Well what are your views/thoughts on this issue from all angles. From the kids point of view about parents, to actual people who have done it or have thought about it or if you have a different angle, what is it...
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Divorce
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My parents havent. and never will divorce, but my friend either loved it or hated it. majority loved that their parents split tho. I think, if you cant fix things, or thiere is lying/cheating it might be for the best to get divorced.
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My parents divorced when I was very young. I don't remember even ever living with my father. I've seen families holding on by a thread and they refuse to get divorced. Because they still love each other? No, because of the kids. I think staying in a bad marriage for the kids only screws them up more. Kids are not as stupid as many adults would like to think.I had friends who were in that situation. They would always talk to me and say how much they hate the fighting and how much they wish their parents would just split already. Made them very sad and I killed me to see them like that.
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I have been happily divorced and remarried. I am so glad to get rid of the "ditch pig" It took a long time, but I have full custody of my children, and my ex has not seen the children for over 2 years, never sent a christmas or birthday card, not even called. While it's sad to think of that, at least my kids don't live with a crackhead(s). They don't live with gang members, do well in school and seem happy too. My youngest was 4 and the oldest was 9 when my ex split. The details that followed are pretty harsh and seem unreal. PM if you want gory details . I don't think that everyone would be interested.
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My parents divorced when I was 19. They had been married for 23 years, so you can't say it will never happen. It didn't really affect me that much, partially because of my age. My brother was 13 at the time, and from what I could see he handled it pretty well. I think it all depends on the logistics of the divorce and how it's handled. Some can be mean and nasty and others aren't.
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What do you all think justifies divorce?
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there is a lot of things, but I think its something that is unforgivable. If something happens thats unforgivable, then a divorce would be a good idea. If you grow to hate the person your with ect,
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If my wife would fool around with another guy...it's a divorce.If my wife showed signs of violence toward me or children...it's a divorce.If my wife constantly lied about everything...it's a divorce.Simply put, you CAN'T change someone who wants to be a piece of garbage. To all those in a bad relationship, quit before you get married. There is no need to kick yourself for the rest of your life because you hate your partner.
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My mom and dad divorced and then recently my dad divorced my stepmother. The longer you wait the longer you'll be unhappy. I'd rather be miserable for a little while then forever. :scream_cat:It's definatly a sucky situation but if it needs to be done then do it.In their situations it needed to be done.
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Well, i was only 3 years old when my parents split. And now im 15 i dont even see my father. He was a bad man, he abused my mum and drank conistantly. I h8 that i dun have a proper father. I have a step father but in my mind ive always wonderd what it would be like to live with my real father. I do not even know if he is alive
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If you must do it - then do it. The parents will generally be happier, though the kids generally suffer depending on their age.
Whatever you do, DO NOT involve the children in any way, or have them 'choose sides'. Don't ever put them on the spot or put them in a position where they have to pick a favourite. Don't ever use your children as a messenger for the other. Don't ever make it about maintenance/child support - you make your children feel like a meal ticket.
I went through it as a kid and it was really difficult for those reasons above and more. If these types of things were excluded it would have been much easier.
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I'm so glad my parents arent divorced. Though it sucks hearing them bitch about eachother alot. I know they never will