Ok, well let me start off. I'm a 17 year old male (junior in HS) and I feel as if I'm missing out on all that I should be enjoying in high school.I've always been a shy kid, but I wouldn't consider myself anti-social or anything. I talk to people, but I'm not Mr. Popular. I usually don't know what to say in group conversations, because I'm afraid of embaressing myself. However, with my close friends, it's alot different, and I'm one of the more talkative few.Anyways, I go to an all boys school, and none of my friends from my town went with me. I have a few friends at my school, but I've never really hung out with them outside of school. Overall, I guess I would say that I don't get along with most kids in my school. Back to my friends from my town. I only have a small group that I hang out with (which is like 5 kids), and only 2 really close friends. The problem is is that most of them are starting to branch off and hang out with other kids from their public school, and I feel left in the dust. When I come home from school every Friday, I get home anywehre from 330 to 5 PM. By this time, everyone seems to be out already or working, and I frequently spend my weekends by myself watching TV. On Saturdays, It's usually just the same 2 people that I do anything with, but 1 of them (my best friend) is starting to hang out with a different group of people (emos) that I don't really get along with. So now there's alot of Saturdays where I don't do much as well. I feel as if I don't do something soon, there will be a huge problem with my social life.On top of this, I have never had a girlfriend, which I think is kinda sad because im 17. In fact, I've never really even talked to girls that much. It's hard now, especially in high school when I go to an all-boys school. It's not like I'm afraid to talk to girls or anything (I admit, I do get tight-lipped when they are around), it's just I never really have the chance to meet any. I am, however, interested in one girl. It's my cousins friend, and she is a year or two younger than me. We met on a family trip where my cousin brought me and also her friend. This girl is beautiful, and also a pretty cool person. I was definately checking her out the majority of the time there, and I think she was doing the same to me. Nothing happened though. However, I would really like to go out with her sometime, but I don't know how to approach it. I could always AIM her or ask her over myspace (I don't have her #), but it would be pretty awkward, and my cousin would probably rag on me to no end for hanging out with her best friend. She also lives a few towns away from me, but I have a car, so its all good.Anyway, enough about that situation. Overall I just feel like I'm becoming a social outcast, and i HATE it. I want to change, but I don't know how. Thanks alot for all the responses.
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I think I'm a loser, and need help.
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you have to force yourself to talk to new people. Here is what I do, at a party or something I make it a goal to meet new people from every corner of the room. It makes for a good confidence builder and a way to meet new people! and don't worry about the girlfriend issue I've heard here that if you wait someone will come. Good luck to you!
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Bah, thats the problem. I don't even go to parties, or know when some are going on.
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or just go out to places where you know people will be like the movies or something.
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Oh poor you. It's easy for people who are more outgoing than you to give advice, but this is what I'd do:Make arrangments weeks in advance to hang out with friends alone if you have to.Join a club of some kind (maybe go with one of your close friends) and make more pals there.