Worried and dont know what to do. help needed

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Ok, im a 36 year old single mom. I have a 15 year old son who I feel, or felt was normal for his age. I got him a computer for his birthday. He uses it a lot in his room. He was away recently and I was suspicious about what he was doing on it. I got on it and looked through his "my documents" folder and was unpleasently greated. He had a very large file or porn. I know thats suppose to be normal and stuff for his age, but it still disturbed me and im going to have a talk with him. But what I was most shocked by was the conversations he had saved from AIM. He was talking with older guys and was impersonating as little girls, using strange aliases. They are very strange and disturbing. here is one i think exemplifies the behavior at great detail. I really don't know what to do, or even how to confront this with him. it seems really odd.

Foxy Guy 00: hey asl?
xxdani1992: hi 14 f md
xxdani1992: you?
Foxy Guy 00: 31/m
xxdani1992: where from? the l means location
Foxy Guy 00: az
xxdani1992: cool
Foxy Guy 00: any pics?
xxdani1992: i dont know. im not on my normal computer. at my grandparents il check
Foxy Guy 00: you can tell me what you look like
xxdani1992: i found a pic. my grandmother has some
Foxy Guy 00: ok
xxdani1992 wants to directly connect.
Foxy Guy 00 is now directly connected.
Foxy Guy 00:
xxdani1992:
Foxy Guy 00: height, weight, bust size
xxdani1992: 4'9 98lb 32b
Foxy Guy 00: a little thing
xxdani1992: im only 14.. 32b is pretty big for 14 ya know
Foxy Guy 00: you horny at all?
xxdani1992: ya
Foxy Guy 00: do you phone sex?
xxdani1992: no. my parents check my phone bill for odd numbers
xxdani1992: sorry id breath into the mic if i could
Foxy Guy 00: so what do you do?
xxdani1992: go to school.
Foxy Guy 00: lol, not like that- cyber and stuff
xxdani1992: o
xxdani1992: roleplay
Foxy Guy 00: nothin else?
xxdani1992: thats my fav
Foxy Guy 00: gotcha... you good on giving details?
xxdani1992: ya
Foxy Guy 00: give me an example... like what your wearing
xxdani1992: i have on a green tank top 1 size too small, pressing tight against my growing breasts. My bra is discarded and forgotten on the floor next to me. my jean skirt is lifted up so my pink thong is exposed as my legs are spread wide apart
xxdani1992: what about you?
Foxy Guy 00: hair is a bit shaggy from a day at school, shirt has been taken off to show my white tank top showing the works of my hours in the gym... kirra board shorts of white and blues are on, but hopefully not for long due to an ever growing and throbbing feeling inside my shorts
xxdani1992: o ok. i idnt know we were describing sexual feeling and hair in "what we are wearing" mine woulda been better if i knoew sorry
Foxy Guy 00: its alright, i was just testign your details
xxdani1992: did i pass?
Foxy Guy 00: pretty good if i do say so myself... and me?
xxdani1992: ja
Foxy Guy 00: what roles do you like
xxdani1992: fantasy role playing.
xxdani1992: you?
Foxy Guy 00: anything where the girl has to do some skantily clad stuff... (strippers, models, etc)
xxdani1992: what about pirates? i can be the slave girl you can be the captian
Foxy Guy 00: ehhh.... not so much into the whole 'could never happen in the real world thing'
xxdani1992: o. but priates are real not like a said we were dinosaurs
Foxy Guy 00: lol... but pirates are like 15th century real
xxdani1992: no pirates are still around. they hop on peoples boats and take their stuff
xxdani1992: plus the classic pirates were around till the 19th century. they are so kinky
Foxy Guy 00: im just saying- youre probably thinking the whole eye patch and parrot on the shoulder type pirates
xxdani1992: ya. but no parrot i hate birds
xxdani1992: but its what i want. doesnt fantasy turn you on?
Foxy Guy 00: ....not really
xxdani1992: so you come up with an alteritive
Foxy Guy 00: well if it has to be something i like id have to go with me as a photographer and you as a lingerie or bikini model
xxdani1992: how bout we are pirates that discovered a camera?
Foxy Guy 00: whats up with you and pirates...
