ok im not a christian, but my gf is, and its never affected anything, we've done everything but sex, oral and mutual masturbation and stuff, but now i really want to have sex, but i know shes against it cause of her belief, we've been going out for 8 months and we're both 17, i really want to do it, cause i may love her, and idea on what i should do from here?
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Sex and Christianity, please help
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You have to respect her wishes.That's about all I can really say.. you can't try to force it upon her. Just ask her if she wants too, and if she says no, then you're going to have to hold off.
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She may just need more time to feel secure about the idea... or she may not want to at this point in her life. Either way, hold off and try to give her some space on the topic. Be sure that she realizes you're not trying to persuade her to do something she doesn't want to do.
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Respect her wishes, its her choice. If you do love her, it shouldnt make much difference.
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Well maybe you can talk to her and tell her you want to have sex. Just because she's a christian doesn't mean she doesn't want to have sex. Talk to her and see what she says, but don't force her into it. Good luck
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In reply to: Well maybe you can talk to her and tell her you want to have sex. Just because she's a christian doesn't mean she doesn't want to have sex. if she thinks he really wants sex, she will feel pressured. and maybe she wants to wait until marriage, so she can be "pure" for her husband, it makes sense.
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If you "know" that shes against it cos of her religeon then it would be wrong to apply any kind of pressure about it.
If sex is what your after I suggest you look elsewhere.
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did anyone catch this???
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cause i may love her
Listen if you love her, then holding off for her should be not anything hard. It is called respect, just because you want something doesn not mean she should change her view to meet your desires. If she is set of marriage then be with her and keep doing what you are doing.
As far as maybe loving her...well that is your issue to figure out.
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If you love her, respect her. Stick with the other stuff which can still be fun!
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Have you openly talked about it? Some Christians are different about it. I'm not christian and my girlfriend is, but we've already explored... nearly everything in the norm.