Hi everyone! This is my first post, and I wanna thank you all for any responses ahead of time.Im 35yo, and about 9 months ago, I suddenly completely lost my sexual drive.Im single, altho have an ex-girlfriend who I am still occasionally active with.Before losing my drive, I was masturbating prob twice a day.My cock used to get so hard, that my partner and I both felt like it was hard as a pipe.It was wonderful.I got hard in seconds, and could have unbelieveable sex.Now I have lost my drive, and although I love women, and sex, I just feel no horniness whatsoever.It almost feels like my dick is dead, for lack of a better term.If im getting hot and heavy with my partner, I sometimes still get hard, but its seems to take effort, which never happened before.I seem to cum very fast now, versus before, and almost immediately lose my hardon, which used to stay erect for quite some time afterwards, even getting a second round of sex alot of times.I recently went to my Dr,and he feels its just anxiety, and put me back on lexapro, which I have been on before, with no sexual problems.I have read a lot about low testosterone, and this is a major symptom, from what I understand.I have an appt to have my test. level checked next week, and I'm wondering if anyone has ever felt like this, and if so, how did it work out? It just seems odd that it seemed all of a sudden.I do have my share of stress, as I'm a single father, with the job, mortgage, etc, but its never been a problem before...Any replies are greatly appreciated!
Lost my drive
I'm so sorry to hear that. It's not the end of the world though, so chin up.
How long were you OFF Lexapro? I guess your body might be adjusting or the side effects are apparent now that you're under more stress, perhaps?
My boyfriend has some of those symptoms and was told he has low testosterone. He was given these packs of gel-like substance. He doesn't follow up closely with his doctor though, the dope.
It's great that you spoke with your doctor and started working on a solution.
Oh, and welcome to the forums!
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Havoc2000: I went through a stage of not wanting sex a few years ago, i didn't seek any help from doctors, I wish i had realised that there could have been something out there that might have helped..............don't be too hard on yourself, it will no doubt pass, hopefully the Dr. will have a solution, whether it be medication or something else............
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Thanks for the input, winged, and angelwitch.I dunno about the oysters, fitness fanatic, lol.Anyway,I was off the lexapro for probably a year or more.Didnt seem to have a problem then.I dont believe it has anything to do with the lexapro.My Dr. put me on it to help with some anxiety I've been having, hoping that stress is the underlying factor.He also gave me some cialis, which I have yet to try.Its not a matter of not getting it up, I dont feel the desire or drive that I had a year ago, and I just cant explain it.I really do hope they find I have low testosterone levels, at least then I'll have some sort of understandable explanation.Until then, I have no choice but to go with it i guess....
Sweetie, you're also getting older and you won't be as horny as you used to be. I'm 26 and I know I'm not as horny as I was when I was 19 or so. I mean, it seems like a sudden dip and I think it really might just be stress. My boyfriend has the desire but can't always get it... up.
Worrying about it might only compound the issue. Do you still get together with your ex-girlfriend? Is she supportive and okay if you don't feel like having sex? Again, I think it's great you're working with your doctor. Far too many guys let pride get in the way.
havoc sorry to say I have almost the exact problem. I dont take any meds for anxiety or strss though I am 34 and seem to have lost my drive only thing is I dont get hard enough to cum sometimes Dr. gave me cialis too (a sample) this doesnt happen all everytime I have sex so I cant say if the medication has done anything or not. Sorry to say this but from what I hear this is just a normal part of aging Please let us know about your testostrone level I wonder if mine is low as well I didnt ask the Dr though I originaly went to Dr for Prostate pain had an infection he put me on antibiotics and that seemed to help some.
The less you have sex the less you deisire it.
THe more yu have th mor you want.
Something like that, I remember reading it long ago so I am going to have to look around to see what I can find on that.
Im going to be 35 in April and I want sex all the time. My fiance will be 33 in May and she is always up for it as well.
Aging contributs to lack of desire some Im sure but its not the be all end all result of it.
I am more into sex now then I was when I was 20.
Since limiting myself to one girl and having my vasectomy Im having all I can with her, its only gotten better and the desir stronger not weaker.
Let's agree to respect each others views, no matter how wrong yours may be.
There is a reduction in sex drive and performance with age, but there shouldn't be such severe effects in the 30s - that's not normal ageing. Also, a sudden loss of sex drive as the original poster reports, rather than a slow decline, suggests a medical or psychological cause.
Well I dont really think its due to age, just one year ago I was masturbating 3 times a day, then all of a sudden I just had no drive at all, which makes it very hard to get an erection, because then I'm worrying about why I have no drive.Its a viscous cycle, lol.Actually, I havent even tried the cialis yet.My ex girlfriend came over the other day, and we had sex.After laying there and talking and cuddling and stuff, I was going for a second round, so I am not completely dead I guess.I have been back on the lexapro for about 10 days now, and my anxiety is def reduced, maybe that is connected to it all....I still have an appt next week to check my testosterone level, Then, once I find out the results, I'll keep everyone posted.