Hey guys and gals,im really lost and desperate at this point. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for just over a year and our sex life pretty much sucks, im not going to lie. I mean, we have sex a couple times a week but its the same thing, you know? and originally, i would always start everything and do different things to her... but always felt like she didnt like it so id stop and gradually came to the point where i was honestly afraid to touch her. Basically she needs to start everything. and recently, as expected i told her this. she doesnt understand that guys can get scared because they dont want to be shut down again... ive tried talking to her... what should i do? i really have no idea... ahhhh
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Really Lost
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Yikes difficult situation, I think the only thing you can really do is tell her whats going on, otherwise things won't be getting any better.
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Well im 20 and shes 19 turning 20 in a month... i seriously would like to goto some sort of councilling(sp??)...but i mean... when were not fighting and shes in a normal mood, haha, we can sort of talk about things... but as soon as it comes down to doing things its like completely different... sorry for the sketchy details but i dont even know what goes on... and its just so frusterating... she says things like we dont try anything new ... and this is where i get SO mad... im the one who is saying all these new things and shell go right back to what weve been doing forever... and i mean thats fine but DONT blame me for not trying new things... i bet im 100 times more willing to try new things than her... ugh... thanks guys ... ill keep ya posted on what has been happening
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java. ya but thats the problem.. i try to talk and its like talking to a brick wall... and i mean shes a smart girl and its like she gets instantly retarded when we talk about this... like a complete 180girls...pft
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Do you see yourself with her in 1-2-3 years? if so, you should fix this otherwise you'll wind up resenting her. Counsling if you see a future, if not you need to tell her point-blank
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She may have alot of underlying issues within herself too. Did you ever ask her what she wants to be different? Women can be extremley complicated. Some women want the guy to wow them with flowers, be kissed everywhere, romance and candles before they try somthing new. They have to feel special. If you do this and it does not work, then it may be a rough road ahead.