Its all a game of numbers, ask ten girls and you get one yes, ask 100 and you get 10 yes's. Find new ways to meet girls and ask them out.People assume that you can not just walk up and tak to someone you never met before and end up asking them out.Bullshit I say. If I ony asked out girls i know I would of had far far less dates then I had. Besides if you dont ask them when you see them tht first time you may never get another chance to see them again or get to know them to ask them out.Iv asked out girls Iv known for 10 seconds and got a yes and Iv asked some out I knew for 1/2 hour in a bar and was very loudly told to fuck off. no way to figure what thte odds are just play the numbres, the more yu ask the more chance of having a date you have, the more dates you go on the mor likely you are to find a girl you actually want to be with and tht wants to be with you.its all math
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It's back to haunt me
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22??? I though you were a lot older. Shit... Like Chance said.. The more shots you take the better the chances you hit the target. Just don't go into it with any expectations. Consider it a learning experience with you getting better and better as you learn from the past.
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Honestly here is what it boils down to, and believe me... I'm pretty much your age and have been going through the same drama, it's all in your head.
See when you dated this girl you loved her right? Dumb question! But what is love essentially? Ok spare the mooshy emotional crap... what is it technically? Just chemical reactions inside your brain. I was the exact same way. I was smitten with my girl for about a year and a half... seeing eachother a couple times a week... talking to her daily... you know the drill. Then *snap* it's gone in an instant.
She's still there for you but not in the romantic way. She isn't giving you the "love" so to speak (ie. the chemical reactions producing the feeling of love). And your body loves routine.... oh does it love routine! To take that away hurts something fierce.
Now your probably saying... well shit man that was 18 months ago what gives?
You were an addict. When you broke up it was the equivalent of throwing out the package of smokes to an unsuspecting smoker. They can go for a week then BAM they just catch a whiff of smoke on the street and all the good feelings come rushing back. Same is true in your case. Just seeing her for a little while was your "Hit" so to speak... you didn't necessarily have to be romantic... just to be in her presence intoxicated you again.
And like me, months of this brutal agony would go on. She'd leave and you would reminece... and then she would pop back in your life giving you that "Hit." just one last time over and over. Even getting a text message would put ya in euphoria.
You don't want to listen to people here because when she does come around you delude yourself into thinking there still a chance something might happen one day. You think that maybe just maybe if I can salvage this one part of this relationship I can make it work. Your wrong. It's not going to work. Not the way your tackling it.
You HAVE to put an end to it. Your gonna feel like shit and go through some desperate times but you'll come out ok.
Don't make excuses. Yea it's a public place. yea you can't legally make her stay away. Ask her nicely. Be like "You know I'm still having trouble getting over you and I would appreciate it if you could give me the space I need. I don't want to talk to you anymore. i just need to work on things in my life, get myself together and your not the cause of it or anything it's just your a distraction!" she'll take the hint.I havn't seen my girl in 2 or 3 months now. I've talked to her a hand full of times. I went through some rough patches but your body adapts.... again it loves routine and will establish a new one once that intoxicating woman is gone.
Do it for yourself.
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Well I did tell her to go away...but guess what!!!! she came in to work today to annoy me again. she was saying how her best friend was annoying her cos she flirts with all of my exes new boyfriends. This is exactly the kind of crap that i'm talking about.So now I've established that telling her to leave me alone doesn't work - so whats the next step? Restraining order?Seriously she's really upset me today. She's like cancer. A malignant annoyance that you can temporarily treat, but it keeps coming back and will eventually kill me.
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just ignore her and tell her you have work to do
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It's hard when she walks in to an empty shop with me goofing about with my colleague. She threatened to come in on Thursday. I'm either gonna have to stay in hiding or come up with some way to disappear if she turns up.
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tell your manager.. ahah.. she'd be pretty scared if he said something to her.
Why don't you just hide out in the back room.
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I'm the assistant manager...i.e. when the manager isn't there, I'm there instead, so the whole manager thing doesnt work And I can't just hide out all day cos I'll get accused of not doing any work (also we work on commission, so I'd earn nothing all day)It's a really annoying situation
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Then you need to tell her to leave. Flat out
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You're letting her get to you because you don't want to let go. It's not as much about her as it is about you. She plays with you because it's easy, you always give in. I know it's not easy, I've been there (on both sides of the fence, often the one playing games) but you really have to put your foot down. When she drops by, just be firm and tell her if it's not connected to work you really have nothing to hear or say. You should also be aware that you do have rights and if she continues to harass you, you could get a restraining order as extreme as that sounds. You have to be firm... and not show doubt. She senses the doubt and uses it against you, dear.
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the longer you pine over this woman the longer it is before you can move on and meet the woman you were born to be with lad...your an assistant manager so you've had your fair share of crappy customers. Do you bend and twist under them? No you have to be stern and strong in front of the bad ones.She's a bad customer mate...you know what to do... so whats stopping you?If your still asking yourself re-read what I've already written above It's time for her part in your life to be over... at least for this portion of your life.