About one of my "best" friends. Ryan. A former friend who I truly miss.He's such an asshole. I can't understand it. He was one of my first friends when I moved to the city of Hull exactly 4 years ago. Or my first boyfriend. Or my first kiss. But all that suddenly went up in smoke about a year ago after he decided to leave me for good. He never said why. Some say it was that he wanted to go chase after a girl in the 9th grade named Devon, but she wasn't interested I suppose.But, we decided it would be nice to be friends again. Too bad it didn't exactly work as well as I wanted it to. In 7th grade I learned he talked shit about me to his mother and everyone else about me. He even went as far to stop answering my calls, lying to me, and telling me he would have no 13th birthday party and going behind my back and inviting all my friends. All sorts of things. You wouldn't even believe any of the shit he said. It was disgusting. I was so angry, but I never confronted him about any of it because I feared losing him again even though I already lost him.I was very devestated after I found out, too. I began my long-ass depression. I couldn't sleep at night. I realized I still loved him and I wanted his friendship more than anything, but he hated me. I was suicidal.So in 8th grade, I decided to clean up my act and give him more space. It seemed to work. He acted polite to me and he even stopped talking shit. And he even said some nice stuff, too. He called me once. It was awkward. But I was happy.But, recently I found out he's been going back to hating me and talking shit non-stop. He ignores me and I found out he doesn't want to hang out with me. Now I'm pissed off and depressed. I confronted him about it around a month ago, and he denied it, but he later admitted it to a friend and I found out. I tried to ask him about it, but he simply said "Uhh, I'll talk to you later about it, okay?" Then he proceeded to go yell at my friend.But we seem to npt have many problems with fighting...but he never talks to me or asks to hang out or anything. It's like he doesn't bother.It hurts me so much. What should I do? Should I confront him, or just say "You know what? Screw off" ?
Help me, please? Former Love Trouble
Hi Shotgun, I don't know for sure why Ryan is behaving as he is, but one thing that comes through very forcefully to me is that you have not been able to let him go. He has broken up with you and he's no longer your boyfriend, but the way you are thinking is as if you were still together.Perhaps he senses that and that's why he is trying to avoid any contact more than is necessary.It's very hard to break up with someone and remain friends, and it doesn't seem like you two can do it. I'm afraid it's going to be necessary for you two to live separate lives. You'll still have the memories, but don't try to relive them with him.
hey , he is surly not the only man on the earth , right? & even if he was, he doesn't call u , he says bad things about u & doesnt explain y he did it,& doesnt appologize. screw him. let him fuck off & when u find someone else , i bit he'll run like a dog after u callin u to come back, but even if he still doesn't regret u , u better start a new life anyway , & never look behind u on people who dont want u around. u'll sure have someone who loves the sand u walk on & he'll make u feel better too. but i advise u to take a short vacation from this love issues till u r completely recovered from your past experience for fear it will affect your ability to choose again. don't date the first one you run into ok? just think again & again before u decide to bear all the sequences of a new relation ,hope i was a bit useful :smile:
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He is a pathetic, Immature little boy.He's young and definetly doesnt know the meaning of anything you guys had. You're young too.. I know it hurts but you are kind of a bit young to be thinking of such a serious relationship.My advise: Get over him. Cut him off all together, it will hurt him more then it will hurt you.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.