Have you ever been bullied?

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It's because they develop contempt for others.
It starts with disrespecti being labelled as cool, which happens a lot these days.
Then comes contempt. Then abuse.

Its really sad.

In high school one punk kid used to just talk shit and try and punk me every now and then. Im a pretty calm guy so i just blew it off like it was nothing until this guys little ass friends would try and punk me infront of their dork skater friends. One kid walked up to me and called me "cock sucker" and i immediately stuck him in his chin then hit him about 5 more times. I almsot got expelled for that but the "bully" tried to be my friend after that but id still fight him today cuz i know hes being fake. Im a nice guy and try to be friends but too many people wanna be cocky and claim they can fight anyone. I recently boxed one of these emo-kids whos gay and kept teasing my bro and friend by pinching theri asses in public. I had fun breaking his nose. Ive never in my life enticed a fight though. If youre being bullied to a point its out of control just stick whosever bullying you. win or loose you have to do something or else youll put up with it forever.

I agree with you. Looking back now, I can honestly say I regret allowing some else's taunts to affect me as much as they did. It really wasn't worth it because I know now I'm not the person they 'thought' I should be. A person can only make you feel inferior if you allow them to, which is something I did for many years until I learned that I am a good person and that I don't have to put up with other people's stupidity. It's not worth it in the end.

People only treat you how you allow them to, but it takes age and a few life experiences to get to the point where you realise that, and feel comfortable enough about yourself and who you are not to put up with it anymore. The whole bullying thing tends to be miniscule once your out of the school system, tho there will always be some arsehole who needs a good smack in the mouth LOL

In reply to: kids now-a-days are horible! That is nothing new, its been that way since school and kids first came about.The only thing you can do about it is to stand up for yourself and stop taking thier shit.

AND TELL AN ADULT!

I suppose that is an option, not one that I think does any good.It may in some cases I suppose but in my experience and granted that was long ago, it only made it worse.two weeks ago my son was being picked on and told his teacher. Didn't help and only made it worse. at night he bitched to me about how after I met with his principal thats where it stopped, nothing further was done. This morning I got a call saying to come pick him up he was being suspended from school for fighting. That was from the secretary.I show up to school and he is in the office and the principal is talking to him being pissy about fighting has no excuse.I walked in ignored the principal and started talking to my son about who started it and was it the same kid I was in here filing a complaint over a short while ago.the principal told me to address him and not my son so I turned around and told him to sit down and shut the fuck until I was ready to deal with him. he leaned over his desk and started yelling at me and I told him to shut up or he would need to call an ambulance that i was through with his bullshit this is the 5th time Iv been to school over nonsense and this time it would be finished.he shut up long enough to find that it was the same kid and that nothing was done to him aside from talking to him and that only made it worse so this morning when my son was putting books in his locker and this kid came from the blind side and pushed my sons head in the locker and smashed it with the door he turned around and punched him in the throat, the kid grabbed his throat and my son busted him in the nose then followed it with a hook that sent the kid to the ground.that kid was back in class and My son was being suspended ??after I threatened them with a law suit and grabbed my son they suddenly seemed really cooperative and pulled the kid into the office that started this shit. called his parents and when his mom showed up she was disrespectful and called my son a liar and a little bastard. I offered to kick her husbands ass any time he says to do so and gave her my business card so he can contact me should he have any balls.I have an appointment with the district president this afternoon at 1230 and Iv already spoken to the police. Its called self defense, there are plenty of witnesses to what has happened and fall the shit that led up to it.We have brought assault charges against the little bastard and he was taken from the school while i was there and my son is stil in class.I would like to bust the little bastard myself and am really pretty happy my son bloodied his fucking nose and ruined his shirt with blood stains.Ever been dealing Whit kids in a meeting with a school like that and had a 14 year old kid tell you to fuck off when your talking to the principal??fuck stick kid got what he deserves but only a taste of what he should of had over a the years he has been doing this shit.I'm going to the district only because I do not feel like the school handled this in the right way and let it go on and on and then tried to suspend my son for defending himself.why did this kid start this shit?I have that answer too.My son plays basket ball and is the tallest kid in his grade. the other kid is a full year older then my son.in gym they were playing ball with the teacher acting as ref and when this kid went for a lay up my son stuffed his ass, got a hand on top of the ball and when this kid jumped instead of pushing the ball past the hand he ended up in the air and his arms pushed the ball with the ball not going anyplace he pushed himself down and hit the ground.when he stood up he started talking shit about kicking his faggot ass and my son told him anytime your ready, thats when the coach grabbed them and split them up.thats the last time in this mess that anything was handled correctlyall because of a fucking gym basketball game that the kid got stuffed and felt stupid for having a younger kid punk his ass on the court.where do you see a chance for anything else to have happened?fan adult was present when it started. in the halls after class it continued for weeks, Iv spoken to the principal on one other occasion abut this same incident and the bullshit that has followed it and the couch backed up my sons story of what happened.explain how telling helped at all??I do not like my kids to fight but I expect them to stand up for themselves. so long as they do not start the fight i support them 100% IN FIGHTING. The last kid that puled this shit with my son he hit one time in the cheek and that kid was taken fro the school with a concussion. His parents sued me and they lost, their kid started it and you have the right to defend yourself. I rather like you Damien but I think on this subject and politics you and I will never be on the same side.Violence begets violence, an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. No one will stand up for you aside from you, its u to you to take care of yourself.Enjoy, I have a haf hour to be in town and meet with the district president, super intendant? what ever you want to call him, Ill be bakc to defned myself sometime after that

