*My Girlfriend doesn't invite me ANYWHERE*

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so we've been goin out for about 8 months now, and basically she doesn't include me in her social life. Im in college (staying local and all my friends are away) and she's in highschool, we both are from the same highschool so i know all her friends and vice versa. It's either she wants to hang out w/ just me or just her friends. never both and i find it so annoying because i always allow her to hang w/ me and my friends. If shes home and im at a party, ill tell her to stop by, but if it was me at home, she will not tell me to come by, even if i ask she just tells me to stay home and we'll hang out tomorrow. she calls it a "girls nite" but i dont consider it a girls nite when there are other guys over there. She and her friends threw 2 surprise parties at someones house and she never invited me, when i asked if i can come over to celebrate she said "no, just stay home" I had big discussion w/ her over this and i was contemplating on taking a break, but she promised she'll try to change...well tonite was her friends bday and they celebrated at some1s house and she didnt invite me...im starting to think shes cheating on me? or doing it on purpose to get rid of me? what do u think?

It could be that she doesn't want to be seen like she is showing you off. A lot of her friends are probably single and she knows that when she is with you she will be focusing on you a lot and she doesn't want her friends to think that she is ignoring them, or make them feel bad by seeing the two of you going at it every now and then.

Im sorry but you have to talk to this girl and ask her why she does this. I have a boyfriend and if im going out anywhere i ask him every time whether he would like to come with me. I dont think shes thinking about how you might feel by her not asking you. Its like she doesnt seem to take you and your feelings into consideration at all. In my opinion i would talk to her again and explain how its making you feel and if she keeps doing it then if i was you i would think about where this relationship is going and whether you can sort things out. Hope it works out.....x

to bobalicious- I could see that being a possibility but the only thing is, is that she is not public affectionate at all. If do i have the chance to go out w/ her friends which is seldom, Im lucky to get my hand held or a kiss on the cheek.i'll give u guys an update soon.

I used to not take my bf with me anywhere for fear that he would get jumped by the hypocritical racists on my block but I took a risk. Ask her why and find out. Take her places and let her know you want to.

I think she is being incredibly rude. I say if she does it one more time take a break and she'll realize how much spending time with you is really worth it

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::Update:: so i had a long discussion with her today telling her how inconsiderate it is of what shes doing. She realized that she was wrong and she doesn't know why she does it and says that i dont deserve that. She said that she'll try to change but down the road she said she'll prb just do it again and doesn't know why. so i told her we'll see how it goes.

my opinion is- is that shes subconciously doing it so i can break up w/ her and she can be single. She even admitted that a small part of her wants to be single not because she wants to hook up w/ one, just because its her senior year and just wants to live it up w/ her friends. Idk...but she said that she needs me to be a part of her life, even as a friend but moreso a boyfriend.

I would toataly dump her if I were you date someone else, she'll come running back

It's very good to see you back, DC03.

ok guys check this one out! so the nite after her "girls night" which really was a party for her friend with other guys invited ofcourse...shes with one of her girlfriends the whole nite and im with my friends...so i get a call at 1am saying that shes gonna be watching a movie at her friends house and she'll call me when she gets home but she might just sleep over. Im thinking to myself, isnt it a lil late to watch a movie at 1am...sounds alil shady, usually when shes at my house she has to be home at 1:30 am. So the convo was like me:"ok, can i talk to stacy"(her friend) Her:"no" me: "why not?Her: cause its rediculous why dont u trust meme: well let me just talk to her (no) Then call me from her house phone (no) Call me from her cell phone (no) please call me from her phoneher: If i do, do u have to talk to her personally? (no, i just want you to call me from her phone)-she calls me, the number comes up private which it never does-me: ok, now lemme talk to stacy (no, ur getting psycho)so basically it was back and forth, im thinking if she hadnt lied to me about the other nite and i demanded to talk to her friend, then i would be psycho. but the fact that she did, wouldnt u think if u were her, even if u really were at ur friends house, u would just do it to redeem urself from lying and gainin back my trust? so now we're on a break...what do i do from here?

honey, honestly i would stay on a break. She sounds like she is being selfish and hurtful for no reason, you can do better.

In reply to: so now we're on a break...what do i do from here? dump her!

I'm sorry, but this chick is totally cheating on you. She probably keeps you around because you are a 'college man' and in some sick high school way...that seems cool.

Sorry for sounding so harsh, but you do not deserve to be treated this way.

yeah dude dump her. you deserve better than some immature high school girl anyway. who says "you're being psycho"? wow.

thanks for everything guys, I told her we should end it for now...and in a way, i feel like i can breathe easier.

good .. Thats a good sign that you're relieved

That's quite rare to say the least...Of all the relationships I have ever had I should let you know that only 3 times my girlfriend (different relationships) ditched me in order to be with her friend.It has not been one time that I would go out and not invite my girlfriend.Perhaps I am just stupid but I really want to be with her all the time.Not inviting you once when she is with friends and making up excuses is just her being disrespectful and not caring.Now about her ditching you many times in favour of her friends I must say only 3 girls did so to me and all 3 of them had their reasons as they claimed.I only exploded once and got very angry.Both other times I simply told her how I felt and even though I asked to go with her she refused making up excuses.Let me tell you that you have no reason to and actually shouldn't pick up a fight for such a reason.From experience these 3 relationships were doomed to fail and did not last long after the first year. All this coming from a guy who had 7 relationships in total and getting married now.Hopefully you talk it with her and she understands how badly she acted. Hopefully she shall understand what you mean to her and how disrespecrful she has been.However don't keep your hopes up.Such girls do not really care about you and usually such relationships end quickly.