I have a friend that I've been knowing for a little over 6 months and I've acquired feelings for her. I've confronted her about my feelings toward her and she stated that she is not particularly ready for a relationship. Well...this was about 3+ months ago whenever we had the discussion. I was talking with her tonight and we were talking casually about random things and she came out and randomly stated that she find me to be very special to her...not in those exact words. I thought she was joking around so I kind of laugh for we always joke around sometimes like that, but she said she was serious. I stated that she is very special to me to and I care for her dearly. From there we started to talk about other random stuff.I would have like to endeavor further into what she said because it was such a spontaneous thing to say, but I never did say anything else about it. Do you think she is trying to say that maybe she is looking to have a relationship with me or do you think that was kind of thing to say from a friend to a friend...nothing more nothing less.
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How would you take this...
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I think it's too early to tell. See if you can get more information from her without making it obvious.
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Do you mind giving me an example of how I can go about in doing this. I was never a good detective on these things and I'm really trying to play my cards right and like you said...not be so obvious.
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Unfortunately that's the limit of my expertise. I'm crap talking to girls unless its my girlfriend. Sorry
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lol...It's quite alright. Thanks for the response that you did give me. I believe I'll just play it cool and see what happens. She has been acting kind of different toward me I've noticed. For instance, everytime I catch her talking to a guy she will always tell me whom he is and that he's just a friend and all. She will tell me as if I asked her whom he was and I give her no hints as if I want to know. The way we are it almost seem as if we are already in a relationship...lol. I don't know
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Cenfath to the rescue! Just kidding. Don't read into anything at all. It's not a good thing. Because while you're thinking it's as if you're already in a relationship with her she could be thinking that she doesn't want you to worry about her so she tells you who he is and etc. etc. My honest is advice is to just be honest with her. She said you're special to her but you want to know what she meant. Next time you see her...just ask her what she meant.
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Okay, I'm going to be very blunt here.You're either screwed or on easy street. It depends on what she means by special. If she means that you're special to her, as in your like a big brother, then you're just plain screwed on the possibility of having a relationship. If she means you're special to her, as in romantically, then things should get really easy for you and you'll probably find yourself in a relationship soon.Special romantically or a big brother explains why she tells you who she's talking to and all the other "weird" things she's been doing. You're main problem is finding out which special you are.
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I suggest you look into her eyes while you talk to her and compare it with what you see in other peoples eyes.That is the method I use and it is rather good once you get good at it, people can say and act how it suits them but they cannot control their eyes.You must however be careful not to misjudge, she will not always look you in a special way, concetrate on her eyes either when you are alone with her or when you are having a "special moment".