Just to fill in,a waste of time.I get we willlook into it and contact the principal ad make sure it doesnt happen again.SO that you know, I a real lpain in the ass to this school district.I have another son who is diabetic and they were refusing him to have his medical kit and candy ( for emergency lows) in his class rooms and it took me blowing up to get it straightened out so that he coud have his glucometer and suppies in his classes. Thye felt it ws disruptive to the other kids if he is eating candy or drawing blood and it would be ok if he left it in the office. so we have had many a go around between us over my kids and what they wil and will not do in accoradance with the americans with disabilities act. I always win and they always dread hearing from me again and hope to hell I will die or move or go away. One prinsicpal gave my son a shot with no nowledge of what he was doing or what to draw up with not so much as a phone call to home to check shit out. Nearly killed him and it ended up in an ambulance after passing out on his way home and falling in a lump the side walk.Earned that principal a ass beating in his office and ended with me being led out of the school in hand cuffs and placed under arrest.I won that case in court after pleding not guilty to assault. so many factors lead to guilty or innocent and really has nothing to d with if you actually hit someone or not.I stand by my original post, take care of it, you may get your ass kicked and you may win but it will go on forever if you simply put up with it.

Why isn't this a poll?Oh well. I have and am, because I'm still in 8th grade.Mental bullying isn't to bad on me...its always the physical that really sucks. I gets thats because I have the mental capability to blow their heads up. (exaggeration) "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

probaly should of been a poll, it would keep us all from ranting (*raises hand* Guilty)

on the other hand, mental or physical, either form is unacceptable and you need to deal with it. Using my methods, or those prefered by other people on this board.
Pick a method and deal with it, do SOMETHING.

"Brain Damage"

[Doctor] Scalpel
[Nurse] Here
[Doctor] Sponge
[Nurse] Here
[Doctor] Wait.. he's convulsing, he's convulsing!
[Nurse] Ah!
[Doctor] We're gonna have to shock him!
[Nurse] Oh my! Oh my God!
[Doctor] We're gonna have to shock him!
[Nurse] Oh my God!

[Eminem]
These are the results of a thousand electric volts
A neck with bolts, "Nurse we're losin him, check the pulse!"
A kid who refused to respect adults
Wore spectacles with taped frames and a freckled nose
A corny lookin white boy, scrawny and always ornery
Cause I was always sick of brawny bullies pickin on me
And I might snap, one day just like that
I decided to strike back and flatten every tire on the bike rack
(Whosssssh) My first day in junior high, this kid said,
"It's you and I, three o'clock sharp this afternoon you die"
I looked at my watch it was one twenty
"I already gave you my lunch money what more do you want from me?!?"
He said, "Don't try to run from me, you'll just make it worse..."
My palms were sweaty, and I started to shake at first
Something told me, "Try to fake a stomach ache it works"
I screamed, "Owww! My appendix feels like they could burst!
Teacher, teacher, quick I need a naked nurse!"
[N] "What's the matter?"
[E] "I don't know, my leg, it hurts!"
[N] "Leg?!? I thought you said it was your tummy?!?"
[E] "Oh, I mean it is, but I also got a bum knee!"
[N] "Mr. Mathers, the fun and games are over.
And just for that stunt, you're gonna get some extra homework."
[E] "But don't you wanna give me after school detention?"
[N] "Nah, that bully wants to beat your ass and I'ma let him."