xxdani1992: they are kinky. ever seen pirates of the carribean
xxdani1992: johnny depp is so hot
Foxy Guy 00: yup i was right you got the jack sparrow hotness thing going on
xxdani1992: ya
xxdani1992: so can we? you can be a sexy captain
Foxy Guy 00: sorry... i dont get off to being a pirate...
xxdani1992: ok well what if youre just wearing a pirate uniform, cus we are doing a pirate photo shoot, and we role play the pirate photo shoot?
Foxy Guy 00: i can be a photographer shooting you in a pirate outfit...
xxdani1992: you in 1 too?
Foxy Guy 00: no...
xxdani1992: what about steel armor of a conquistador?
xxdani1992: i dont think they liked pirates either. so that will suit you
Foxy Guy 00: sorry, but the whole being something else thing doesnt work for me
xxdani1992: what the hell. thats what role playing is. otherwise it wouldbe called descriptive masturbation
Foxy Guy 00: well id like to be something i could actually be... like a photographer or an athlete or a lawyer or a doctor...
xxdani1992: what about an underground gladiator in the sewers of newyork city?
Foxy Guy 00: now thats reaching
Foxy Guy 00: lol
xxdani1992: k so youll do it?
xxdani1992: il be the pirate stereotype groupie
Foxy Guy 00: wow... sorry but youre not going to get me to cross over
xxdani1992: ok ok how bout a band member
Foxy Guy 00: and you a groupie?
xxdani1992: a wanna be groupie
xxdani1992: and i need to try out
Foxy Guy 00: never knew you had to try out to be a groupie... is that really true??? lol
xxdani1992: probably. if you were a rock star would you want a bunch of untalented ugly bitches sucking your dick?
Foxy Guy 00: oh so its a traveling hootchie mama posistion youre trying out for...
xxdani1992: yaya
Foxy Guy 00: hmmm... this is getting better
Foxy Guy 00: lol
xxdani1992: ya
xxdani1992: you are in the armor wearing, death metal band, Gnarkill
xxdani1992: you wear black pauldrons with spikes, black greaves a big belt and no shirt
Foxy Guy 00: sorry, youre losing me
xxdani1992: ok well you wear big spikey shoulder pad things. and big armored pants.
xxdani1992: and weild a wicked axe (guitar)
Foxy Guy 00: not working...
xxdani1992: you dont need to work. you are done with the show
xxdani1992: i do all the work im the ******* groupie
Foxy Guy 00: yeah but do i still have all this **** on?
xxdani1992: yeah but not after i take it off same as if you were a pirate, you wouldnt have pirate **** on when i take it off..
xxdani1992: thats why im wondering why you are being so paranoid, it all boils down to hot sex but the outfits turn me on as i take them off
Foxy Guy 00: um.... alright i guess we can do the pirate thing
xxdani1992: o ok,not the groupie thing? k cool! finally you want hot pirate role play
Foxy Guy 00: you start... i havent done a fantasy one before
xxdani1992: ok. we are on a ship, obviously. im the slave you captured from the last island you looted. im wearing tattered rags, a black bandana and a belt
xxdani1992: you have me tied in shackles next to you at the flag staff
Foxy Guy 00: i just really cant get into this. lol, i have no idea why... but i just cant
xxdani1992: arr, cap'n wh're we he'd'n t' ? me neth'r regi'ns arr' ict'n wit' a fi'ry hung'r
Foxy Guy 00: ...i cant understand a single word you just said... somethin about where we going
xxdani1992: (stay in character! i thought you said you were good at roleplaying)
xxdani1992: avast! cap'n, i see lan' on ye starbo'rd side!
Foxy Guy 00: ...sorry, i dont do this type of roleplay
xxdani1992: ah' but me neth'r regi'ns ne'd attenti'n fr'm ye' cap'n
Foxy Guy 00: sorry... this aint working for me
xxdani1992: ah' all b't a we' bit shy' i se'
Foxy Guy 00: ...
xxdani1992: let me unbuck'l ye' belt 'n let down ye' britches
Foxy Guy 00: sure
xxdani1992: the' shackl' b' a we' bit t'te cap'n. coul' ye' use the' key 'n loos'n m' cap'n?
Foxy Guy 00: ...take it
xxdani1992: ah' such a kind cap'n
xxdani1992: * i unshackle myself and stand up*
xxdani1992: my long hair flows down as i stand and my tattered rags reveal a breast
Foxy Guy 00: get on your knees and suck my big dick... and lose the accent
