My mom and dad went through a lot of things for the last couple months or so. In the beginning of the year we found out that my mom cheated and had to get an abortion. SHe felt really guilty and ashamed of herself and said that she would change her ways because she goes out a lot with her friends to the clubs. Well she didnt take her word. SHe still going out with her friends, and still seeing the guy that she had the abortion with. I know it cause she talks about him on the phone with her friends. I hate it when she talks on the phone she doesnt care what she says and my bro and I hears everything she says like "omg that guy was so hot, if it wasnt for me we wouldnt be getting free drinks" talking like shes single and bragging about herself. My mom and I dont even talk that much like we used to, when she talks to me she only talks to me about her friends or some hot guys. I just like dont say anything I mean what am I suppose to say to that. The first thing when she gets home...she goes on myspace, theres like pictures of her half naked, saying that shes single. Then my dad got a bonus which was A LOT of money including tax money and that would have gotten me a car and them a car but she wanted a BMW for herself. SOmetimes I want to yell at her and tell her how childish she has become, but I cant because we went through a huge fight about her going out so much. I mean she said she had no money but I found A&F boxers worth $48 hidden in her closet for this other man. I saw over $140 bucks in her wallet and no food in the refrigerator for my brother and I to eat when she goes out. My dad is traveling most of the time so he cant do much and when he does say something about her going out they get into a huge fight and my mom tells him that he is suffocating her and letting her do nothing with her friends.So childish I feel that I lost my mom and that she has become someone else, a teenager, a childish spoiled person, someone who doesnt think for her family other than herself, cheating slut friends, hot guys and the BMW. Im so sick of it, im almost ready to explode right in front of her. I cant take it anymore.
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My mom has changed for the worst...
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You mum is being really selfish and despite not knowing much about the fellow I feel sorry for your dad (and you and your brother).I believe your dad should leave your mum. How would you feel about that? I know it sounds extreme but sometimes it has to be done and can actualy make life easier for you. Do you believe your dad would easily and willingly provide for you and your brother in a one-parent home?The reason your mums doing this is because she's getting to the point where she doenst have many chances left and feels she must go for it now, that is not an excuse though for being so darn selfish.
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Wow. Your mom is a bitch. Sorry to say it like that but holy cow... thats just totally wrong. There is no way to justify what she's doing.
Instead of talking to your mom, why not sit down with your dad and bro and lay everything out and talk about a divorce or trial-seperation. You guys don't deserve that kind of abuse and if wants to throw away 3 of the best things of her life for booze and sex with strangers then fine... don't let that taint into the rest of the family.
I'm so sorry, I know family things like this can be rough. I wish you so much luck.
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I don't want to seem horrible but your mum is a complete cow.Tell her how you feel. I know you had that huge row over whatever, but it will be the best in the long run.If that doesn't work talk to your friends. They'll listen and give advice and confort you if you get upset.There is a lot of support out there for you.
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It be good for them to get a divorce cause now she wouldnt be using his money. But then its hard cause he travels all over the world for business and it be hard for him to leave my brother and I alone in countries like Thailand and the Phillipines. So I dont know, Im going to have to find a way to tell my dad how she is acting. But the problem is she keeps denying and if my brother and I go in on her then she will threaten us. Last time I told her that she wasnt being a mother she yelled at me and threaten me to never talk to my bf again, and throw my cats out, and she was making excuses of how innocent she is and my dad has done all the cheating. So its hard cause she is like running the house. I really think she needs counciling but someone outside of my family needs to tell her what she is doing wrong cause she wont listen to us.Just today my mom and dad were fighting on the phone cause he said that we should get a different car like a mercedes, then my mom was like "I dont want a mercedes, they are for old people!" shes upset and shes like "now i have nothing to look forward to now" since she wont get HER car until next year. Even though my dad is buying it ugh! im just so fed up with her and this car. THen she acts like my dad is running her life when he was just asking her what she spent with the money and shes like "why you dont trust me with your money!? I cant believe you." she still has the receipt from those boxers, the bag is empty too obviously she already gave them to the guy. Im gonna show my dad that receipt and ask him if he got $48 bucks worth of boxers. But anyways my dad cant do much cause if he wants to leave my mom shes gonna take us, and he doesnt want that. I dont know...
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wow...what can i say, that is really terrible, i feel sry for you, your bro, and your dad...
What you need to do is get proof so your mom cant deny anything. Maybe somehow show ur dad her myspace page? Have a talk with your dad about this whole thing, I'm sure he'll listen.
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But anyways my dad cant do much cause if he wants to leave my mom shes gonna take us, and he doesnt want that. I dont know...
Why do you believe your mum would get you if your parents split?
Remember what you said about no food and the like? Well that counts as child abuse. I know it sounds like a mild thing when you use terms like "child abuse" but really it counts, I know from my own parents experience. That could easily be used to ensure your dad gets to keep you and your brother.
Keep hold of every bit of incriminating evidence about your mum's bad behavior, it will come in real handy I assure you. Also maybe start a blog or a diary to record all bad stuff that happens so you can refresh your memory of wrongs done, at a later time if neccesary.
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Why do you believe your mum would get you if your parents split?Becasue her dad travels alot???
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While her mum is neglegent.
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Yeah ... not that easy huh?
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Quite so, poor thing.
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This is a tough one and I really feel for you and your siblings, and your father.Now, I'm not excusing your mother's actions at all, but maybe she's turned this way because your father doesn't have any time for her? What good is a husband if he's never at home?I would express these concerns to your father, first, or possibly write a letter to your mother if you find it too difficult to talk to her. She sounds like the type to SNAP and get angry if you did approach her with the issue. So, a letter might be the best method though I'd prefer expressing these concerns through your father.He has some issues that he needs to sort out with her and this is one of them: He's concerned that his children have no decent mother role model.How could your father be smothering her when he's always away? She's making up excuses.I truly hope that this comes to as pleasant and end as possible, especially for you and your father/brother. It's just not fair. You could try having to chat to a school counsellor and get their opinion.Good luck and best wishes Stick with A2A if things get any tougher - this place never closes!