[Chorus: repeat 2X]

Brain damage, ever since the day I was born
Drugs is what they used to say I was on
They say I never knew which way I was goin
But everywhere I go they keep playin my song

[Eminem]
Brain damage..
Way before my baby daughter Hailey
I was harassed daily by this fat kid named D'Angelo Bailey
An eighth grader who acted obnoxious, cause his father boxes
so everyday he'd shove me in the lockers
One day he came in the bathroom while I was pissin
And had me in the position to beat me into submission
He banged my head against the urinal til he broke my nose,
Soaked my clothes in blood, grabbed me and choked my throat
I tried to plead and tell him, "We shouldn't beef"
But he just wouldn't leave, he kept chokin me and I couldn't breathe
He looked at me and said, "You gonna die honkey!"
The principal walked in (What's going on in here?)
and started helpin him stomp me
I made them think they beat me to death
Holdin my breath for like five minutes before they finally left
Then I got up and ran to the janitor's storage booth
Kicked the door hinge loose and ripped out the four inch screws
Grabbed some sharp objects, brooms, and foreign tools
"This is for every time you took my orange juice,
or stole my seat in the lunchroom and drank my chocolate milk.
Every time you tipped my tray and it dropped and spilt.
I'm gettin you back bully! Now once and for good."
I cocked the broomstick back and swung hard as I could
and beat him over the head with it til I broke the wood
Knocked him down, stood on his chest with one foot..
.. Made it home, later that same day
Started reading a comic, and suddenly everything became gray
I couldn't even see what I was tryin to read
I went deaf, and my left ear started to bleed
My mother started screamin, "What are you on, drugs?!?
Look at you, you're gettin blood all over my rug!" (Sorry!)
She beat me over the head with the remote control
opened a hole, and my whole brain fell out of my skull
I picked it up and screamed, "Look bitch, what have you done?!?"
[M] "Oh my God, I'm sorry son"
[E] "Shut up you cunt!" I said, "Fuck it!"
Took it and stuck it back up in my head
then I sewed it shut and put a couple of screws in my neck

[Chorus]

[Eminem]
Brain damage..
It's brain damage..
I got brain damage..
It's brain damage..
It's probably brain damage..
It's brain damage..
Brain damage..
I got brain damage..

Yeah, I guess we do disagree on this one, huh?I'm not saying there aren't times when a kid is justified in throwing a punch in self defense. And I'm certainly not saying that all adults do the job they are supposed to do in relation to protecting kids. But on the whole, telling an adult when your being bullied is a most advisable action. For several reasons. Not the leas of which is the weight it gives you later - as you described - when you are able to say "you were told this was going on and you did nothing." But the main reason is that, most of the time, the adult will do something. Particularly now when the cost of not doing anything is getting higher. More states are passing anti-bullying legislation that make it illegal for them to not do anything.Kids are kids and adults are adults. Adults know how to protect kids from bullies better than kids do.I hope your situation works out and the teachers and principal in your son's school are held accountable for their lack of action. That kind of inaction pisses me off. They have a responsibility to your son and they failed miserably.

In reply to: Thye felt it ws disruptive to the other kids if he is eating candy or drawing blood and it would be ok if he left it in the office. That's absurd! You need to send your boys to another school!How easy would it be for your son's teacher to make this an education opportunity for the class. "________ is a dieabetic. _______ can you share with the class what that means?" Teacher blew it.

lately i havent been bullied, but people provoke me for whatever reason. people who dont know me. kids tell me what to do, or give me wrong directions on purpose, or yell stuff at me as if they want to fight. i dont always do something, because i dont know my own strength. some days im quite strong, other days im weak. i dont want to fight in case im having a weak day. what do i do?

yeah i have from when i was about 7 and still am and now im 17i have learned to stick up for myself but i still hate iti was and am bullied because im different but i would never consider changing who i am

And you shouldn't have to.Good for you!

it still hurts thoughi sometimes feel tht i dont want to go to school, i wont go to any of my friends parties because i know there will people there that have bullied me and they will again because unlike my friends i dont drink

when i tried to change my life, i didnt change my personality, i just improved it by being more assertive. Becoming more aggressive or confident is not changing who you are, it's self-improvement.
If somebody at a party is bullying you, and your friends are there, wouldnt your friends help you?

I haven't ever really been bullied. But I have had some people try to rob me. Darn older people eh? lol I didn't really stand a chance, but I got some help so they got nothing. Other than that nothing really.