xxdani1992: tis' n't a acc'nt cap'n. tis' th' wa' me speeks
xxdani1992: * i get on my knees...*
Foxy Guy 00: if youre going to keep talking like that, im not going to get into this
xxdani1992: (what the hell! I give you th emost powerful position possible in this role play, im a loely slave that just want to earn freedom through oral sex and all you can do is complain?! im not complaining im staying in character. a poor slave wouldnt have the best language skills, im not an aristocrat)
xxdani1992: i unbuckle your gold buckle on your worn black leather belt
xxdani1992: i unfascen your greaves and throw them over board...
xxdani1992: then i unbutton your pants
xxdani1992: i slide them down your long hairy legs
xxdani1992: ah' cap'n your britch's be filthy. don't ye' chang' ye britch's?
Foxy Guy 00: im a ******* pirate... the laundry machine hasnt been invented yet
xxdani1992: m' spot man's juice al' ov'r ye' britch's
xxdani1992: ahh' but me like ye' dirty britch's
xxdani1992: i grap your britches around your waiste...
xxdani1992: and slide them down your legs to about knee level
xxdani1992: (come on this is role play you need to do something to, i dont wanan talk to my self)
xxdani1992: (guide me into sucking the hard flag pole)
Foxy Guy 00: yeah but this is crap to me
xxdani1992: na' cap'n ye' britch's 's crap to' ye'
Foxy Guy 00: the whole talking thing is buggin the **** out of me
xxdani1992: o you dont want me to?
xxdani1992: sorry
xxdani1992: i thought you liked it
Foxy Guy 00: talking in that stupid accent...
Foxy Guy 00: uh no
xxdani1992: k
xxdani1992: well i wont then
xxdani1992: i mime the motions of wanking a hard cock look up at you and smile to see if you approve
Foxy Guy 00: ...jesus christ... its like talking to a brick wall
xxdani1992: i back away on my knees, and give an expression of question i am clearly confused by your mood swing
Foxy Guy 00: ...talk in a normal voice... i dont want no accent or slang or mime *
xxdani1992: o sorry. you were misleading
Foxy Guy 00: ...
xxdani1992: so you want your cock sucked?
xxdani1992: baby you got to talk to me when im sucking you
Foxy Guy 00: if you talk like that i will
xxdani1992: k
xxdani1992: im gonna type a really big scene
xxdani1992: so dont intertupt
xxdani1992: lots of detail
Foxy Guy 00: k
xxdani1992: ah' cap'n ye ha' me' wond'r'n. was' 'fraid ye' may a' be'n a we' b't fa'ry. i pull down your dirty britches and lick the back end of them. you smile a' so' cap'n lik' 'is sea sal'd toss'd 'bout. you nod, motioning that you do i wander behind you i put my tongue inside your secreating ass you smile more cap'n ye' lik' t'is eh'? you say yes i unbuckel my torn belt and pull off my tattered rags i reveal my 12 inch cock cap'n wan' b' an'ly so'miz'd? you say yes i put my hard man cock inside of your tiny wet ass and pound you you are distracted from the prostate massage and i take your gun cap'n, 'hos 'n chrg' now eh'? i pull your head down and you suck me off ah' fe'l gre't cap'n. t' bad 't be th' last fr'm ye' i aim the .45cal Heckler & Koch USP Tactical(universal self-loading pistal) with under-light sidescope and lasor site at your forhead and pull the trigger i continue to analy sodemise you ah' tis' a gre't cap'n
Foxy Guy 00: yeah...ok...
Foxy Guy 00: you are one messed up person
xxdani1992: tis' but a roleplay cap'n
xxdani1992: ye' lik' 't?
xxdani1992: di' me mak' ye' e'actulat'?
Foxy Guy 00: **** no
xxdani1992: me di', twic'
Foxy Guy 00: im not even touching myself
xxdani1992: me h'rd co'k 's 'n me 'and rit' now
Foxy Guy 00: you are one twisted
xxdani1992: ah' cap'n do't get ye' nick'rs in a twis'
Foxy Guy 00: w/e... youre one sick puppy
xxdani1992: puppy? na
xxdani1992: im a 32 year old balding man no puppy
Foxy Guy 00: again... sick
xxdani1992: ah' but cap'n ye' lik' it?
Foxy Guy 00: ...
xxdani1992: (stop breaking character and metagaming!)
Foxy Guy 00: you are by far the weirdest person ive met on AIM
xxdani1992: ah' me' mus' sa' t'at 's dou'tfu'
xxdani1992: o **** mom made hamburger helper! damn i wanna stay and chat with you but shes getting restless
Foxy Guy 00: .... weird
Foxy Guy 00 signed off at 7:03:26 PM.

