Recently I have been spending alot of time on the phone to my girlfriend, who lives like 5 hours away, so along with MSN and texting its the best communication. But my parents are getting really nosey, constantly asking who I'm talking to, why am I spending so much time on the phone, who am I emailing, whos that? (pointing to the msn conversations). I've used as many excuses as I can "homework help" "just talking to a mate" "talking to my uncle" but I just cant take it anymore. I'm so sick of having to answer to my parents, its my life, its my phone... (my mobile) therefor they have no right to know who I'm talking to.It's getting alot worse that it was a few weeks ago, my dad actually attacked me today when I was on the phone, trying to get it off me to see who I was talking to. It makes me feel so sick, trapped, depressed. I dont know its so hard to explain, I just want my privacy back, I dont know what to do xx
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I cant describe the feeling...
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How old are you?
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I'm 15, 16 in like two months.
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Well for the most part at that age, parents tend to be very strict. It is good in a way they are watching over you like that because they may want to make sure you arent going the wrong path in life, drugs for example. But physical abuse is where the line is drawn
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I think that type of parenting is much better then the parents who don't give a shit.Just remember that you're living under their roof.. and their rules.
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They're probably worried your talking to someone you shouldnt be...They are your parents, they're supposed to care.
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AND you are lucky to have parents who care!
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I suppose, but I have told them i'm just talking to a mate.
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well you said you were talking to your girlfriend...yet you hide it when you talk to her on the phone and just call her a friend?lamer. why not just be upfront about it? "You know what dad? I'm talking to my girlfriend, could i have some privacy please?"doesn't that sound so much better then "oh... uh... erm... just a mate... yea... for uh... homework... lets go with that."your 16. you date. you like girls. if anything this will relieve your father instead of worrying him.
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it seems like they don't trust u enough, and thats really normal because if you were really talking to someone you shouldn't u'd lie to them about it wouldn't u?, so they're just making sure.
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Actually, they do have a right to know who you're talking to. It's a hard pill to swallow, but you are a minor and they are your parents. You basically don't have the rights you think you might have. They have the right to know what you're doing, who you're talking to, etcetera and so on. And that's a good thing.Maybe if you were honest with them instead of lying to them, they would lay off a bit. As it is, why do you think you deserve more privacy if you're demonstrating that you can't be trusted? Or is there an actual reason why you don't want them to know who you're talking to.Bottom line...you're the kid...they're the adults.
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But, you see, you're lying. And they can most likely tell your lying, so they dont have any trust in you.If you want to be treated like a trusted adult, you have to act like on first.
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I agree, your parents can tell you're lying, and that would worry most parents. They may be afraid it's some predatory older male. And your parents seem to have serious personality problems themselves and you all live in an atmosphere of constant stress, which is likely to make them worry more.Can you simply say it's a close friend? You can even say "girlfriend" - girls are allowed to have them.
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But that guy above is wacky your parents don't have a right to know shit about personal thoughts
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Thoughts? No. Who the person is talkingto on the phone? Yes.
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In reply to:
But that guy above is wacky your parents don't have a right to know shit about personal thoughts
Hey, wacky guy here.
I didn't say they had a right to know your thoughts. That's just absurd.
What I said is that, if you are living in your parents house and especially if you are a minor, your parents absolutely have the right to know who you're talking to/phoning/pm'ing/ seeing, etc. You may not like it, but dem's da biscuits.
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I don't know if anyone else has picked up on this, but isn't the OP a girl? Maybe she hasn't told her parents yet (that she is gay or bi-sexual, whatever she happens to be). If this is the case Sexy_kt, and you don't want to tell them, just say you are talking to a friend, you could even tell them her name. You don't have to be talking to friends about homework or anything in particular, just say you are catching up.