I really didn't know where to post this, so I figured I'd just place it in the community forum...I went to a party (well not really a party, more like a small get together with a few friends) and I had a few drinks... okay, I admit it, was way more than a few... and I start joking around with a friend about sex and... well I ended up losing my virginity to a really good guy friend of mine. That was friday night (tech. early saturday morning, but whos being tech. lol) and I haven't seen/heard from him since. I'm terrified that that one moment has screwed up our friendship and I really don't want it to. It was something that was done in the heat of the moment (yes, we used protection) and I don't want something like that to come between us. Do you think it will?
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Will it be ruined?
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Its probably gonna be REALLY Awkward
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That's something I'm really afraid of. It was something that just happened, it wasn't planned or anything, and although I can honestly say I don't regret it, I don't want it to come between our friendship. Gah, I don't even know how I'm going to act when I see him (which is bound to happen seeing as we both live on the same street and he comes into my work all the time). It's not something I want to avoid... I just want us to both take the mature route when we do finally run into/talk to each other.
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Definatly awkward! But if you guys are close friends, and he is a friend worth having; You two will work it out. Best of luck to you hon!
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Just wondering, what happened afterwards? Did you talk at all? Did you both want it to be just a one off thing? There are tonnes of factors in a situation like this. I think they key is getting across to him what it meant to you and just clarify where you guys are at.Good luck .
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hey babe sorry i was not on earlier at class. Let me tell you it will be awkward but awkward is okay as long as you do not leave it at that. Just give him a call and go hang out as friends like you used to. Talk about it and tell him you want to be friends and it shall work itself out, but it may be an awkward subject for awhile.
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\*sniff sniff\* my little brat has become a woman!
Still haven't talked to him? He probably feels a little weird about it too. Give it a bit of time, don't press the issue. I wouldn't be surprised if he has some of the same concerns as you. But also, don't forget, being a male he's also thinking "do I get to do that again?". -
In reply to: Just wondering, what happened afterwards? Did you talk at all? Did you both want it to be just a one off thing? Hmm... what happened afterwards? We scrambled around looking for our cloths (which left little room for talking other than saying 'Where is my pants?') and then he left. The only thing he managed to say was 'Was it good?' and then he said bye and I haven't seen/heard from him since. Is it a one time thing? Probably because I couldn't have that type of relationship with out wanting it to become something more... that's just the type of person I am. In reply to: sniff sniff my little brat has become a woman! I sure did old man lol But maybe it'll be a helluva lot better the next time =)
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You poor girl.. what a way to lose it! He definetly didn't even act like he cared. Hes probably scared shitless right now!
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Well I saw him today. For the past few days I had been running hundreds of horrible senarios(ms?) in my head (yeah, I'm a worry wort) and wondering if it was going to be awkward... to my complete surprise it wasn't We chit chatted a bit like usual and there really wasn't any awkwardness which I'm so relieved about! I'm going to see if I can get him to take me somewhere tomorrow and maybe we can talk about it....
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Your on the right track, maybe he just needed to sort things out. It was probably awkward for him too. You will soon know if it was real.
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ya i told you. Just talk and it will be fine.