My girlfriend has been depressed for 4 years now. She recently admitted to cheating on me, making out. I forgave her and she was really sad. I live 7 hours away at school, but we're going strong. we Love eachother so much and ARE making this work. But shes been so depressed lately because people seem to be turining on her. She pretty much only has one good friend now (that she hangs out with OUTSIDE of school) and people keep talking about rumors of her cheating on me and what not, hateing on her (probably less severe then she thinks due to the depression). I guess ppl at her HS still know who i am or whatever.I was with her the other night, she admitted everything, and like i said, i forgave her. she cryed then went to the bathroom for a little bit. I Found out that she took 11 advil cold and sinus pills and she seemed fine in the morning, but now she says she has bad stomache aches and whatnot. Shes on her period now but im still worried. She gets these suicidal thoughts and it scares me. I tryed to make her throw the pills up by sticking my finger down her throat. NOT in an abusive way, only because she refused to help me help her. I was scared!Her dad passed away recently in november or so. so thats also taking its toll on her. Im scared she might do something stupid but she said shes afraid of death so i really dont know what to do or think.....I want to tell her mom, but shes not the best mom. shes not necessarly mean, but shes...different, i really cant explain it.My G/f doesnt believe she can be fixed at all no matter what i say. I Try to give her hope and that ill be by her no matter what, that ill help her get through this and that its only the depression talking and taking over, not the girl i know.I just dont know what to do. I love this girl with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life with her, and im scared i might lose her.... jhelp!
I need to roll this one around a bit, but it sounds like you are doing all the right things...especially considering the circumstances.Are there any mental health advocates near you so you can seek professional advice?
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel
MM,that sounds realy horrible for you, You really love her??If u do you should show her that by tlking to her and saying that she should try to help herself for you. Tell a doctor tell some1 you noe and trust that u noe can help.Sorry not much i can say as im not very profeeional at this.
As red tears fell from her wrists,
and clear tears from her eyes,
She had no reason to live,
no cause for her to survive.
Hi Cali.I think something very important for you to understand is that it is not your job to save her. Support and care for her, yes. But you are not responsible for her life.If she is suicidal, you definitely need to tell an adult. It may not be her mother. What about your parents? You need help with this. Don't go it alone.You should also really try to get her to see a counselor. Maybe you can offer to go with her if that will motivate her.Hang in there. You're a good friend.
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