Hey guys, I've been dating this girl for almost 9 months now, at first we saw each other like every 3 or 4 days, cause we were both shy and stuff but now its got really serious..We spend 95 percent of our time togather, when she gets home from school or when I get off work we always tell each other to phone and then she comes over to my house or I go over there and we just sit around in the hot tub or go shopping, normally the same thing everyday.. Every day she doesnt have school we usuhally sleep over at each others houses ( her parents are home and I sleep on a matress in the basement , but usually she sleeps with me till 7:00 or so in the morning then heads to bed..Shes' went on 2 trips, she is now over in Europe and it just kills cause theres nothing to do without her , I mean I have friends but its just so hard to call them and be like whats up wanna do something after like months of not doing anything, just until she gets back then screw them off again..Since she has went on her trip (returning this saturday) I have been smoking weed alot at night and thinking up dumb shit relizing how much time we spend togather.. Dont get me wrong I love EVERY moment spent with her, and I will never get tired of it, but I just think she might.We've went over kids and the future with getting married and stuff and planning to move out and go on a trip this summer to Germany and backpack all over europe.I mean we talk about EVERYTHING , down to the weirdest things that we think, about embarrising things, everything people wouldnt normally tell. But after all that I have said (SORRY FOR LONG READ) is this just meant to be and extreme love or is it just gonna lead us into trouble and getting sick of each other ( we havent had a day we havent seen each other in like 5 months (aside from trips she had to go on)....I dunno why I am thinking this now, maybe something to do with marijuana lol.. But its just im thinking of our repetitive life, not really doing anything just hanging out togather all the time doin the same thing, but we really like each otherThanks guys
Spending to much time togather?
See, this is why I always try to maintain strong ties with friends even during the early stages of a relationship.How old are you? I'm guessing you're both in your teens? You'll grow to learn that it's very important, that even if you're in love, to keep your own space and build your separate relationships, making new friends, doing things alone.Maybe now is a good time for you to mend your friendships and try and strengthen those bonds while she's away. But not to blow your friends off the second she gets back. You can't go through life like that, completely dependent on one person for... well, everything.
I understand how you feel. I am the same way and i did the same stuff. But as said already, you need your space. It may be tough but you need to have a life outside of her (no pun intended).
Even though you have a girlfriend, it is important to keep friends that were close to you. It can't be stressed enough that too much time together can be very negative to the relationship. She went to Europe, you go out with your buddies. If she does not want you to have friends then she is not the one for you. Phone your buddies up and go out and do somthing together.
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