Alright, I have a boyfriend and I love him to death but hes a bit up tight about me even talking to another guy and one of my best friends is a guy and he has always has a crush on me and I him but I never really felt all together in love with him, and if I wasnt with my boyfriend he would kill himslef because if he can even have me and his life is a living hell he doesnt want to live, and since I have 'changed' my friend whome had a crush on me is telling me all about how he felt about me but ive changed and he doesnt like it and 'wants to go away for a while' and i dont know what to do... I cant save them both at once...
Anyones thoughts would be good...
So pritty much, if you where in my shoes what would you do or if you have some advice that would help me alot. thanks
No, you can't give them both what they want, and if you tried neither would be happy. It's kindest to tell the guy who has a crush on you, sorry, but he has to find someone else. He's unlikely to kill himself. If he does go away for a while on a holiday somewhere it would probably be good for him.
Generally if someone tells you they are or will kill themselves, they won't. Anyone who is really telling other people they want to die are pleading for attention, nothing more.
Now thats a generalization, but still.
as for your friend, you need to let him down gently and tell him that you are involved, as he knows and that it can't work out
This is a poem my friend whome has that crush on me sent me yesterday...
Sadness and sorrow
Another life have I scared
Lessons that are learned
Hearts that are broken
We danced among the stars
Hearts entwined and spirits soared
We shared our deepest dreams
We cared with all our heart
Promises were made
Memories were shared
A kindred spirit we had found
A soul whose hand we can hold
In our separation, our hearts grew close
We missed each other dearly
We looked forward to our reunion
But outside influences crashed
our hopes onto the rocks
Before we knew what happened
we laid barren and battered upon the shore
We did not foresee the pain of the storm
If we could we may have steered around our agony
But as it stands now, the storm is still raging
When it will end, how it will end
is something we don't know
I look over to where you are
Brushing your storm tossed hair aside
I look into your cherished eyes
We don't know what the future holds
or whether we'll make it out alive
So before anything else bad happens
I tell you I love you
and with my final breath
I say goodbye
It makes me cry even reading it.. it might not be the best poetic poem but i still love it and what it says...
Ive just lost both of them...I cant take much more of this..
I'm so sorry, that's terrible. :frowning: