keep your morales and do what is right.

I totally disagree. I don't think waiting is idealistic at all. I think if that's what he's chosen, then good for him. I think our society acts like kids can't wait, but I know too many who have waited until they're married. It didn't kill them and they were glad they did it.

im in the same boat as u giminx,Im almost 20 and still a virgin,The reason I still am one is because I want my first time to be with sumone special or I like very much.Alot of people cant belive it,but i dont think its that big of a deal

yeah I agree with you. Someone I care about or just someone real close. It is not that big of a deal being a virgin, not having the love is harder.

i got a huge question im 11 and all my 12 and 13 year old friends say that they have goten blow jobs and im confused they say i should get one but im a little scared on that what do i do give some advice

You're still a little young bud! If I were you I'd just wait for it to happen

Hey Champ,Dont rush into anything u dont want to do any a young age,ur friends could be lying to make them selves sounds cool.
Dont let them pressure u into things man,u have plenty of time to do them sort of things.
Unless ur are ready then go for it.But I think 11 is wayyy to young.

if you are not ready, then you have your answer. Only do that when you have true understanding of what sex is and what the ramifications of your actions are.

AS I remember I was 19 before I lost my virginity. It was in the dark ages though and women weren't as sexually liberated as today. One of my girl friends' sisters gave a baby away after she was married rather than let her mother know she was pregnant when she got married. That's inhibition!
Ther's plenty of time to get sexually involved. There is no such thing as free sex. It all has a price of some kind. BE sure you can pay it before you do it.