Lol. I wouldn't worry about that at all. Well not much. Your son is just pulling those cyber perves' chains. There is a website which you can submit those to, quite amusing actually.

I wouldn't be worried about your son hooking up with older guys, I think it's just a bit of a laugh for him. But to be sure have a talk to him, but try to be open.

so you dont think hes getting sexual enjoyment out of this? i do see how it could be funny for him he has a good sense of humor and i do see how he is kind of being a fool in this. but i dont know, some fetishes are pretty in debth and stuff and even weird stuff other would never think possible to be enjoyable (like being 31 and tyring to hook up with a 14 year old) people get enjoyment out of.

It seems too much of a joke to me to be a fetish. Ask him to be sure. But I think he's probably doing it to post it on some website.

ok well i wasnt aware that people this kind of stuff as jokes . It is common among teens?

he wont be back for another 2 days. If anyone sees this on one of these websites youre speaking of then it will probably washaway my fears, so if you see this somewhere on one of these prank sites or whatever they are, let me know please. thanks

**Hi hon, welcome to the forum.

Firstly as a mother myself, this is something that i know i will have to deal with at some point. I didn't know whether to laugh or what when i read the chat log - its just so wierd. He is obviously just going out there to mess with people, from that chat log, i don't think that its a sexual thing - it was almost like he was seeing how far he could push the guy before he stopped talking to him. On the others is he more sexual, as in not joking around, or is this the way he is a lot - just out to get a reaction from someone?

As for the porn on the PC, well i would imagine a lot of boys his age, with internet access has the same kinda thing - which is worrying for me as the porn they have access to through the internet is far more graphic and explicit and hardcore AND accessable, than a teen would typically be able to get his or her hands on in mags etc.......

Your son is growing up and will have urges to see and experience different things, and my worry is that though we worry about our children, should we stand back and allow them to do stuff we know is dodgy.

Im not sure you should confront him just yet. The porn in the my documents folder, unless its weird stuff, could be just put down to 15 year old behavior, and i would keep an eye on the chat logs. They are weird, but not dangerous, as in he isn't meeting anyone on there etc. If they become more dangerous in their content etc then yes, you will have to tackle him, but maybe at the moment just monitor the situation (even tho that will feel like spying on him :frowning: ) and only tackle him about it IF it seems to be becoming a problem.
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Alright. Yes much of the conversations were very similar to that. And yeah I wasn't so much worried about the porn. I know that is pretty normal for his age, and no, from what i saw it wasn't "weird" porn. Seemed pretty typical. One thing I did forget to mention was the name of the chats. Most he had were just logs of him talking to his friends, which I don't really want to read, it would feel wrong. But the reason i looked at some of these was their names. This one was entitled "FOXXY BAITING" which seemed a little odd and caught my attention. I see where the "FOXXY" came from, its the guy's user name. But... Is "baiting" a slang term for masturbation? Thats kind of what got me wondering about the whole thing to begin with. And yes I'm going to keep an eye on the names of his chat logs, and check all the strangely named one just to be safe. Thanks for your help, This site seems pretty useful to be honest, a nice resource. I was told of it when asking a friend for advise on the at hand topic.

No "baiting" isn't slang for masterbation, at least i don't think so LOL
It take FOXY baiting, as just what he was doing, winding the guy up - getting a reaction, take the piss out of the guy - I don't think its anything sexual at all.

I am SO dreading it when my kids reach the dreaded teen years scared </font color>